10 Ways He Actually Wants You to Ask Him Out

I've been asked by a lot of women (OK, five women) what the best way to ask a guy out is. And the truth is: Don't overthink it. Guys don't get asked out by women nearly as often as the opposite, so you can do just about anything and still be successful. It's like a first grade T-ball game: Everyone wins, and honestly, we're just thrilled by the effort. Whether he's someone you've been trying to get with for a while, or some guy at Arby's that just caught your eye, asking him out is crazy simple.

1. ​Use a terrible pick-up line. ​You know all those awful pick-up lines you've had used on you pretty much constantly? Well, he doesn't. Since society still encourages men to be the askers in most situations, everything is still so new to him. You could probably pick a trite, cheesy pick-up line and it would ​still work on him​. Seriously. You're on easy mode here.

2. Hand him your phone number. That's it. You're basically done. It's all on him now. 

​3. Just be like, "Yo, do you want to go out?" Straight and to the point. He'll either say "yes" or "no," or maybe spend a minute stammering because he's so taken aback.

4. Get tickets to a movie or band you know he wants to see, and be like, "Yo, do you want to go?" ​This is a little tricky, because he might not realize it's a date, so make sure you explicitly tell him, "This is a date," at some point. The "one person doesn't realize they're on a date" scenario is the plot of a ton of sitcom episodes for good reason. 

5. Have one of your friends go over and tell him you think he's cute. YOU ARE AN ADORABLE COWARD. But also this will still work, even though it's a move third-graders use.

6. Slide him a note that says, "Do you like me? (circle one) YES NO MAYBE." Also a tactic used by elementary schoolers, but it's pretty funny. Again, if you haven't noticed yet, you can do pretty much anything shy of punching him in the dick and screaming, "LAY WITH ME" and it'll work. Even that one ​might​ work if he's into you.

7. ​Buy him a drink. ​This is a universal sign for "I want to slam tequila shots and make out with you." He'll get the hint.

​8. Send him a long and sappy text message about how you've always had feelings for him. ​It's a bit of a gamble, sure, but at least you can avoid having to stand there awkwardly while he formulates a response like in real life.

​9. Just start dancing with him. ​Grab his arm and pull him onto the dance floor. After a few minutes of sexy dance moves, he'll have the confidence to hit on you. It's sort of passive-aggressive, but it works. Just keep in mind that this only works when you see a cute guy in a club, and not say, a supermarket. Grinding in the produce aisle probably violates a health code or two.

10. ​Just go up to him and say, "Hi." ​There are effectively two reasons a stranger would come up and just start talking to you: Either they want to steal your wallet, or they want to fuck you. Just initiating conversation is enough to let him know you're interested in him (unless he's clueless).

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