Not to say that you don't have crazy good sex already, because that's between you and your partner, but could it be even better?More
Okay, yeah, you're tired as all hell from the work day. But! You can't deny the fact that you've got a sexual creature inside your exhausted self, begging to come out. The catch? You can't let that creature fall asleep. "My expression is you gotta keep your inner sexual pilot light on," sex therapist Megan Fleming, Ph.D., says. Ways to do that might be watching porn, masturbating, or reading erotic stories. Even just buying lingerie might make you feel sexy, too.
Think this is about meeting your partner's insane demands? (Wait, why does he have insane demands?) Nope, flip that idea on its head — this is about taking care of yourself for you so that you feel better.
"I always say, self-care is not selfish," says Fleming, whether that means sleeping or going to the gym or getting a baby sitter so you can have some quality time with your husband. After all, she says, the mind is the biggest sex organ.