This Video Will Tell You Everything You Need To Know About The Guys You Date

No wonder they're confused.

21 March, 2018
This Video Will Tell You Everything You Need To Know About The Guys You Date

A new video from The Representation Project about what it means to be a man in 2015 offers a bleak look at what masculinity meant this year. Watching clips of men fighting, being super buff yet shy in underwear ('sup Biebs), and squeezing produce that's supposed to be a nude woman's butt strung together in a two minute video provides a completely different look at what the men in our lives are up against. 

By the time I finally got to the part where Trump was calling women "disgusting animals" and Damon Wayans was saying that some women are "unrapeable" I was ready to move to another planet. While the subsequent clips of Matt McGorry talking about being a feminist and John Oliver talking about the importance of family leave for both genders were obviously more positive and heartening, I can't help but notice how much louder the more negative messages were. 

While it's vital to see men happily taking on traditionally female roles in the household and Terry Crews talking about how men cry and are sensitive, are those subtle and often passive voices enough to drown out the constant images men are seeing? Can the occasional mention of a man who loves his mother overshadow the 9,000 others encouraging men to get ripped, take charge, drive some "this represents my powerful penis" car, and view all women as boobs with faces attached to them? 

It's no wonder why so many of the guys we date and interact with are torn between trying to be the sensitive guy who believes in equality, while also being a lazy, entitled idiot who makes casually sexist comments that make you want to scream because you thought he was better than that. 

I can only hope that in the future, the narrative shifts in a way that allows men to hear so many more positive messages than negative ones. Maybe by then the depressing ads like the one in this video can finally be seen as laughable and tone deaf by all men, instead of the select few who are listening closely.

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