12 Important Blow Job Questions Answered By 3 Men

Whether you want to admit it or not, you probably have some pretty ~pressing~ questions about blow jobs floating around in the back of your mind. In a perfect world, you could just ask a penis-toting partner these questions with no fear or judgment. But this isn't a perfect world, is it? Three brave twentysomething men got really honest and answered all the most important blow job questions you've always been just a little too nervous to ask. Enjoy!

Do you expect a partner to make ~pleasure sounds~ while giving a blow job?

Man A: Nothing is expected but they sure are great.

Man B: No. Interaction is nice though! Looking at me, talking to me, etc. On the subject of enthusiasm: I don't expect you to enjoy sucking a dick, necessarily, but when I give oral, the pleasure I get is all from the reaction. So yeah!

Man C: No, I don't expect it because I don't think it's necessarily pleasurable for them and I don't want them to fake anything.

What's the most comfortable blow job position?

Man A: What's more important is that your partner is comfortable, but as far as guys go, probably lying down.

Man B: Anything!

Man C: Side plank. Just kidding — lying down because least effort and maximum comfort.

Does a blow job feel better than penetrative sex?

Man A: I think that's comparing apples and oranges. Both have their time and place, and feel great.

Man B: It depends on the partner but it can feel pretty fucking great.

Man C: Sometimes but it depends on a lot of things, like how tired I am, how good they are at sucking dick, and skill levels.

How do blow jobs and penetrative sex feel different, really?

Man A: A blow job offers different sensations with the mouth and hands working in tandem. A blow job tends to feel looser than penetrative sex, but the pressure on the tip that comes from deep-throating is totally different than sex.

Man B: I think a lot of it is about the act. Penises are pretty simple, I think, so most things feel pretty good by default. But it's nice when your partner wants to just make you feel nice for a minute.

Man C: I guess one big difference is that a BJ can feel more relaxing because I don't have to do as much.

If you like a partner paying attention to your balls, what do you want them to do with your balls?

Man A: Taking time to suck, lick, or fondle the balls while continuing to stroke the shaft.

Man B: Personally, I don't care for lots of fondling. A little pressure feels very nice though. Also I get, like … nothing out of someone sucking on them. Though the effort is appreciated.

Man C: I guess there's, like, only two possible combinations ... I like my partner to suck on my balls and jack me off, or suck my dick and play with my balls with their hands.

How long does the ideal blow job last?

Man A: This all depends on the situation. In the case where you are exploring each other's bodies during foreplay, there is no real time limit. You are just building up to sex. Sometimes there is the case where sex is not on the docket and you just swap orgasms with your partner via oral, in which case it lasts till you finish.

Man B: I DON'T KNOW! It's really neat when someone gives a blow job until I finish just as a solo sexual act but I don't expect that. Also usually after a few minutes, it's fun to change things up/move on. I think a concise answer would be, "It should last as long as neither partner is bored/not into it."

Man C: Until I say, "That's enough!" No, but it depends on the situation and how good it feels.

Does it take you "out" of the blow job moment if a partner switches to use their hands?

Man A: No, I prefer my partner to mix it up. A great blow job incorporates your mouth and hands simultaneously.

Man B: Not at all and OMG, actually it feels amazing usually.

Man C: Not at all, I don't want them to get lockjaw. Safety first.

What's the best thing a partner can do during a blow job?

Man A: Enjoy themselves. If a blow job is a chore then it's no fun for anyone involved. Also, eye contact goes a long way.

Man B: Besides being "into it," using hands is always great.

Man C: DEEP. THROAT.

Do you get offended if you go down on someone and they don't reciprocate with a blow job? Would you ever call someone out for that?

Man A: No, when it comes to sex, nothing you do should be in the hopes of receiving something in return.

Man B: I would call it out if we saw each other multiple times and this happened. Maybe there's a good reason. Not offended but it's always nice to reciprocate.

Man C: I would probably not call someone out but it might be a little frustrating. Reciprocation is a nice gesture in any circumstance.

Do you expect a blow job during a first-time hookup with a new partner?

Man A: I don't expect anything. Everyone moves at their own speed.

Man B: I try not to expect anything. I've had really great and memorable (and frustrating) sexual encounters where nothing happened at all.

Man C: Sort of, just because in my experience, that's tended to happen.

What's the weirdest place you've ever gotten a blow job?

Man A: "Weird" is a subjective term — a popular public scenic walking path comes to mind though.

Man B: Weirdest … one time my roommate was playing a VR game in the living room and someone went down on me. That was very, very cool.

Man C: At night on a playground in a tunnel, and in my high school debate room.

Do you have any particular blow job-centric fantasies?

Man A: Probably a pretty typical fantasy is two girls going down on you at the same time.

Man B: I guess anything in public. Road head is also a huge turn-on for me, just because it's weird.

Man C: On a plane or on a train, reading a book or from a cook. Subtext: any really good blow job, or two mouths.

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