We all want to know what the secret to a good relationship is, and now a study has found there are three indicators of a healthy, long-lasting partnership you should look out for.Max Blumberg, a psychologist and researcher at Goldsmiths University, told the Mail Online what the secrets to a good relationship are and we've listed them below.

1. You argue in the correct way

Arguing can be a good thing for a relationship apparently, as it means that you're still interested in each other enough to care about one another.'It's necessary to have an argument in a relationship - but the key is the ratio,' says Max.He adds that it's also important that arguments are being resolved correctly, in an unemotional way.'You need to wait at least three or four hours before your chemicals re-balance and that wild feeling subsides so you can discuss the matter calmly.'If there's no conflict it could be a sign that the relationship is really dull - or that you might be walking all over each other.

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2. You're both happy doing nothing together

​Making the most of the time you spend with each other, even when you're not necessarily doing anything, is another key factor in making a relationship last.Watching TV together, or just sitting down and being content in each other's company are both things that make a happy couple.Relationships like this are built on practicality and most happy couples fit into this type, says Max. And studies have shown that it works.'One strong defining feature is that you can be quiet together - and do absolutely nothing.'

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3. You talk about yourselves

​Having regular chats with one another about your relationship is important too. Max suggests sitting down every couple of months to discuss how things are going, although not for the first six months if you're a new couple.

And he adds that it's important to start the conversation with something positive about the relationship.'It could be a simple matter of saying: "I really enjoy our relationship, how do you feel about it?" or "Is there anything you think we can do to improve our relationship? I want you to be as happy as I am."'Not talking to one another can make one half of the couple feel lonely and can mean problems are hidden under the surface.After all, it's not a good sign if you can't discuss your own relationship.


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