Let’s face it, some of us are still pretty apprehensive about putting ourselves out there when it comes to online dating. If you happen to be a woman, this is only compounded by past, sometimes not so pleasant encounters on social media. In fact, most people, male or female, have experienced some form of virtual stalking by the time they are in their 20s.
Add to this the fact that people are just about getting comfortable with dating openly in India, and you may find that putting yourself out there might be a little intimidating. For one, there is the constant fear of being seen on the app by our friends, family or co-workers, and being judged. Then, there is that fact that using a dating app is mostly new and unexplored territory for most of us, given that they only appeared on the scene a few years ago. Add this to the slightly sleazy, hookup friendly reputation that many apps carry (true or not), and it can be understandable that you feel a sense of hesitation when it comes to putting your picture on an online dating profile.
So, is it ok to not use a picture?
The answer to that question is a big NO, and here’s exactly why. Would you trust someone enough to date them if their picture could not be seen? Probably not, right? A hidden picture tends to get people suspicious and signify that you are hiding something. You will make a lot of people slightly vary. We for example, tend to thing someone might be married or looking for a clandestine hookup, and never take them too seriously. It all comes down to how serious you are about finding someone to date, and if you are treating the online dating process as a real option. Stereotypes about online dating are quickly disappearing from public opinion, so take a leap of faith and upload a profile picture already! Besides, as long as you don’t share personal information without getting to know someone, you should be A- OK.
How to choose the perfect dating profile pictures?
Now that you have decided to put yourself out there, it‘s best to put your most attractive face forward. Here are some key points to keep in mind while choosing your profile pictures.
1. Safety: Don’t use any picture you would not want your friends and family to see. Also, don’t use a picture that makes it easy to find you on social media. This point is relevant if you want to maintain anonymity, especially if someone can do a reverse image search and track down your personal details. The Internet can be a scary place, so be wise, always.
2. Use photos that really look like you: It’s not a crime to post flattering pictures, but deceiving angles and too many filters can lead to awkwardness when you actually do meet. You want people to like you for who you are, so keep it real!
3. Don’t take yourself to seriously: It’s ok to be goofy, add a meme or a fun picture that shows off your personality. People are attracted to real behaviour, and humour is always a big turn on, isn't it?
4. Avoid only Selfies: It’s good to use at least one full profile so that people can see you for the fabulous person you are, in whole. Also posting only selfies might cause people to wrongly assume that you don't have any real friends.
5.You may not be everybody's cup of tea, and that’s OK: People get attracted to different things, you will attract the right person who fits your vibe. Just be yourself, post some natural pictures and shine on.