Knowing when to end a long-term relationship or breakup with a partner can be really difficult - especially if there's no huge fall out or argument to spur it on. Sometimes, it's pretty obvious it's time to call it quits, whether that's down to toxic relationship behaviour or someone cheating (which admittedly, isn't always a deal-breaker). But making that decision can be tricky. How do you know it's actually time, and not just a "rough patch" you could work through?
Here, 11 men share the moment they realised they no longer loved their partner.
1. "When I realised that I cared for her because I feel obligated to, not because I loved her."
2. "One day I was walking home from work and it hit me like a ton of bricks that I only really enjoyed having a boyfriend when we weren't actually together in person."
3. "When getting together to do anything just felt like going through the motions, and I stopped getting excited to see her."
4. "When I realised I don't have to be with anyone who is okay with having an affair and cheating on me. She never blamed me, she never used me as an excuse for her actions. She revealed the affair and we decided to work on it. However she was not helping me rebuild my trust. She made it harder for me. Five months later she revealed she cheated again, packed her shit and left two days later. I realised it was completely over when we had discussions about relationships we were having during our separation and it didn't phase me."
5. "When we held hands and I felt nothing."
6. "We were out to dinner and I realised I didn’t want to be there at all anymore, and that I was bored to tears. We split soon after."
7. "When we'd spent the weekend together and I was just chilling on the sofa with her watching a TV show. Then she said around 9pm, 'So, when are you going back to your place?' As in, she wanted me to leave. There was no disagreement or anything and I just left. That's when I realised how we just didn't click. We had a chat afterwards and we agreed that things weren't working out and that we really had no feelings for each other (we'd been dating for six months). I was just sticking around because it was better than being alone."
8. "She asked, 'Do you even care that I'm upset?!' I realised I didn't."
9. "I started to notice when I no longer had the urge to go out of my way to hang out with her. I preferred staying home rather than hanging out with her, and realised that I was no longer romantically interested in her."
10. "When she went on trip for a month and the day she came back I would realised I'd rather stay in bed."