17 Things You Need to Do With Your Squad in Your 20s

~*No. 5 needs to happen literally today*~.

21 March, 2018
17 Things You Need to Do With Your Squad in Your 20s

1. Take a crappy vacation that bonds you closer together. If there's ever a time to grab your friends and fly overseas only to stay in a series of hostels where the shower walls are covered in multiple types of hair, it's your 20s. Because I hear in your 30s and 40s, your back gets really crappy and you cannot handle sleeping on the floor/in a hut/next to a snoring German while all four of your friends complain about how it smells like farts in here.

2. Take a pretty nice vacation together because otherwise what are you saving all this money for? It might not be a five-star trip to Goa, but even just taking your friends and going somewhere where there are mints on the pillows and a swim-up bar (aka heaven) and hot waiters will make you feel like you're on a CW show about rich twentysomethings with trust funds, which is a feeling you all deserve to have.

3. Actually get to know the messiest parts of each other. It's easy to spend a lot of your time with your friends talking about superficial crap, and going over the details of your day and how work was, but it's just as important to take some time to get to know the things that made them who they are. It's so fascinating and wonderful to have a whole night devoted to figuring out your friends' saddest memories, their happiest memories, their scariest memories, etc. You do those things with guys you date, so why wouldn't you do them with the women you'll probably know for the rest of your life, aka your #RealSoulMates? Plus, you can drink wine while it happens.

4. Get into a massive fight and work it out. You heard me. Say all the stuff you've been dying to say and don't sugarcoat anything. Call your friends out on the stuff they do that gets on your last freaking nerve and damn the consequences. Because once you purge all of that from your relationship, you'll not only be rid of all that hidden baggage between you, it'll show you that your friendship is strong as hell and can handle even the worst of fights, which is actually super comforting.

5. Stop comparing each other's bodies. Whether intentional or unintentional, verbally or not verbally, just stop it. You're all different and perfect and beautiful, and trying to figure out who has the thinnest thighs and if Bethany ate less than you did at lunch and what that means about who is better than whom is just nonsense garbage. Please just end it.

6. Have a dumb fight over you both liking the same guy and then let it go because who cares? I did this a few years ago with a guy who was not at all worth it (they never are) and I think was maybe a drug addict? Anyway, both my friend and I were into him for some reason, and it made me so mad until I realized we were being Those Girls, and I let it go and assumed neither one of us was meant to be with him anyway. Was I right? Who knows? But she and I are still friends and honestly, I never think about that dude ever.

7. Introduce your boyfriends to each other as if you're each other's parents because you basically are now. It doesn't have to be via a formal dinner, but just giving the introduction the air of "You're meeting the people I care about more than anyone else in the world and if they don't like you, they will not give me their blessing for us to be coupled, so you need to be the Jay Z of this dinner. I am serious" is really sweet and also accurate.

8. Help each other move. If for no other reason than the fact that every time you're over at their place you'll remember dragging their stupid mattress up three flights of stairs while sweating and blasting Taylor Swift and referencing the Friends "Pivot!" line over and over again. It's just a great memory to have.

9. Give each other all the crap you don't want anymore. Have your own swap meet where you give each other all the clothes and jewelry and housewares stuff you are so sick of because you want to KonMari-ing your lives, and also because now your friends' homes will be filled with a combination of all your things and their things, and that is so sweet I could maybe cry.

10. Doing absolutely nothing together and loving it. No dresses or heels or smoky eyes or blowouts or fancy restaurants or guys, just sitting around watching TV until you all fall asleep or go home. It's basically friendship heaven.

11. Work hard at a job you hate and then lean on your friend for support. Yes, you can also just endure it silently and pray for death, but actively allowing your friends to be your support system while working for someone who makes the boss from The Devil Wears Prada look like a Walmart greeter is so important.

12. Stop feeling shame about Instagramming all your #SquadGoals moments. Look, you'll want those memories later and you're proud of the people you love. As long as the stuff you do together doesn't involve like "group bullying of teens," it's totally fine to flaunt that.

13. Start working out together. This is the easiest way to make exercise feel like a team sport instead of a lonely trudge up a Stairmaster to hell, which is preferred.

14. Throw a dinner party where you all actually cook something. Can it be macaroni and cheese and cut-up hot dogs? Sure. I don't care. The point is to make something with your friends that you can all enjoy making and eating together (and to encourage you to be a little bit fancy because that's just fun).

15. Play a game you loved as kids together and really get into it. Whether that's Clue (my personal favorite) or Red Rover, get everyone together and be silly and fun as you were as kids, but without the insanely competitive spirit (or fear of failure) you had back then because who cares?

16. Spend time with each other's families. Getting to know the people behind the people you love is like a next-level bonding sessions. They hold the key to baby pictures and cute stories and also stories about your friends pooping habits as babies. It's a must-do.

17. Take a group class doing something you're pretty sure you'll all fail at. Advanced Kickboxing Taught Only in German? Why not! Hip Hop Dance for People Who Are Naturally Flexible? Sure. If you fail, at least you'll fail together, laughing the whole time.

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