The 17 Best Porn Sites for Women

As we all know (because we are women), women enjoy porn just as much as guys do. But it's shockingly hard to find good porn in which the woman is actually enjoying herself in a realistic way, and doesn't make you feel bad or sad or just not horny at all. If you don't want to mess up your Google search results by getting deep into some porn searches, I've gotten especially picky and reviewed the best 17 sites for woman-friendly porn. Sites are rated on a scale of 1 to 5, 1 being a sad face emoji, 5 being heart eyes. Now let's broaden our horizons, shall we? (Not too broad though — this is going be an entirely urine-free list. Sorry.)

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Lady Cheeky's Smut for Smarties is the most popular Tumblr around and it's because it's super hot, but at the same time feels classy and smart. There are sexy quotes, black and white photos (v. arty, so you feel 80 percent less pervy!), and super hot GIFs capturing the exactly perfect moments of great sex.

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Literotica is ugly and hard to navigate, but a ton of my friends swear by it, mostly for the erotic stories. The good thing about it is that it has everything. Want stories about "erotic hypnosis and mind control"? There are over 3,400 of them. That is also the bad news. It's kind of like shopping at TJ Maxx — you have to know what you're looking for. You might find something super hot that's totally up your alley or you might end up reading a story where the whole family, including grandpa, are having sex with each other. Stories are free, but videos are $6/30 minutes.

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Sounds of Pleasure is a simple Tumblr featuring just the sounds of sex. Listening to someone having sex is surprisingly intimate — it's thrilling and voyeuristic all at once, like overhearing something you shouldn't. SoP has dirty talk, audio from people having sex with themselves or others, and JOI (jerk-off instructions). There's also the 100 to 1 challenge in which people try to count backwards while stimulating themselves, which remains hot until you suddenly hear it as people who have a big-time sexual fetish for numbers.

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Orgasmic Tips for Girls is "a blog about sex, masturbation, orgasms, relationships and body positivity," but it's kind of like sitting around with girlfriends, talking about sex, asking questions you can't ask anywhere else, and sharing the hottest stuff you've found. Yesterday someone shared a video (full-length! Free!) that sucked 24 minutes out of my day but I didn't even care because it was so hot I practically passed out.

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Yeah, yeah, PornHub is also, like, the worst for women. But skip all hetero fare with titles like "brunette gets slammed," the comically fake emoting and way-too-long fingernails, and click on the gay male porn. And don't feel like a weirdo. A lot of women, gay and straight, like to watch men doin' it because (1) the men are generally kind to each other, (2) they seem to be actually into it, plus, (3) double the penises!

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Maybe this is a personal quirk, like the gay porn thing, but to me, there is nothing hotter than someone being overcome by lust — and Hysterical Literature is all about that. Artist Clayton Cubitt (Yes, this is actually an art project, so if you need justification, there you go!) put together a series of films, each featuring a woman sitting at a table reading a passage from a book of her choice. As she reads, an unseen person under the table stimulates her with a vibrator. As the women get closer and closer to orgasm, they struggle to keep it together but soon their proper reading of, say, Walt Whitman's Leaves of Grass becomes an incoherent series of gasps and moans. It's beautiful, funny, smart, and very, very sexy.

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I was never into gigantic foreskin or gingers — in fact, probably a little anti-, if you must know — but my friend tipped me off to the Naughty Foreskin tumblr and I was fascinated. It's just one guy, yes a redhead, with a truly epic foreskin. He never shows his face but he does post videos of himself jerking off. And people — women, men, gay, straight, trans — are, like, in love with that dick of his. Anonymous, for example, wrote, "Fuck! I wanna marry your dick, your dick is just perfection its superior, love it :)" It's kind of weird, but totally compelling.

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XConfessions: $19.95/month, but you can watch two films with a free trial.

Each month, filmmaker Erika Lust takes two reader-submitted fantasies and turns them into short erotic films. Since women are picking the topics, they really are "what women want" and cover everything from Mad Men porn to IKEA-themed sex (oh, yeah). All of it's lusciously filmed with gorgeous locales and good-looking (but not porny-looking) fuckers and fuckees. Plus, this is not especially arousing or anything, but Lust employs a bunch of women behind the scenes, treats her actors well, is a big feminist, etc. It's kind of like the porn version of fair-trade coffee.

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Beautiful Agony: $14.95/ month, but there are free previews.

The main page for Beautiful Agony, an arty site from the Netherlands, is full of thumbnail shots of people making their "O" face. That alone isn't so great, but a click on each one reveals a video showing just that person's face as they ride toward, then through le petite mort, French for "little death" or orgasm. It feels super intimate and hits your sexual brain from a whole different angle.

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Good Vibrations After Dark: about $5–9 to stream a video, $10 or so to stream and download, or pay by the minute ($5.95/30 minutes).

This rating varies depending on what you order (5 being some hot Euro film I saw, 2 being a lesbian vaginal fisting thing that made me want to airlift ice packs to that poor vagina. In fairness, though, she seemed to be quite into it.) The venerable San Francisco sex toy store is known for sex-positivity for all women — straight or LGBTQ — and their selection reflects this. There are all kinds of niche choices including how-to videos, vintage porn, feminist porn, queer porn, and the beautifully named category "All Sex-No Plot."

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I Feel Myself: $29.95/month, with a few free videos.

The IFM rec comes from one of my readers, Murca, an Estonian who describes herself as "almost a bit bisexual happily married girl." Wrote Murca: "The videos there are so intimate it almost creeps me out sometimes. Like I'm not sure if I really was invited to this stranger's bedroom but here I am." IFM has over 300 videos of women making themselves come in a variety of ways. It could be objectifying and/or anti-feminist but somehow it feels empowering — partially because the women submit the videos themselves and partly because they have clit-rubbing, sometimes unpretty orgasms like most women actually have IRL. (If you'd prefer to watch wanking dudes, try Stroke That Dick. Super sexy!)

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Kink.com: Videos about $10

If you're into kink, you probably already know about Kink.com, but if you're a beginner, it's a good place to start. It's sort of like a Big Box store for BSDM, fetishes, and other kinks — they'll probably have what you want and other things you didn't know you wanted may end up in your cart as well.

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Bright Desire: $19.95/first month, $9.95 thereafter. Or individual video-on-demand for around $16–20 for seven days.

Bright Desire bills itself as "smart porn for men and women." Don't worry, there's still plenty of boning in their collection of films, short scenes, and clips, but there's better cinematography and a bit of backstory. Like this from "Instructed": "Pandora Blake arrives at a hotel room, expecting to see her lover, D. Instead, she finds a letter bearing explicit instructions as to what she should do to prepare herself for him." Oh, yeah.

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Pink Label TV: $7.99–14.99 for video rental

Pink Label is the equivalent to a college town's organic co-op — everything is "ethical," inclusive, and little expensive. Ethical also means fair compensation for workers, safer sex, and consent all around. Pink Label also offers a showcase for quality indie filmmakers, like Pink & White Productions, who specialize in "blurred gender lines and fluid sexualities." Slide on a bit of patchouli lube and you're good to go. (Unless patchouli lube would cause irritation, then do nothing of the kind.)

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Super artsy with gorgeous stills and sexy films with names like Alchemy, Flux, or The Renascence (note delightfully cerebral Edna St. Vincent Millay spelling.) The "cinema" section (see also: artsy AF) has similarly highbrow fare (but don't worry, still SUPER hot) like "The Decadence." The accompanying note reads "the thiasus, was the ecstatic retinue of Dionysus" which roughly translated means five people completely losing it while all having attractively filmed sex together. The stills and clips are free, but full-length films will cost you a donation.

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"Want to read about your favorite characters getting it on six ways to Sunday? YOU CAN," said the fellow perv who turned me onto this site. John/Sherlock? Steve Rogers/Tony Stark? A Transformer, doing...whatever it is they do? AO3 has high-quality fan fiction (not an oxymoron) and plenty of it. Ask a bookish chick about how many fics they've bookmarked on the site, and they'll think you're looking into their very soul. The only reason I knocked it down half a point was because there was only one story about my lust object, Marc Maron, and all he did in it was have a fully-clothed (wtf!?) discussion with Louis CK. Get on this, someone!

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If you're the type of person who needs to make sure your porn is totally in the clear sexism and ethics-wise, cartoons are they way to go. Even if it's Hitler in a boxing match with Trump or whatever, no actual crazed dictators are exploited because, comics. Not real. (If you want to start with a free site, try Oglaf. Bonus: written by a woman.) Oglaf and Slipshine are both openly sex-positive and supportive of all genders, orientations, colors, so you don't have to feel bad about getting off to it.

Jill Hamilton writes the blog "In Bed With Married Women." Follow her on Twitter.