Some guys act like they're doing the dating thing but are just looking for a hookup. This behaviour exposes his true intentions.
#1 He treats you like one of the guys. If he's making explicit comments or telling raunchy jokes, he could be testing whether you're willing to connect on a sexual level. So, he may not plan on working to reach boyfriend status.
#2 He's charming...repeatedly. A guy who retells anecdotes or gives you the same compliments as he did on your last date could be on autopilot. That connection you thought you made may be an act he uses to get chicks into bed.
#3 You don't bond in person. Electronic communication is a way of life, but a man who's looking to date will call you and have meaningful conversations face-to-face too.
#4 You usually stay in. Chilling on the couch may seem sweet, but be suspicious if he's not taking you out. Being seen with you could ward off other women, so if you two don't socialise in public, it may be that he doesn't want to be seen as taken.
The stuff guys won't reveal:
"Why do they get so riled up about sports?"
"Boys are generally socialised to watch and play sports more than girls are, so they grow up identifying with certain players and teams," says Walter Gantz, Ph.D., a professor of telecommunications at Indiana University who has studied sports fandom. "The more competitive a person is, the more emotionally invested he'll be in 'his' team's win or loss."
Watching sports fills other roles too. For example, it could give men a socially acceptable conversation topic, a method for blowing off steam, or even a way to bond with other dudes, says Gantz.
Read between the lines:
"I just don't want to hurt you."
"You should know that I'm not in this for the long haul."