Adult games, roleplay, and more—how to make this Valentine's Day a steamy one

It’s time to spice up your sex life.

14 February, 2024
Adult games, roleplay, and more—how to make this Valentine's Day a steamy one

There are a lot of people who have a predictable sex routine because they have no idea how to sexperiment. Now it can be daunting, especially if you imagine experimenting with sex, to be as extreme as what you see in movies and novels. But rest assured, you don't need to go there right away. In fact, with Valentine's Day only a day away, we encourage you to slow things down and explore one thing at a time by introducing erotic adult games, roleplay, and BDSM into your relationship. 

Finding new and exciting ways to enjoy sex is a great way to bond with your partner; it fosters intimacy and helps you explore new ways of satisfying both, your partner and yourself. Now looking for ways to spice up your sex life doesn't mean you’re bored with the way you’re having sex. It just means that you're open to exploring new sexual experiences. 

The gamification of sex

So how can couples create an erotic game together and what should the game be? The word 'game' has some special significance in this scenario, because think about it, kicking a ball back and forth without any rules, becomes more of an activity than a game. But when you go to the field, set up the goal, and then start the game, with each player putting their best foot forward, that is when it's a fun game. The same goes for games in the bedroom!  

Some of our favourites include naked twister, strip poker, red light green light (for all you Squid Game lovers), strip scrabble, the position challenge (how many sex positions you can go through before each of you achieve an orgasm), strip pong, oral dice, stop and start (when you first start kissing each other, set a timer and do what you please to your partner; when the timer goes off, whatever your partner was just leading with, you must follow, switching roles), open your mouth and close your eyes (tell them to close their eyes while you move a part of your body in front of their mouths. When you say open your mouth, they can kiss, lick, or suck whatever part you want them to), x marks the spot (as you kiss your partner, they will tell you if you're getting warmer or colder to wherever they put the "X" on their body). So what’s it going to be?  

What makes a game fun is participating together within a set of rules, roles, and defined boundaries. These allow you to have some fun while you explore and know what's going to happen, what's not going to happen, and what the goals are!

Living another fantasy via roleplay

Phil and Claire Dunphy (Modern Family) showed the world just how fun role-playing can be when they took on the roles of  Clive Bixby—a visiting businessman and Julianna—a local housewife. These were some of the best scenes in the entire series. The two of them dreamed of being someone else for just one night, and you could too. You can keep the role-play as complex or as simple as you like with costumes and backstories. It's important for both of you to let your imagination run wild to heighten sexual pleasure and tap into each other’s sexual fantasies. It not only allows you to step out of your comfort zone but is also a great way for you and your partner to bond, allowing your sexual encounters to be more intimate and fulfilling.

Now if you’ve never explored this before, it’s best to talk it out with your partner. Discuss what scenarios and characters you are comfortable with and what’s completely out of bounds. An open and honest discussion will help you both understand what aspect means the most to each of you in role-playing. Some examples include nurse and patient, student and teacher, electrician or plumber and the housewife, boss and secretary, a masseuse and their client, landlord and tenant, etc.

Digging the 50 Shades kink that is BDSM

Let us first understand what BDSM is; it is a mashup of a bunch of terms that describe a wide range of sexual activities that consenting adults can explore together. The broad definition of BDSM is bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism. So it covers a massive range of power play, intense sensations, role-playing, and things as extreme as piercing, piss play, tying up your partner with a dog leash, suspending them from the ceiling, and all of these things that are really advanced, extreme forms of erotic play.

But it also covers things like spanking, light bondage, blindfolds, and other forms of erotic play that all couples can use to broaden their sexual play together and explore different kinds of sensations. 

Why adult games, roleplay, and BDSM are all the rage?

Sex is all about how and what you feel, both literally and metaphorically. Combine the two and what one gets are two crucial factors that can improve your sex life, especially through adult games, roleplay, and BDSM.

Sensation play touches upon (no pun intended) all the ways that you can use toys, implements, or your own hands to increase the range of sensations you give to your lover. So think about running ice cubes down their back, spanking, using paddles, and pricking them with a prickly wheel of needles.

In power play, one partner is dominant while the other partner is submissive, and you explore the sensations, both physical and emotional, of that deliberate power exchange. This is where we explore the eroticism of vulnerability and control, of being dominant and bossy, or being very yielding and receptive. A lot of people, especially those in extreme power roles in their everyday lives, love the opportunity to go into this altered state where they either give up total erotic control or take all that control and channel it into being a hot, erotic, dominant top. 

Inputs by Pallavi Barnwal, sexuality and intimacy coach, founder of GetIntimacy.

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