Sex Men Crave After 30

As a guy gets older, his desires change in a few very specific (and kinda kinky) ways.

Guys are pretty much happy as long as they’re having sex—you naked and willing is you naked and willing. But we polled more than 1,500 men and discovered that what kind of booty they’re into changes as they exit their 20s. “Younger men are usually just excited to be having sex,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. “Once they enter their 30s, the novelty has worn off, and they’re looking for a deeper connection and for ways to fight sexual boredom.” The great news for you? Dudes get more experimental with age...and a lot more generous.

There’s a Move They’re Eager To Do
Most guys in their early 20s told us that there’s nothing like a BJ to put them in the mood for sex. But the studs in the 30 to 34 age range? Most of them said going down on you is the best way to get them erect. “Mature men understand that pleasure is better when you’re both experiencing it,” says Kerner.

There’s a New Place They Want to Be Touched
While only about 23 percent of guys under 30 are open to the idea of your knocking at their back door, almost half the men in their 30s said it’s an idea that they can, uh, get behind. “Older men are more comfortable with their bodies and want to explore different areas,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., author of Touch Me There! Slowly massage his perineum (the tender spot between his balls and his butt). If he doesn’t object, work your way back.

There’s Something They Now Want to Share
81 percent of 30-somethings said it turns them on to watch porn with their partners—a big step up from 61 percent of 20-somethings. Experts say that’s probably because younger guys are more likely to worry you’ll judge them if they suggest it. When a guy reaches his 30s, says Kerner, he’s confident enough in his desires to share them with you, often as a way to keep things hot in a long-term, committed relationship.