How regular check-ins can make your long-distance relationship last

Long-distance relationships a.k.a. LDRs do not seem uncommon nowadays as many people are taking the leap of faith. And with technology at their fingertips, communication and staying in touch with each other has become easier—texting, video calling, you name it. But it may not always be easy to be in one. The popular take on LDR is that it doesn't work in the long run. Most families and friends discourage it or advise to not take the relationship too seriously as the chances of it lasting are slim.  

On the brighter side, the extra distance makes simple things sweeter. The build-up to see your partner next can often feel unending, but when the wait is over, the feeling is unmatched! Being able to hold each other's hands, dining at the same table, feeling each other's touch, and hanging out together, everything becomes extra special and magical. When distance separates two people, emotional connection and support, along with maintaining the spark is imperative. It may require work, but which relationship doesn't. Here are some important check-ins to that will help make your LDR last and be hassle-free. 

Communication is key

It is very easy to get caught up in your own life when you don’t have your partner physically around. But it is important to have regular and clear communication with them so that both partners feel secure and equally heard. Candid and frequent communication will only benefit the relationship and help in avoiding misunderstandings. 

Honesty is the best policy

One of the greatest challenges of an LDR is being able to fully trust the person. In any relationship being honest and open with the other person is essential, but even more so in an LDR. It is easy to hide information or be untruthful or leave out details in the absence of your significant other because it is convenient to do so. However, this leaves the other person unsettled and insecure, thus being detrimental to your relationship. 

Do things together

Today, technology allows us to play games online or watch movies together. A lot of LD couples also co-exist; it may sound absurd but having your partner on a video call, while each of you engages in their work, can bring about a feeling of closeness and comfort. Just knowing the other person can see you and is present is a nice feeling.

Set boundaries 

Boundaries in a relationship are extremely important. Understanding your place and acknowledging that your partner has a life beyond the relationship will be super beneficial, although sometimes hard, for the relationship. Moreover, relationships are supposed to be happy and comforting, so being okay with your partner engaging in activities that bring them joy, irrespective of you, will always be valued. Enjoying your time alone and time with friends and family is necessary. 

Know each other’s schedules

Knowing when the other person is available or busy is useful to time your calls or messages. It will help you both give each other undivided attention and quality time. Moreover, knowing what your partner is doing during the day brings about a feeling of connection.

The most important thing in LDRs is appreciating the little things and giving importance to living in the moment. When you are unsure of the next time you are going to see your partner, being present when you are around them and soaking it all in is your best bet. Don't be scared of distance, it does make the heart grow fonder and honestly, like Lewis Carroll said: You only regret the chances you don’t take!