Of course, you've flirted like a demon on dates, but you're seriously missing out if you're not working your magic on everyone in your life. Men, women, your boss, the intern, kids-heck, even your dog-should be on the receiving end of your irresistible charms. Why? Spreading the lighthearted love not only provides a serious ego boost when people have a positive response, but it also helps you get what you want-anywhere, anyplace, anytime.
"Flirting can be sexual, but it doesn't always have to be-it comes in many forms," says relationship expert Susan Campbell, Ph.D., author of Truth in Dating. "When you flirt with someone, you make them feel appreciated and admired, and that makes them more receptive to you and willing to help you in any way they can." Plus, working your mojo cements the bond you already have with, say, your best friend or longterm boyfriend. "It lets them know you still find them as appealing as ever," says Campbell.
Winning someone over in a matter of seconds doesn't have to involve using your boobs (although there's a time and place for that too), so we pulled together a list of spunky, sexy, silly, and undeniably fun ways to flirt, no matter who you're looking to lure in.
Flirt to get useful people on your side
1 Try this professional yet intimate gesture when you're introduced to your man's boss: Take his hand, and use your free one to cover his as you shake.
2 Gyno rushing through your visit? After looking at pics of her kids on her office wall, ask how she successfully manages to juggle a family with her amazing career.
3 When a relative gives a sappy toast at a family event, catch your new sister-in-law's eye and wink.
4 Before you ask the salesclerk at your favourite store to grab you five different sizes, look her up and down and say "That is such a great outfit."
5 Act all innocent and shy when the adorable UPS guy happens to catch you still in your short silk robe at 10 a.m. on a Saturday.
6 Frequently gush over your neighbour's gorgeous flower pots or garden and she'll be more willing to water your plants while you're away on a two-week vacation.
7 Ask your rubber-limbed yoga teacher to demonstrate an advanced asana that you've "always wanted to see done by a pro." She will love the chance to show off...and pay more attention to you in class.
8 Lean on the counter at the dry cleaners so that the cashier can see your statement necklace slip into your cleavage.
9 Take a sip of your mocha latte, stare into the eyes of the barista who made it, and moan "Oh, yeah...that is sooo good." Next time, watch your drink appear before everyone else's.
10 Send your best friend's mom a written thank-you note for the great advice she gave you last week.
11 Encourage your stylist to audition for Bravo's Shear Genius-because she would clearly win.
12 E-mail your cubemates a funny story with a note that reads, "I know hilarious people like you will appreciate this."
13 Get the overworked intern's advice on where to take a friend for cocktails because "a cool girl like you must know places."
Flirt to pick up hot guys (or just make yourself feel sexy)
14 Check out a cutie on the subway for two seconds, look away, then glance back at him through lowered lashes.
15 Sitting in a room full of guys? Turn sideways in your chair, cross your legs, arch your back, and run your fingers through your hair.
16 "Trip," fall against a man's chest, and say "Damn, your pecs are so hard, I felt like I was falling into a wall."
17 Get the indie-music guy hanging near the jukebox to help you pick out a song.
18 Ask the motorcycle dude next to you to tell the story behind his "awesome" tattoo.
19 Recruit a hot stranger to do a karaoke duet with you because you have a feeling he's a "crowd pleaser."
20 Comment on a guy's outfit with something like "It takes a lot of balls for a man to wear pink-I'm into that."
21 Walk up to that Taylor Lautner lookalike standing alone at a party, give him a playful smile, and say, "I heard there would be tons of cute guys here. So far, I've only seen one."
22 Hit up a sports bar, and ask the guy sitting beside you what his favorite team is so you'll "know who to root for."
23 Ask the hot Best Buy salesman to help you pick the perfect birthday present for your guy friend since he's a "sexy tech genius, like you."
24 Tell the guy running on the treadmill at the gym how impressed you are by his gruelling workout.
25 Step off the dance floor and quickly adjust one of your thigh-high stockings. Uh-oh, did that hottie sitting a few feet away catch you?
Flirt to reward your crew for being so good to you
26 Write an e-mail to your BFF out of the blue, detailing the top 10 reasons she kicks ass.
27 Treat your pooch to an at-home doggy massage every a.m.
28 Let your little cousin win at Guitar Hero, and ask him to give you some tips.
29 Tell your big sis she's a total MILF.
30 When your male friend shares a funny story, laugh and say "You are hilarious!" loudly enough for everyone to hear.
31 Call your dad from Home Depot to ask his advice on your DIY project.
32 Talk up your shy friend in front of the guy she's crushing on.
33 Send your grandma 2 dozen of her favorite flower, just 'cause.
34 Brag about that time your animalloving brother rescued a stray puppy while you're out together with family friends.
35 Ask your mom if she has lost weight.
36 Next time you need advice, tell your girls "You guys will know exactly how I should deal with this...."
37 Give everyone in your inner circle a flattering nickname, like Man-Eater and Fashionista.
Flirt with your boyfriend/hubby to make him feel like a stud
38 Gift him with a pair of silk boxers to pamper his package since it's been working "extrahard" lately.
39 Use your tongue to get that last crumb off your lips while eating dinner with him.
40 Send him a PG-13 TwitPic showing you naked from your armpits up with a message that reads "You can see the rest tonight."
41 When you're at the movies, lightly trace your fingers up and down his forearm.
42 Slip into your fishnets while giving him the eye.
43 Ask him to lift that bulky box off the top shelf because "I need a big, strong man for this."
44 Roll over in bed and lay your hand on his biceps. Give it a gentle squeeze and say "Wow."
45 Cheer him on at his pickup football or soccer match, and recap his smooth, game-winning moves afterward.
46 Sit in the kitchen and watch him make his famous five-alarm-fire chili because it's "better than anything on the Food Network."
47 Study his face, and remark on how much he looks like [insert hot male celeb he kinda-sorta resembles here].
48 Grab his ass on your way into a restaurant.
49 Get him to teach you his expert poker tricks, then take on other couples.
50 Wear a very short skirt, and let him follow you up a long flight of stairs.