Rhea*, 30, a non- profit director in Mumbai, is in a Long Distance Relationship—her husband works in New Delhi. While distance might give some couples whiplash, for Rhea, sex got better as a result of their time apart.
"When we first went long-distance, the sex was wild and exciting,' she recalls. And they still haven't hit a long-term rut, because there is so much built-up passion. "When we see each other, sex is emotional and erotic. It's about smelling each other's skin, or taking hot showers together. We don't take it for granted, and it's a way to reconnect."
We tried to find out why it can actually work. A 2013 study found out that people in LDRs were more likely to disclose feelings to each other and that they tend to idealise their partner's behaviours more. Translation: "The everyday stressors— underwear on the floor, unwashed dishes—are notthere," says Eric Marlove Garrison, author of Mastering Multiple Position Sex. Even if you and your partner live together, experimenting with distance (even if it's just spending Saturday out with friends and not returning until late) can help drum up those feelings.
Hope this works for all you LDR couples out there!