Even if you're the partner to orchestrate a break up, it can still be really bloody awful. Not only have you now got to adjust your life accordingly (what will you do with all that extra time?), but chances are some pretty rubbish things happened in the run up to the end of your relationship. Break up convos can get nasty, and are usually utterly emotionally exhausting.
We think we know how to mend a broken heart: sleep with someone else (or so our pals tell us), focus on ourselves, drink to oblivion. But now science claims to have a legit answer to the question, "What's the best way to get over a bad break up?"
Hello Giggles reports new research from the Journal of Neuroscience has discovered thinking that you're over it could be the key to actually being over it. University of Colorado Boulder researchers studied 40 participants who has just been dumped, who brought along a pic of their ex and a pal of the same gender. Sounds weird right? Bear with me.
They were then asked to talk through their break up, according to UPROXX, while scientists kept an eye on an image of their brain. Then when participants took a break, half were told they were being given a nasal spray to numb their emotional pain (and the other half were told it was just a saline spray).
Shock twist: those who had been told the spray would wash their woes away went on to feel much less emotional, their brain reacted differently when they spoke about their broken relationship, and they found it easier to deal with the pain.
So what does this teach us? The scientists said just thinking you're doing something that could help ease the pain, does actually ease the pain. It's all in the mind, baby. Basically, do stuff that you think will make you feel better, and it probs will.