When you want to orgasm, your routine probably goes something like this: stroke that, rub here, rub harder. But it turns out, the key to a toecurling O isn't just physical-it's also partly mental. Your brain is so crucial, in fact, that some women can climax without being touched. Even Lady Gaga admitted in a recent interview that she can think her way to an orgasm. While not all women can experience this, you can still use the strategy to your advantage and have better orgasms as a result.
A very real phenomenon
An immaculate orgasm may sound too good to be true, but there's legit scientific evidence backing it up. In one study, researchers measured the bodily responses of a small group of women who said they could climax just by thinking. They compared the women's heart rate, blood pressure, pupil dilation, and pain threshold -all indicators of orgasm-and discovered that they were the same whether the subjects climaxed by touch or by thoughts alone. "This indicated that the thinking orgasm is a real physical response," says Beverly Whipple, Ph.D., co-author of the study and the book The Science Of Orgasm. And when Whipple and her colleagues conducted brain-imaging studies, they found that the areas of the women's brains that were active during a traditional orgasm also lit up during a thinking one.
WTF is going on
"The brain sees and feels what we imagine," explains Daniel Amen, M.D., author of The Brain In Love. For example, when you're frightened, you can feel your skin crawl, but in reality, that's just a sensation you perceive in your brain. The thinking orgasm may be a similar reaction. "Just by focussing on what a climax feels like, it's possible to experience that tingly sensation mentally, which could translate into a physical response, like an orgasm," says Lori Buckley, Psy.D., a certified sex therapist in Los Angeles, US.
Make it work for you in bed
"Focussing your thoughts on what you're feeling will intensify the physical stimulation and your climax as a result," says Buckley. Zero in on how your guy's lips feel against yours or how his fingertips trace your skin. And hey, you might as well try to trigger a mindonly orgasm. Even if you don't get there, you'll still have a hell of a lot of fun.