5 Times You Shouldn't Text Him!

Too many messages can kill a budding relationship. We tell you when to step away from the cell.

Casual SMSes have become a huge part of dating, and experts speculate that texts have surpassed actual phone calls between many couples. But beware: there's such a thing as too much texting (TMT). Overdoing it can harm things, says relationship expert Arlene Krieger, Ph.D. There are several instances where texting can torpedo a relationship before it's barely gotten off the ground:

1 After your first few dates.

It may be tempting to contact a guy right after an amazing date, but resist the urge. "Reaching out lessens the thrill of the chase for him," says psychologist Diana Kirschner, Ph.D., author of Love In 90 Days.

Advertisement - Continue Reading Below

2 When you're drunk.

Since phones don't come with breath analysers, it's up to you to stop yourself from sending a tipsy message-especially one that suggests you two meet up ASAP. "Being too available lets a guy know he has all the leverage," Krieger says.

3 When you're angry.

It's annoying when a guy flakes, but sending a "Why haven't you called me??!!" inquiry makes you look massively insecure. Avoid texts when you're in a 'I just want to kill him' mood, too. "When it's in writing, you can't easily take it back," Kirschner says.

Most Popular

4 When you're trying to be funny.

"Non-verbally, sarcasm and joking might come off as aggressive," says Kirschner. A guy could read an SMS like "OMG, you were out of control last night!!!" literally, which makes you sound pissed when you were just remembering his funny behaviour.

5 When you've already texted him that day.

Once you're in an ongoing relationship, you may be tempted to rely on texting as a regular form of communication, but SMSes discourage phone conversations and one-on-one time. By not engaging in text marathons, you're encouraging real conversations.

What do you think?

Relationships
Share
This Is The Best Way to Get Over a Break Up, According to Science
It's all in the mind, bby.
Relationships
Share
20 Cringe-Worthy Stories From Parents Whose Kids Walked In On Them Having Sex
Double-, no, *triple*-check that lock.
Relationships
Share
Having More Sex is Good For Your Career, According to Science
Sleep your way to the top, but not in the usual sense of the phrase.
Relationships
Share
8 Things Guys Secretly Hate About Sex
Guys are the ones who get to orgasm all the time, so, like, perfect. Right? Wrong.
Relationships
Share
"I Dated THAT Guy!"
The jerk, the cheater, the over-sharing Tweeter. Some boyfriend-stereotypes were born for a reason—and these ladies can testify to that!
Feeling a silky-smooth sensation is often what throws lovahs over the edge into the simultaneous vaginal/clitoral O-zone.
SLIDE META: Lube Vaginal Orgasm and Clitoral Orgasm - How to Have a Blended Orgasm
Relationships
Share
5 Perfect Positions to Try if Sex Is Painful
Here's how to deal if things don't feel the way they should.
Relationships
Share
12 Oral Sex Tips You'll Both Lose Your Mind Over
So you can both give as good as you get.
Relationships
Share
5 Tips for Having Sex at Your Parents' House
If you must bone in your childhood bedroom, read this first.
Relationships
Share
9 Guys Reveal the Secret To a Great Blow Job
It's all about the balls, apparently.
GIF
Relationships
Share
There's Now a Dating App Exclusively for Married People in India!
Cast your judgment aside!