There are a lot of people who have a predictable sex routine because they have no idea how to sexperiment. Now it can be daunting, especially if you imagine experimenting with sex, to be as extreme as what you see in movies and novels. But rest assured, you don't need to go there right away. In fact, with Valentine's Day only a day away, we encourage you to slow things down and explore one thing at a time by introducing erotic adult games, roleplay, and BDSM into your relationship.
Finding new and exciting ways to enjoy sex is a great way to bond with your partner; it fosters intimacy and helps you explore new ways of satisfying both, your partner and yourself. Now looking for ways to spice up your sex life doesn't mean you’re bored with the way you’re having sex. It just means that you're open to exploring new sexual experiences.
The gamification of sex
Some of our favourites include naked twister, strip poker, red light green light (for all you Squid Game lovers), strip scrabble, the position challenge (how many sex positions you can go through before each of you achieve an orgasm), strip pong, oral dice, stop and start (when you first start kissing each other, set a timer and do what you please to your partner; when the timer goes off, whatever your partner was just leading with, you must follow, switching roles), open your mouth and close your eyes (tell them to close their eyes while you move a part of your body in front of their mouths. When you say open your mouth, they can kiss, lick, or suck whatever part you want them to), x marks the spot (as you kiss your partner, they will tell you if you're getting warmer or colder to wherever they put the "X" on their body). So what’s it going to be?
What makes a game fun is participating together within a set of rules, roles, and defined boundaries. These allow you to have some fun while you explore and know what's going to happen, what's not going to happen, and what the goals are!
Living another fantasy via roleplay
Digging the 50 Shades kink that is BDSM
But it also covers things like spanking, light bondage, blindfolds, and other forms of erotic play that all couples can use to broaden their sexual play together and explore different kinds of sensations.
Why adult games, roleplay, and BDSM are all the rage?
Sex is all about how and what you feel, both literally and metaphorically. Combine the two and what one gets are two crucial factors that can improve your sex life, especially through adult games, roleplay, and BDSM.
Sensation play touches upon (no pun intended) all the ways that you can use toys, implements, or your own hands to increase the range of sensations you give to your lover. So think about running ice cubes down their back, spanking, using paddles, and pricking them with a prickly wheel of needles.
In power play, one partner is dominant while the other partner is submissive, and you explore the sensations, both physical and emotional, of that deliberate power exchange. This is where we explore the eroticism of vulnerability and control, of being dominant and bossy, or being very yielding and receptive. A lot of people, especially those in extreme power roles in their everyday lives, love the opportunity to go into this altered state where they either give up total erotic control or take all that control and channel it into being a hot, erotic, dominant top.
Inputs by Pallavi Barnwal, sexuality and intimacy coach, founder of GetIntimacy.
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