How do you get over your ex-boss?

It's almost as challenging (and necessary) as getting over an ex!

13 January, 2024
How do you get over your ex-boss?

During the course of our careers, we sometimes happen to luck out with a boss so cool that it seems they are straight out of a sitcom. Over time, they, to an extent, become our go-to folks, who not only teach us valuable lessons but also help shape who we are, personally and professionally. But unexpected opportunities for growth and advancement force us to bid farewell to some of our favourite faces at work. This inevitable transition is often accompanied by the lingering difficulty of not being able to emotionally detach yourself. Simply put, getting over a kickass boss can be almost the same (if not more difficult) as getting over an ex partner.

So, what do you do when you’re stuck on your boss (now ex-boss)? Here’s how you can deal with it.

Acknowledge your feelings

When you confront your emotions head-on, you create space for self-reflection and understanding. It's okay to feel a flux of emotions, especially in times of change. So step one to dealing with the problem is to acknowledge it and allow yourself to feel your emotions. 

Focus on professional goals 

Focusing on professional growth during the transition from an old boss to a new work environment involves setting clear and achievable goals. Take the initiative to identify learning opportunities such as workshops or online courses that enhance your skills and keep you updated on industry trends. Actively seek new responsibilities and challenges in your current role and consider networking with colleagues to broaden your professional connections.

Refrain from comparing your new boss with your ex-boss 

You may often find yourself comparing the decisions made by your current boss and that of your ex-boss. It's important to have an open mind and be receptive towards the different working patterns of both individuals. This approach will help you understand your current boss better. Essentially, embracing these differences will require letting go of the past experiences, thus making it more manageable.

Build relationships with your colleagues 

Colleagues form the backbone of a supportive and collaborative workplace. These connections not only foster camaraderie but also provide a network of support, making the challenges of adapting to a new workplace more manageable. A positive work atmosphere, created through strong relationships with colleagues, enhances motivation, encourages knowledge sharing, and contributes to an overall sense of belonging, making your professional journey more rewarding and enjoyable. 

Allow yourself some time 

Finally, take it slow and allow yourself some time to take in your new environment. Remind yourself that leaving a workspace doesn't necessarily imply letting go of the people and lessons you've encountered. You can always cherish the experiences and the knowledge gained as they are essential for your career progression. Because at the end of the day, its the learnings that contribute to your growth and development in the professional realm.