Okay, you've heard of a clitoral orgasm and you've heard of the G-spot kind - both damn good in their own right. Now imagine if you blended the two types for some phenomenal fireworks - ike a grand finale. Yep, you can actually do that. It takes some specific techniques - which we will tell you (of course!) - and a bit of practice, but experts say it's a skill even you can master.
As we said, a blended O is the combination of the two different ways women can climax. Clitoral orgasms usually come on faster because that area is so accessible. G-spot orgasms-named for the dime size pleasure zone behind your inner vaginal wall-are considered much more intense because they reverberate from inside your body. "By simultaneously having your clitoris and G-spot stroked, you mix the unique sensations of each peak into one, resulting in a longer, deeper experience," explains Ava Cadell, Ph.D., a certified sex therapist in Los Angeles.
This kind of a big bang won't just leave you feeling ah-mazing; your guy will reap its benefits too. "A blended orgasm actually requires different touches on two distinct body areas, and this extra effort naturally slows him down and helps him last longer," says Cadell. Plus, men love it when a woman really loses herself in lust. Watching you experience twice the power of a regular O will absolutely drive him over the edge as well. And the way we see it, it actually works for both of you.
HOW TO ACHIEVE ONE ON YOUR VERY OWN
Before you pursue a blended O with your guy, it's a good idea to go ahead and learn the ropes on your own so you're then able to better direct him, explains Lori Buckley, Psy.D., a certified sex therapist in Pasadena, California.
The best way to start is by lying on your back comfortably and letting your body de-stress. When you feel relaxed, begin manually stroking your clitoris lightly. As you become more aroused, increase your pressure and speed until you're close to reaching your peak.
Once you're near the brink, take your hand off your clitoris and move it to your G-spot. If you're not sure where yours is, locate it this way: Insert a finger palm-up about an inch or two into your vagina, feeling for a spongy or puckered area along the front wall. It might sound a little complex, but when you get down to locating it, you wouldn't find it so complicated. You'll know you've found it when a warm, sexy sensation washes over you...one that may even make you feel like you need to pee (because your G is near your bladder, it can trigger the urge to urinate, but don't worry, this should subside in a few seconds).
As you massage your G and become increasingly excited, resume stimulating your clitoris with your other hand or a vibrator...but don't take your finger off your G-spot at any time. "While touching both, charge full speed ahead until you reach an explosive, pulsing kind of climax," says Buckley. It might exhaust you initially but the fruits of your labour will leave you in a trance. If it doesn't happen the first time, practice, practice, practice. Rome wasn't built in a day ladies!
GETTING YOUR GUY IN ON THE ACTION
Once you've located your G-spot and finally know how to bring yourself to a blended orgasm, you're ready to go for it with him. Why wait forever-direct him and see how amazing you feel by the end of it all. This position should make it easier: Lie on your back on the bed, your feet dangling over the edge, with a few pillows underneath your bottom to raise your pelvis. "It'll be far easier for your man's penis to hit your G-spot properly if your vagina is elevated," says Buckley.
Have your guy stand or kneel (depending on how tall he is and how far off the floor the bed is) as he penetrates you. You two will end up forming an L shape-he shouldn't lean too far over your body though because you'll soon need room to reach down and touch your clitoris. Once he's inside you and you feel his penis stroke your G, have him thrust until you feel close to a mind blowing climax...then ask him to stop and remain very still. Let him watch as you softly tease your clitoris with your fingers. Guys love a little action on roll anyway. "Switch back and forth between touching your clitoris and stopping and having him thrust until you can't take it anymore. You have to do both the moves at the same time. It'll lead to an incredibly explosive finale," says Cadell.
NOW THAT YOU'RE A PRO
Once you've mastered this missionary move, test-drive a few slightly trickier- yet super pleasurable-positions. One option is a blended O during doggie-style. "When you're on all fours and he's thrusting from behind, his penis should naturally find your G-spot," says Buckley. Lean your upper body against the bed for support while reaching down and massaging your clitoris as he thrusts.
But doggie-style offers a bigger bonus: You can make him do all the work while you revel in the after effects of all his hardwork. His hand is free to rub your clitoris as he thrusts, putting him totally in charge of the two different types of stimulation.
If you crave more control over the Gspot stroking, try woman on top. "Face your guy, then lower yourself onto his body, and lean forward while you are doing it. You'll feel his penis tickling your G-spot," says Cadell. "Because you're on top, you can thrust fast or slow, up and down, or in circles while you or he touches your clitoris." Magic fingers at work, is all you need. Or another thing you could do is that by leaning as far enough as you can...thrust, your clitoris will rub against his pelvis, creating completely hands-free stimulation that will culminate in blended O nirvana. Blend his moves with yours and experience the ecstatic heights you reach.