The 4 Must-Try Sex Positions, According to Real Women

Plus, tips on how to mix things up in the bedroom.

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If the phrase "familiarity breeds contempt" rings true, going through all the same motions in the bedroom, time and time again, doesn't exactly help in the love department either. Relationship experts recommend keeping things spontaneous (whether that means trying a different time, place, or generally being more adventurous in bed) to avoid falling into a cycle of boring "duty" sex, but also to foster healthy habits in a long-term relationship.

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Below, we asked four real women for their favorite sex moves, then consulted sex expert Tracey Cox, author of The Hot Sex Handbook, for her tips on how to upgrade your own go-to moves so they feel new and exciting. In short, it doesn't take a Kama Sutra master to have better sex, it's really about breaking from habit, exploring the unknown, and enhancing what already works.

MAYA, 26, EXECUTIVE ASSISTANT

FAVORITE POSITION: We're standing. I face my boyfriend and wrap my legs around his torso. He puts his hands beneath my butt and lifts me up and down while thrusting into me. I call it "The Claw."

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WHAT MAKES IT SO HOT: I'm a very independent woman, but I occasionally love being dominated. My partner is in total control here—I don't have to do a thing! It may be a physically demanding position for him, but it makes me feel virtually weightless—and totally orgasmic.

FUN PROP: The Claw is even more fun when you're greased up, so slick yourselves down with Johnson's Baby Oil Gel beforehand. But practice it dry a few times first so you don't get hurt!

AKYNOS, 28, INTERNET SEX COLUMNIST/MODEL

FAVORITE POSITION: I'm flat on my back. He slides on top of me and—OK, I admit it! The position that always does it for me is missionary!

WHAT MAKES IT SO HOT: It may seem like a tame choice for a sex columnist, but I just love looking into a guy's eyes while we're having sex. And it's not like I just lie there—I love to grab his butt and draw him as deeply as I can inside of me so that I can feel every inch of him. I never get bored of climaxing like this. But men, be warned: If your mouth isn't all over my lips and neck, you're wasting my time!

FUN PROP: Try a little fresh air! When I was a teenager, I got it on with a guy on a rooftop in our neighborhood. I was so naive—I didn't think anyone would see us up there. But the news got back to my mother, and all hell broke loose. Still, it's a sexy thing to think back on...and I still love doing it outside.


MAJESTA, 28, NURSE'S ASSISTANT/ NANNY

FAVORITE POSITION: I lie on my back with my legs over my boyfriend's shoulders. He leans forward with his chest resting on the backs of my thighs and plunges in and out of me. I tend to make a lot of noise, so we refer to it as "The Scream Machine."

WHAT MAKES IT SO HOT: It allows for deeper penetration than almost any other position—and definitely leads to the most intense orgasms.

FUN PROPS: Strawberries, whipped cream, and champagne make for unbelievable foreplay. I suggest a hands-off policy while we eat, which my guy usually agrees to at first. But as he watches me sip champagne and pop cream-covered strawberries into my mouth, he goes crazy. By the time the last strawberry is gone, so are our clothes!

AFINITY, 26, ADMINISTRATIVE COORDINATOR

FAVORITE POSITION: My fiancé, Allen, and I kneel on the floor with a couch or bed in front of us to brace ourselves. He's behind me, and I spread my legs a little wider than his for balance. He penetrates me from behind. I nicknamed this "The Reverse Allen," because it's a variation on another amazing position he came up with. He's very creative!

WHAT MAKES IT SO HOT: It makes me feel like the sexiest woman on earth, because it pushes my chest out and pulls my stomach in so my body looks fantastic. And there are endless variations. During one recent quickie, I led Allen's hand to my hair so he could tug on it. It was such a huge turn-on that I climaxed within seconds.

FUN PROPS: I love sliding on stockings and sky-high heels before sex. Nothing looks hotter than when I'm wearing only these.


UPGRADE THE CLASSICS

The Kama Sutra contains a nearly exhaustive (literally) selection of positions to choose from, but most of us stick to a few tried-and-true basics, says Tracey Cox. If you happen to be more of a creature of habit than a sexual adventurer, she recommends the below sex tips for making the same-old routine feel anything but ordinary:

1.) MISSIONARY

Place a pillow underneath your butt. Instead of simply lying back as he thrusts in and out of you, sit up halfway, lift your butt, and then slowly lean backward. Repeat until one of you climaxes.

2.) WOMAN ON TOP

Move your body in small circles as you lift and lower your pelvis. Have him sit up, with his legs straight out in front of him. Lower yourself onto his penis and sit with your knees bent, facing him, with your feet flat on the floor.

3.) DOGGIE STYLE

Rather than kneel, lie facedown on the bed, with your legs spread. He lies on your back and penetrates you from behind. Try having him stand behind you while you gradually—and carefully!—lean forward until your hands touch the floor.

4.)SIDE-BY-SIDE

Grind your body against his penis, bending from the waist and moving your upper torso downward. Reach around to fondle him while he's moving in and out of you.

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