7 Easy Steps to Make a Man (Or Someone With a Penis) Orgasm

Get your technique down.

By The Editors
16 November, 2018
7 Easy Steps to Make a Man (Or Someone With a Penis) Orgasm

Want to improve your orgasm-giving skills? (Which is totally OK FYI, if you're a sexual person, wanting your partner to enjoy it is all part of a good relationship.) Sex and relationships expert for Lovehoney Annabelle Knight explains how to make a man or someone with a penis orgasm.

"[You can make] small tweaks [to your technique] which maximise pleasure and that can make a big difference," she says. We’re just talking about little tricks with kissing and touching while giving a hand job or blow job that can really make the whole experience even more stimulating."

Remember, everyone's body is different and there are no hard and fast rules with it comes to sex. As always, it comes down to great communication (there's nowt wrong with asking your partner, 'Do you like this?' BTW), and a level of trust and respect.

1. Kiss really well

Bad kissing chemistry can be a real turn off. Many people think that if you can’t kiss, chances are you're going to struggle with the subtleties of the other aspects of sex. But really, the key to being a great kisser is to start slow and build up.

Use your tongue (sparingly at first), give gentle lip movement, vary the head angles, and pull them into you. Remember to try and keep saliva to a minimum when you are with a new partner. Some people love a slobbery kiss, but it can be a bit much if you’re not expecting it...

2. Plan a scene

You can both play on suspense and heighten excitement (and prolong your fun) with a light role play. Trying erotic costumes or acting out a seduction storyline. Perhaps you’re two strangers meeting in bar who hit it off, or maybe your partner is hitchhiking in the road and you're a stranger who picks them up. It’s worth coming up with a plot before you start, as planning the scenes is all part of the fun and will ensure there are no awkward moments, as well as making sure you deliver on the parts of the fantasy that are the biggest turn on.

3. Touch them

Prove you really know your way around their body by focusing on some of their most neglected nerve endings. And, surprisingly, one of the best places you can start is the jaw. When you stroke someone's jaw, you’re subconsciously reinforcing to them that you find them very attractive, which can be a real ego boost and therefore give your partner confidence.

Then, move onto their inner thighs. When you get a someone's blood pumping in this area, you’re automatically upping their arousal, which can lead to harder erections and stronger orgasms, too. If you’re feeling extra sensual, light a massage candle. This will allow you to drip some warm wax on their body and pleasure away.

4. Introduce some light bondage

Introducing a blindfold or tie that covers your partner's eyes will mean they have no idea just where that hot wax is going to drip. It also heightens their other sensations, which adds to the suspense. You could also use handcuffs, or just gently restrict their wrists with a couple of ties if you want to improvise.

5. Give a great hand job

Lube helps to keep things slippery so your fingers slide smoothly over the penis and other sensitive areas. Try concentrating your efforts on the penis head rather than the whole shaft. People with foreskins often find that a gentle repeated rolling up and down of the foreskin over the penis head is the key to a phenomenal climax. If they're circumcised, the rolling movement should be just below the head - just make sure you keep things extra-lubricated for comfort.

If you want to make the hand job even more extra, use a masturbation sleeve on your partner. This is a tube-shaped sex toy filled with incredible textures and stimulating lumps and bumps.

6. And a blow job

All men and people with penises are different. For some, oral sex is their favourite sexual activity; others are less enthusiastic. If your partner is on board, though, try concentrating your efforts on the head - though licking up the shaft is a nice way to lengthen play and keep things varied. Add a flavoured lube if you want to. Don’t forget that oral sex is not just about your mouth - you can use your hands to stimulate their shaft, balls, and perineum (the bit between their balls and butt) for added pleasure.

7. Get the climax just right

By this point, your partner should be feeling pretty damn good. If you want to have penetrative sex, go for it. If you want them to finish in your hand/mouth/somewhere on your body, that's hotttt.

 

 

 

 

 

Credit: Cosmopolitan
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