1. Don't get stuck in restrictive, narrowly prescribed gender roles. Assign household chores according to what is fair and who excels at what, rather than simply repeating outmoded notions of what women and men 'should' be.
2. When it comes to sex, don't be so fixated on penetration and climaxing—mix things up, experiment, and go with whatever feels good.
3. Give each other breathing room. Release each other from extended familial obligations. In gay relationships, partners often socialise with family alone—and there's no expectation of their partner joining them. They've got their own family, after all.