7 Warning Signs That You Have Fallen Out Of Love, According to a Relationship Expert

Does your relationship feel like a chore and not-so-exciting? Author of the book Love, Lust and Lemons and relationship expert, Shahzeen Shivdasani shares signs that you are out of love and your relationship is over.

It is difficult to recreate the initial days of your relationship — the excitement, the flirting and the chase! However, as time goes on, you learn to appreciate other things about your partner and settle into an attachment phase of love. While there is nothing wrong about a stable, cosy relationship, there are some red flags that you need to watch out for to avoid future heartbreaks and letdowns.

Shahzeen Shivdasani, author and relationship expert

"Relationships. Anyone in a long-term relationship will tell you that keeping the connection and intimacy alive after so many years of dating, isn’t easy. However, sometimes along the way, we fall out of love. And, as much as we don’t want to admit it to ourselves, we shrug this extremely important factor under the table, because leaving someone who has become such a huge part of your life is frightening."

However, without love, a relationship can’t survive and we have to pay attention to know this truth. Take a look at five signs that will tell you if you have fallen out of love

You are not attracted to them anymore

"They don’t really excite you anymore, do they? The thought of hanging out and planning things with them is something you look forward to but you don’t feel any sort of stimulation from. To maintain attraction in relationships, both parties have to keep it fun and exciting. And, when it is not nurtured right, it dies."

You’re spending more time away from them

"Do you wish to spend more time with friends and family to be away from your partner? That’s a huge red flag. Obviously, something about your bond isn’t making you feel good anymore if you want to physically distance yourself from them. This is a clear indication that your feelings towards your significant other are certainly not feelings of love."

Silence is better than one more argument

"If you find yourself picking silence over actually sorting out the problem then you have basically given up on your own relationship. There are always going to be discourses when trying to make a life with someone. The moment you stop wanting to talk about it because you feel that it’s pointless, that’s you not being interested anymore."

You’re into someone else

"If you secretly wish you were dating someone else then darling, you are definitely not in love with the person you are with and you are also fully aware of it. It is normal to feel attracted towards people but wanting to actually date them, is a sure sign that you are done with this relationship."

You can’t seem to place them in thoughts about your future

"Where do you see yourself in five years? Are they in this vision? If they’re not in it, then that’s your answer. When you love someone your future fantasies involve them. They make the thought of tomorrow a better place. So, if they aren’t there, then perhaps you’re not where you think you are right now."

Falling in love is easy. Recognizing that it isn’t love anymore is difficult to see. Love blinds us to believe in the word forever. However, some things don’t last the test of time.

You owe it to yourself to find something that does and to not hold anyone back from finding it either.