Here's how to have great phone sex without feeling awkward

Long-distance relationships can be tricky when it comes to sexual pleasure, since your only options are either sexing it up with them through technology or using your imagination to do yourself. Both options are great (time to invest in one or more vibrators!) but phone sex can help you add intimacy to the equation. Having said that, most sexual partners find this shift a little difficult and, in some cases, awkward but beyond the initial nervous, lies an ocean of orgasms and sexual chemistry!

Getting experimental in your sex life is like a stepping stone to getting dirtier between the sheets. Especially when distance enters the chat, you can continue doing your routine video calls but with a sneaky twist to up the anticipation.

But not all digital sex talk takes place because of geographical distance, many sexually active partners enjoy a little online romance every now and then. Sexting may or may not involve the removal of clothes, intimate touching, taking, and sending photos, the use of toys, costumes, etc. But in the most realistic sense, it can be anything the two of you want it to be.

As you venture out into this new world of sex and self-pleasure, you may need to go easy on your inhibitions! Here are simple and sultry ways to enjoy phone sex. 

Set the mood right

Since it’s not your everyday jam, you might want to mentally and maybe even physically get yourself ready for this joy ride. If you think that is where the awkwardness begins, try starting with smaller conversations about sex with your partner. This practice doesn’t necessarily mean indulging in phone sex; it’s only to get you comfortable enough to come (pun intended) to that point. 

Get creative with your imagination 

When it comes to phone sex, you should be able to express in words how you feel (or want to feel) when you are aroused. To amp up your textual seduction, read up a lot of erotica—be it a passionate poem on love-making to a short column on cheap thrills. Don’t forget to take inspiration and tweak it to your fantasy aspirations with your partner. 

Pick your side

No, we are not talking about the side of the bed you prefer but about whether you want to be submissive or dominant. Based on your mood and preferences, pick a side. If you enjoy being a sub, frequent soft moans with you telling them how you’d like to be made love to is a simple way to start off. Similarly, if you know you’d only ever be dominant, then anything you say with confidence and a hint of control can act as a major turn-on. If you are finding it tough to do both, fake it till you make it!

Set your boundaries 

After a regular play of spicy conversations if you still find yourself feeling uncomfortable in some aspects, reroute the direction of the dialogue and get it to a safe place. Yes, phone sex is all about pleasure but it’s also important to set the dos and don’ts. In no way is this a turn-off, because you can always set boundaries and hit home runs too! 

Amp up the anticipation 

The waiting game can make the two of you a little impatient but that also means what you are doing so far in your phone sex journey together is helping! In the time leading up to your next sex sesh, feel free to explore yourself and share snippets of it while you do so. While you are at it you’ll finally realise that you are letting go of your inhibitions and joining the coveted phone sex club!