Despite all the ups and downs of high school—grades, poorly highlighted hair, or the VS Pink sweatpants I blew my monthly allowance on—the one thing that remained constant throughout those years was my major crush on Overland Park’s basketball superstar, Brett Bond.
To him, I will never be more than the ‘excuse me’ he said as he grazed my shoulder on the staircase back in the day. But to me, he will always be the dude I mindlessly swipe search for on dating apps when I return home for the holidays.
This is called hometown holidating—aka when you download a dating app when you're home on break in hopes of matching and reconnecting with your old crush. You probably don't even realize you're doing it when you are, but what you DO know is that you glowed the eff up post-high school, and yes, you are now in their league.
“People often fantasize about returning to their hometowns as a more confident and successful version of themselves to get the guy/girl of their high school dreams," says Tinder's Dating and Relationship expert Darcy Sterling, PhD.
And now that dating is as easy as a swipe of your finger, the fantasy of bagging your former love when you're home has become more attainable than ever before.
But, be warned: There are some pros and cons behind swiping for your version of Brett Bond (who, by the way, is seemingly happily cuffed, given the evidence I found after searching for him this past Thanksgiving). Here, Sterling breaks it down for you:
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Cons
So, although I may never be more than a doe-eyed plebe who watched Brett Bond from our stadium high school bleachers (*cue the Tay Swift song*), swiping in hopes of reconnecting with him was worth the minimal effort.