Wedding Planners Reveal 4 Major Signs A Marriage Won't Last

When you're a woman or man in love, the question you get asked most often is "When did you know?" — as in, when did you know this was it? When you're a wedding planner, the question you're constantly asked is the same — but the meaning's a whole lot different. Here's the exact moment five wedding planners knew their clients wouldn't be celebrating too many anniversaries.

The couple gets hammered at the wedding.

Kayla McCaul, an Oregon-based planner, warned Huffington Post of brides and grooms who hit the alcohol a little to hard on their big day: "Pacing yourself on your wedding is key, but if you find yourself or your partner throwing back the cocktails before the ceremony begins, you may want to ask yourself, what is happening here?"

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One partner embarrasses the other.

"The guest count was roughly 100, but this cake could've easily served close to 300. Very elaborate and shipped in from New York from some high-end bakery. There was Chinese lettering/design on the cake, […] and it was apparent the groom had no idea what cake they were getting. [The bride] points out three of the symbols on the cake, which were the largest. She said that they meant 'Obey, Listen, and (I think) Service/Loyalty.' She said that she expected these three traits from her husband at all times. And not in a joking way. Room was silent the whole time the cake was being served." – Reddit user MexicanAlemundo

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They don't take their spouse's needs or wants into account.

"I once worked with one couple where the bride was a vegetarian. But the groom refused to order any vegetarian entrees because there were only a handful of guests who would eat them," Emily Reno, planner at Weddings & Events by Emily, told Huffington Post. If you can't make your bride happy on your big day, it doesn't bode well for the rest of your marriage.

An ex is still hanging around.

"The worst I've personally witnessed had a groom's baby mama (and ex-fiancé) come to the reception uninvited. She grabbed the wedding cake, chucked it at the newlyweds, and began screaming how he was a deadbeat dad while she grabbed table wine bottles that she smashed on the ground." – Reddit user AnaphylacticHippo