A bunch of men who date women took to Reddit recently to get very real about what they wish their partners would do more in their relationships. We're not sure why they feel they can't just communicate their needs to their wives, girlfriends, partners etc. But here it is...
1."Making decisions. My ex would refuse to make any decisions about what we were going to do. If I was visiting her she wouldn't buy food until I'd arrived and decided what we were going to eat."
2."Compliments. As a guy, we are constantly expected to shower women with praise and prop up their confidence, so that they can feel pretty, smart, and overall awesome (which I absolutely don't mind at all). On the other end, the vast majority of women I've dated hardly ever complimented me. Men are just expected to be confident and strong in their personality without anyone telling them how great they are. Being in long term relationships with women who don't compliment you enough, while occasionally catching them parroting the, 'men ain't shit' line around their friends really can be a confidence breaker."
3."Take me out to dinner once in a while, please. It seems to always be my idea, I drive, and I pay. For once it would be nice to be the one being treated to a night out."
4."Holding the door for you, it as always been a thing man 'should' do but it feels good when people do that for you."
5."Two words: Big spoon. I like to be held, ya feel?"
6."Initiate sex. I’m tired of being told that it’s the man's job to start it. I think for once we’d all enjoy it if the woman took some interest in initiating."
"I want fucking flowers once in my life"
7."I wish girls would compliment more. Tell me I look nice or compliment my outfit. We will never admit it but this makes us feel like superman. All of these things go both ways of course."
8."I want fucking flowers once in my life, I'm a huge fan of giving flowers and I love plants a lot, but never in my life [have I been given them]. I need to one day open the door and have some flowers delivered to me."
9."Give massages. It's been years since I have received one, yet I give my wife one at least once a week."
10."Let us be a grumpy cunt for a day or few... Sometimes I’ve just had enough shit build up and I need to be quiet, moody, and generally have an air of 'fuck off' about me. Not openly hostile, just need to stew."
11."Give complements. We may not be great at taking them but they still make a massive difference coming from you."
"It's hard trying to be funny and strong all the time"
12."Play with my hair. It's hard trying to be funny and strong all the time. Sometimes I just want to put my head in her lap and have her run her fingers all through my hair."
13."Communicate. If you want something, say it. When I ask what you want for Christmas or your birthday day, tell me what it is you want. I am not a mind reader, NO ONE IS A MIND READER."
14."DIY and home repair. My wife tends to assume I know wtf I'm doing. Sheas shocked when I told her I'm figuring it out as I go.
15."I personally love when someone I’m seeing takes a candid photo of me (not the basic across the table one) more like when you’re out and someone appreciates how you look and would like to share from their perspective. I am always the photographer and sometimes it’s nice to be on the other end of the lens."
16."Emotional support when I’m having a rough day. In past relationships I was mocked for crying if I had a particularly rough day, or even after the death of my grandfather."