Every girl has go-to moves she uses when handling her guy. They're straightforward and simple, and you know they'll get him off. But sticking only with those? Snore.
"Chances are, he'll appreciate just the fact that you want to touch his penis, but changing it up can keep it exciting and erotic for both of you," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of He Comes Next. We talked to the leading penis-pleasing experts and collected a mind-blowing collection of creative techniques for you to try.
PANTS OFF, HANDS ON!
1. Lightly tap up and down his shaft with your fingers, like you're playing a piano with one hand. This helps him get and stay hard by keeping blood flowing into the spongy tissue of his penis.
2. Stroke down his length with one hand to make the skin taut and expose more nerve endings. Then wrap your other hand around the head of his penis and slide it up and down. Use a drop of lube to make sure you don't chafe his sensitive skin in the process.
3. Take his penis between your open palms and using your hands like ping-pong paddles, very lightly bat it back and forth. The quick touches feel invigorating and increase circulation to the surface of the skin.
4. Interlock your fingers around his shaft, and place the pads of both thumbs on the underside (at the frenulum; see "Manatomy Explained" for where to find it). Press firmly, massaging dime-size circles into his sweet spot, moving your right thumb clockwise and your left thumb counterwise.
5. Make an "okay" sign around the head of his penis, then stroke downward and follow immediately with your other hand, making the same motion. Take it again from the top. Keep repeating, then reverse directions and pull upward to mix things up. The sensations he'll experience thereafter will drive him up the wall!
6. Grasp the lower shaft of his penis with one fisted hand and the upper part of his penis with your other fisted hand (both hands should be lubed up). Then lightly twist your hands in opposite directions, as though you're wringing a towel dry.
7. Make a ring with your thumb and index finger around the base of his shaft, and gently squeeze it. This turns your fingers into a human penis ring-retaining blood in his penis and boosting his pleasure. Use the other hand, in a fisted grip, to pull up and twist at the head. Then bring your hand back down to meet the ring.
8. Using the same ring grip, squeeze for a second, then repeat as you make your way up his penis from the base to the head. The mix of pressures will keep him alert.
9. Give your guy a hand in the shower: Approach him from behind and rub your breasts against his sudsy back, then reach around to stimulate his penis. Grab his erect shaft using a fistlike grip with your thumb near the tip, and use an up-and-down jerking motion to mimic the way he handles himself. (Hint: Conditioner will make things more slippery and your showers together will never be the same again.)
10. Place your lubed palms on either side of his shaft, and rub them back and forth, as if you're trying to start a fire.
11. Hold him by the base of his shaft with one hand, and wrap the fingertips of your other hand around the head so that it's pointing towards your palm. Then grab his corona-the edge separating the head and shaft-and pull up and down, stroking just along this extra-sensitive ridge.
12. Put one hand at the base of his member, and grip firmly. As you begin to move that hand towards the head, place your other hand on the base and follow it up. When a hand reaches the top, start again, so that both hands are constantly stroking him.
13. Press his penis against surprising parts of your body. Ideas: Hold it against your inner thigh to tease him like crazy; touch the tip of his penis against your breast, and rub his frenulum against your nipple; or bring the side of his shaft against the outside of one of your cheeks, then put it up to your lips and cover it with wet kisses.
TREAT HIS TESTICLES
14. As you're kissing, gently cradle his testicles in the palm of your hand. No need to do anything but hold them - your warm hand and smooches will instantly arouse him.
15. Move your index finger against the base of his shaft and barely tickle the top of his scrotum.
16. Play with very light pinching on his scrotal skin in the area where the base of the shaft meets the testicles. Warning: Just the skin-not the jewels!
17. Encircle his testicles at the base, massaging them lightly between your thumb and index finger, then gently pull them away from his body so you're holding them in a compact sack. (This will expose more nerve endings and increase his pleasure level.) Lightly stroke them with your fingertips.
18. Wrap both hands around his penis, one above the other, then move the top hand towards the head of his penis and the other hand down towards his testicles so that you're essentially gently tugging up on his penis with one hand and down on the testicles with the other. Hold for a moment to let him register the feeling that his erection is getting even bigger, then release and repeat the same.
19. Straddle his chest while facing his feet. Lube up your hands, and place one between his legs with your fingers draped over his testicles. Then drag your fingers lightly up and over his testicles and penis, all the way to his belly. Repeat with your other hand, and continue to alternate for a tantalising massage.
20. Rub the flat sides of your fingernails (not the edges!) against his scrotum to give him a different sensation. They are harder and smoother and feel a little cooler than your fingertips.
21. Take one or both of his testicles into your mouth (watch your teeth!). Hold there, and swirl your tongue around or suck gently. The testicles are very sensitive-light pressure is best.
22. Trace the seam that runs down the middle of his testicles with your tongue gently.
23. As you're calling his testicles with one hand, place a knuckle from your other hand against his perineum (the supersensitive area between his testicles and anus), and vibrate it.
24. Gently but confidently tap the head of his penis against your tongue while making smouldering eye contact with him.
25. With your tongue wide and relaxed, lap his penis from his testicles to the tip, as you would a yummy melting ice-cream cone.
26. Lie flat on a bed with your head hanging backward over the side as he stands facing you. Take his penis into your mouth; use your hands on his waist to control his thrusting. It's an easy way to give him some deep-throat action without triggering a wicked gag reflex. (Just be sure to tell him not to push it!)
27. Try this "shallow throat" trick: Press the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth to protect the back of your throat. Bring his penis into your mouth; when his head hits the back of your tongue, it will give him a feeling similar to when you deep-throat.
28. Swivel your neck left and right while he's in your mouth - it'll feel like your mouth is swirling around him.
29. Stick out your tongue. Then hold still as you take his penis at the base and quickly shake it from side to side so that the head slides against your tongue with firm pressure. Warning: This intense motion on the most sensitive part of his penis could bring him to orgasm quickly.
30. Take the head of his penis in and out of your mouth while you simultaneously rub his shaft back and forth between your palms. This way, you stimulate his penis in four(!) directions at once.