Sometimes even the greatest guys can be human jackhammers. If it's happened to you, then you (and your va-jay-jay) have our condolences. These sneaky tips promise to set a pump-happy bedmate straight:
The easiest way to thwart a jackhammer is to have sex in a position where he's unable to hump you like The Situation in heat. Girl-on-top is one option; another is spooning—with one caveat: "He has more freedom in this position, so to control the pace, grip his penis lightly and say that you want to use it like a sex toy," suggests Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First.
Be a Bit Honest
If you dig a jackhammer-enabling position like missionary or doggie style, then you have to speak up. "Before he enters you, tell him that it turns you on when he goes slow," says Cadell. Since you're not saying this in response to anything he's done yet, he won't take it personally. If he suddenly picks up pace, a line like 'Go easy on me' is playful enough that it won't insult him, but pointed enough to make him back off.
Strike a Compromise
In the same way that a certain position makes your toes curl, hard and fast feels really damn good for most men. To ensure that you're both satisfied, set aside a time when some vigorous thrusting is acceptable—like after you've already climaxed. "Tell him you want to start in your favourite position and finish in his," says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., founder of loveologyuniversity.com