You Feel Both Tired and Wired
You Work At Night
You Are Restless
You Struggle Sleeping Next To Your Partner
Your issue: "Exhausted" best sums up how you feel when you go to bed, yet your mind won't stop racing: I have to get going on our family vacation plans. Hmm, when's my turn to do soccer carpool again? Oh,wait, the plumber never did show up to fix the dripping sink—I need to call him. You toss and turn for hours, then feel drained in the morning.
Your fix: Give yourself a decent amount of time to wind down fully before you crawl into bed. "Think of your life as a dimmer switch, where you gradually ease yourself into sleep mode, rather than an on/off switch," recommend Norah Simpson, PhD, clinical assistant professor in the department of psychiatry at Stanford University. "To help get into that mindset, try taking a warm bath or shower and reading a calming book—no thrillers or intense dramas!—that will put you in a sleepy frame of mind."
Your issue: If your job has you on an after-dark schedule, you may feel like you're always running on empty. Daylight is key to regulating your body clock, so sleeping while the sun is shining can throw off the sleep/wake cycle. Besides, it can be hard to fall asleep when there are blue skies—not to mention family demands and social events.
Your fix: The ideal is to have a consistent daytime sleep/nighttime wake schedule. Your reality is another story—especially if you have kids. Try this, suggests Cathy Goldstein, MD, assistant professor of neurology at the University of Michigan: On the weekend or your day off, go to sleep in the morning right after you get home, wake at 1 p.m., and then live like a rock star by staying up until 3 a.m. and getting up at 11 a.m. That way, you'll feel less tired than if you tried to go right to a typical day/night schedule. Keep your bedroom dark and quiet, and time meals and other activities to suit your new "day."
Your issue: Your partner has rolled over, creating a mini mattress earthquake, and now you're wide awake at 2 a.m. He's not fully to blame—if you ate a dinner high in saturated fat, such as a burger and fries, it can set you up for wakefulness since your digestive system has to work overtime to break down these foods. Saturated fat can also disrupt the balance of bacteria in your belly, and potentially lower the production of serotonin, a hormone that relaxes your body. Wine is another culprit: A glass (or two) may help you nod off, but tends to interrupt your sleep cycle later on.
Your fix: The ideal sleep-inducing dinner is a mix of two key things: lean protein (such as tofu, turkey, skinless chicken breast or salmon) and complex carbohydrates (think lentils, sweet potato and quinoa). This combo has been shown to stimulate calming neurotransmitters that help you doze off. If you've been lying awake in bed for 20 minutes or so, "whatever you do, don't take a look at email or go online," cautions Dr. Goldstein. For one, it could make you worry about the coming day. Instead, head to another room and read or do something else restful with the lights dimmed.
Your issue: You're lounging in bed at 9:30 p.m., finishing up your book club read and looking forward to a nice catch-up with your TV-watching partner. Next thing you know, he's snoring.
Your fix: The best remedy if you're a night owl/early bird duo: communication. As Simpson notes, "Some couples compromise on a preferred bedtime, while others adjust to shared middle-ground time on the weekend."