What to Do When Your Boyfriend is Selfish In Bed

It's how you tell him.

So you've been dating a great guy and everything's fine except...he's not the most giving in bed. He used to be awesome, but as the months or years went by, your sex life has gone from woah! to weak.

"When a couple has been together for a while, the guy may feel that he doesn't need to prove himself any more," says Michael Perry, Ph.D., creator of the What Women Really Want video. Entice him into revisiting your headboard-rocking days. Say this: "Remember when we used to do X,Y, and Z? That really turned me on." "The key is to focus on how he can benefit, not what he's been doing wrong," says Perry.