With so many women not being able to orgasm, there are times when otherwise-empowered, sex-positive women decide to fake it. Maybe they are just tired, embarrassed to ask for what they need, or conditioned to believe that there must always be a happy ending (thanks Disney). If you have ever been in this situation, here are 10 thoughts that might have crossed your mind.

 

1.Ok this is fun, but I am nowhere close to being turned on enough to reach an orgasm RN.

\"or\"

 

2. I’m kinda really missing my vibrator, TBH.

\"th\"

 

3. I wonder how long he’s going to take to hit the right spot.

\"eye\"

 

4. OMG, I totally forgot there is a new episode of Riverdale out!

\"forgot

 

5. Sh*t, maybe I’m not able to orgasm because I’m more emotionally invested in fictional people than real ones?

\"wrong\"

 

6. Why the eff can’t he go down on me?

\"why\"

 

7. I wonder if I should draw him a diagram of my clit, ’coz it’s definitely not where he seems to think it is.

\"dai\"

 

8. Should we order Chinese takeaway after this? At least there’s some guaranteed satisfaction there!

\"ch\"

 

9. I think it’s time to channel my inner Sally...

\"sally\"

 

10. How long do I have to keep sounding like this? Three minutes? Eight? Naah, he might think I’m dying. I’ll just keep it short and sweet.

\"done\"

 

Did we miss something? Share your thoughts with us, ladies!

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Let’s face it—orgasm gap exists. According to statistics shared by Durex India, nearly 70% women in India don’t orgasm every time they have sex.

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India, we need to talk. #OrgasmInequality pic.twitter.com/gReNrFfSNM

\r\n— Durex India (@DurexIndia) May 28, 2019
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If you're faking it, you're not loving it! Share your #FakeOrgasm stories and queries with me as I go live from @durexindia page on 1st June at 1 pm. I’ll be answering all your questions on #FakeOrgasm. Do tune in! pic.twitter.com/J42izLRLhq

\r\n— Pooja Bedi (@poojabeditweets) May 30, 2019
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With so many women not being able to orgasm, there are times when otherwise-empowered, sex-positive women decide to fake it. Maybe they are just tired, embarrassed to ask for what they need, or conditioned to believe that there must always be a happy ending (thanks Disney). If you have ever been in this situation, here are 10 thoughts that might have crossed your mind.

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1.Ok this is fun, but I am nowhere close to being turned on enough to reach an orgasm RN.

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\"or\"

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2. I’m kinda really missing my vibrator, TBH.

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\"th\"

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3. I wonder how long he’s going to take to hit the right spot.

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\"eye\"

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4. OMG, I totally forgot there is a new episode of Riverdale out!

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\"forgot

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5. Sh*t, maybe I’m not able to orgasm because I’m more emotionally invested in fictional people than real ones?

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\"wrong\"

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6. Why the eff can’t he go down on me?

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\"why\"

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7. I wonder if I should draw him a diagram of my clit, ’coz it’s definitely not where he seems to think it is.

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\"dai\"

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8. Should we order Chinese takeaway after this? At least there’s some guaranteed satisfaction there!

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\"ch\"

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9. I think it’s time to channel my inner Sally...

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\"sally\"

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10. How long do I have to keep sounding like this? Three minutes? Eight? Naah, he might think I’m dying. I’ll just keep it short and sweet.

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\"done\"

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Did we miss something? Share your thoughts with us, ladies!

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Maybe they are just tired, embarrassed to ask for what they need, or conditioned to believe that there must always be a happy ending (thanks Disney). If you have ever been in this situation, here are 10 thoughts that might have crossed your mind.   1.Ok this is fun, but I am nowhere close to being turned on enough to reach an orgasm RN.   2. I’m kinda really missing my vibrator, TBH.   3. I wonder how long he’s going to take to hit the right spot.   4. OMG, I totally forgot there is a new episode of Riverdale out!   5. Sh*t, maybe I’m not able to orgasm because I’m more emotionally invested in fictional people than real ones?   6. Why the eff can’t he go down on me?   7. I wonder if I should draw him a diagram of my clit, ’coz it’s definitely not where he seems to think it is.   8. Should we order Chinese takeaway after this? At least there’s some guaranteed satisfaction there!   9. I think it’s time to channel my inner Sally...   10. 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But when you factor in a global pandemic that has not only plummeted the economy but also impacted the general well-being of many Americans, it's no wonder you and your S.O. might be facing more stress, worry, and problems than ever before. Maybe even with each other.\r\n\r\nAnd according to new data from Talkspace, there’s been a 48 per cent increase in couples seeking therapy amid the Coronavirus pandemic. This…isn't all that surprising considering social distancing requirements have left couples either hunkered down in close quarters or newly navigating an LDR.\r\n\r\nThis crisis as it stands now has brought in all kinds of new stressors to a relationship that couples weren't necessarily dealing with as seriously prior to the pandemic, like economic concerns, loss of sense of purpose, loss of sense of self, difficulty connecting with and/or disconnecting from each other, says therapist Rachel O’Neill, PhD, \r\n\r\nFor this reason, you may find your tolerance and irritability levels increasing with the person you really didn't fight all that much with beforehand. (But FWIW, \"Even the strongest of relationships are likely experiencing some difficulty adjusting to the stress of the current pandemic situation,\" says O'Neill).\r\n\r\nBut if money is super tight between layoffs, furloughs, and/or alllll those expenses that seem to be piling up right now, you have options, too. With the help from O’Neill, we’ve created a lil couples therapy cheat sheet for all of you who need it right now.\r\n\r\nFor couples living together…\r\n\r\n1. Schedule—yes, literally put it into your iPhone’s calendar—at least 20 minutes a day to talk with your partner. \r\n\r\nThis is called intentionally communicating, and no, it’s not just having a casual convo about the weather when you’re eating Thai on your couch. “I would love to see couples set aside 20 minutes each day to talk about how they are feeling and what they need from their partner,” says Dr O’Neill. (If you really think about it, this is literally what therapy is like, anyway.)\r\n\r\nSome pointers worth noting:\r\n\r\n\r\n\tFocus on using “I am”, “I feel”, and “I think” statements. (The “I” part is a must!).\r\n\tAvoid judgement. Try to focus on statements that are fact-based when discussing a problem.\r\n\tDon’t put the blame entirely on the other person.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nFor couples living together: Let’s say you’ve noticed your partner seems ~obsessed~ with testing your sanity by leaving their dirty dishes in the sink, like, all week. Instead of saying “You always do this,” you could say: “This happened for the third time this week. I feel better when I live in a clean and healthy living space. How can we work on this?”\r\n\r\n2. Schedule—again, literally put the time in your iPhone’s calendar—for at least 20 minutes a day for yourself. \r\n\r\n“Physical space is really important and it’s absolutely okay to ask for it,” says Dr O’Neill And if it wasn’t obvious already, this is exactly the kind of thing you can mention in your twenty-minute convo as mentioned above.\r\n\r\nTo the extent that you’re able to, go out on a walk by yourself, take time to journal, and/or listen to a podcast (I personally recommend any of these). It doesn’t matter what you do, just that you’re doing something by yourself for yourself.\r\n\r\nNow if you’re wondering, Okay, but where the f*ck am I supposed to go in my tiny studio apartment for “space”? Hear you. Some options include: Watching Netflix on the couch with headphones in while your partner does the same on the other end of the couch (weird, but oddly satisfying!), taking a long shower or bath with your favorite Spotify playlist, or going outside if the weather is permitting.\r\n\r\n3. Make sure your sex life stays A Thing.\r\n\r\nI get it if you’re completely, totally unhorny right now. I can imagine how hard it is to think about boning the one person whose breathing is making you angry. But with that said, to whatever extent you can, try to maintain intimacy, recommends Dr O’Neill.\r\n\r\nLike the rest of the world, there’s a good chance you’ve been sporting greasy hair buns and sweatpants all day every day during the quarantine—so duh, ofc you maybe don’t feel like your hot-girl self. But how about being someone else for the night and trying a sexy role-play? One Cosmo writer has been living out her favourite shows’ sex scenes and it’s totally working for her. Also, pull out those old Halloween costumes. You knew they’d eventually be useful for more than that one time you wore them to a sub-par Halloween party. Obviously don’t feel like you have to focus on just the sex too. There are other ways to maintain intimacy too, like lying in each others' arms, cuddling before you go to sleep. \r\n\r\n4. Even if you’re indoors, keep dating each other. \r\n\r\nSure, you can’t really leave your tiny home the way you used to be able to pre-pandemic, but you can definitely get dressed up to cook a new meal together, break out a board game, take an online exercise together, and more, says Dr O'Neill. \r\n\r\nFor couples who are not physically together right now…\r\n\r\n1. Tell each other that what you’re experiencing is [WHATEVER EMOTION] (read: painful, sad, hard, etc.) \r\n\r\nRemember when I mentioned intentionally communicating? Yeah, the same thing applies here. Schedule a 20-minute phone call or FaceTime per day where you can check in with your S.O. about what’s going on with their life, how you’re feeling, and the struggles you’re experiencing.\r\n\r\n“Embrace the discomfort,” says O’Neill. “Use it as an opportunity to discuss how, as a couple, you can help support each other through this difficult time.” During this conversation, you should have their undivided attention, so make sure T.V. is off, you’re not on speaker, and both of you are honing into the other person’s thoughts.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n2. Date from afar. \r\n\r\nLook, everyone knows how important a physical connection is—but honestly, an emotional connection is a bond that keeps two people together. Take this as an opportunity to strengthen your ~emotional bond~ since you can’t be together physically.\r\n\r\nAsk them questions like:\r\n\r\n\r\n\tIf a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\tIf there is something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time, why haven't you done it?\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\tWhat roles do love and affection play in your life?\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\tHow close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n3. Write hand-written letters to each other. \r\n\r\nAnd whomst said chivalry is dead? “I love the idea of using written words to communicate during this time,” says Dr O’Neill. And TBH, when it comes to expressing how you really, actually feel, nothing can beat a pen-to-paper love note. You can either write letters to your partner back and forth, or you and your partner can create a shared journal where you both write about particular topics each day of the week.\r\n\r\nLike, maybe you decide on a topic of how you fell in love. Take 30 minutes to write the story in your own words, take a picture of the writing, send it to your S.O., and tell them to do the same. Spend some time reading how they saw it happen in their mind too. It's like, the most earnestly cute thing I've ever heard of.\r\n\r\n\r\nSo there's the tea, my friends. You could expect any of the above activities to also be recommended for you in an actual IRL couples therapy session.\r\n\r\nBut please, please, please, keep in mind that the topics included are very basic and don't dive into a couple's deeply-rooted relationship problems. If you find that you are still struggling, sometimes dropping some coin is necessary to find the underlying issues. Your wallet and mental health will thank you.\r\n\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-05/couples-therapy-1590005958.png?judqjHIq3_XPOvriWVF18Z059FrGaSdu","image1x1":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-05/couples-therapy-1590005958.png?judqjHIq3_XPOvriWVF18Z059FrGaSdu","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/relationships/features/a20313/we-created-couples-therapy-cheat-sheet-case-your-relationship-needs","created":"25 May 2020 ","time_created":"2020-05-25T12:15:00+05:30","field_section":"Relationships","field_section_url":"/relationships","field_content_type":"Features","notes":"https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a32618701/couples-therapy-excercises/","notes_syn":"Cosmopolitan","userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"20327","title":"Why You Should Date Your Opposite Sign","field_dek":"Sad that your crush’s sign is completely diff from yours? Here’s why that’s a GOOD thing.\r\n","modified":"2020-05-24 07:15:47","status":"1","field_full_dek":"Opposites attract, or so they say. But here’s the thing: It ain’t always easy. Anyone who’s dated their polar opposite knows it takes work to, well, make it work. In the stars, as in life, opposites are a thing. The zodiac has cosmic pairs called polarities, which are two signs that sit directly opposite each other on the elliptic and are six signs away from each other. Aries, the first sign in the zodiac, and Libra, the seventh, are polarities; so are Taurus, the second sign of the zodiac, and Scorpio, the eighth.\r\n\r\nLike two sides of the same heart-shaped necklace, a pair of opposites glistens with a head-turning aura that can leave us wondering, What makes these two hotties tick? These signs are so different that sometimes it can be hard to understand why they work, but, well, they work. Hotheaded Aries and diplomatic Libra balance each other out, while intense Scorpio feels at home with steady Taurus.\r\n\r\nAstrology does explain why these pairings work—kind of. First, some background. Each sign has a modality (fixed, mutable, or cardinal), which describes where in a season they fall and kind of explains their whole vibe. Cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra, and Capricorn) take charge; mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, and Pisces) are flexible; and fixed signs (Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, and Aquarius) are the stabilizers of the zodiac. Each sign also has an element (water, earth, air, or fire). Fire signs (Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius) are passionate; water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces) are emotional; earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn) are steady and hardworking; air signs (Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius) are intellectual.\r\n\r\nOpposite signs share a modality. They’re always different elements, but they’re elements that can work together. Fire and air combine to make a brighter flame; water and earth make a plant grow. Of course, wind can also blow out a candle and a flood can f*ck up your yard, so it’s all about balance here.\r\n\r\nThere are plenty of celeb couples who embody this we-don’t-know-why-it-works-it-just-does vibe. Hardheaded Capricorn Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell, an emotional Cancer, are a cuh-lassic example of this. Others burn bright but ultimately don’t work out—like Angelina Jolie, a quick-thinking Gemini, and Brad Pitt, an adventurous Sagittarius. Whether it’s an epic friendship, marriage, or steamy one-nighter, there’s a definite written-in-the-stars vibe to these opposites.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nRead on for starry insight into astrology’s six cosmic couplings:\r\n\r\n\r\nARIES + LIBRA\r\n\r\nThis duo is all about striking that delicate balance between the self and others. Aries is the fiery, impulsive solo star (Mars-ruled and headstrong), whereas Libra (run by balance-seeking Venus) prefers to be part of a group and hates making decisions. Aries shakes things up, while Libra freaks out at the first sign of conflict. Best-case scenario? Libra teaches Aries how to chill out and share the stage, while Aries schools Libra on the joys of the spotlight and voicing how they *really* feel sometimes. However, fiery Aries can hurt Libra’s feelings easily, and Libra won’t always speak up about it.\r\n\r\nTAURUS + SCORPIO\r\n\r\nTaurus and Scorpio are the couple most likely to have bling, as both are known for their focus on values and $$. Taurus, ruled by Venus, is all about those earthly delights, and Scorpio (ruled by Pluto, god of the underworld) shrugs off the material realm for their epic deep dives. In different ways, each one rounds out and greatly enriches the other’s life. Taurus can offer Scorpio lots of pleasure and grounding (in the bedroom and finances), while Scorpio urges Taurus to explore the wild unknown (and loosen the purse strings a bit). But Taurus is notoriously stubborn and Scorpio holds a grudge like no other, so these two need to learn how to fight fair.\r\n\r\nGEMINI + SAGITTARIUS\r\n\r\nAs the world travelers of the cosmos, Gem and Sag are both super curious about each other and everything. Brainy Gemini (ruled by smarty-pants Mercury) focuses on the details, while adventurous Sag (ruled by expansive Jupiter) is all about the big picture. Together, they’re practically unstoppable. While Brangelina may have ended, their Gem-Sag polarity had everyone captivated and kept their relationship going for a looong time.\r\n\r\nCANCER + CAPRICORN\r\n\r\nTaskmaster Capricorn and nurturing Cancer embody the most iconic yin-yang vibe. Capricorn, ruled by ultra-stern Saturn, likes logic and knows how to work, work, work, while Moon-ruled Cancer floats in more intuitive waters. They have such different priorities that it might be hard for them to understand each other, but once they do, they make a *chef’s kiss* team. High-profile careers and a cushy home are the trademarks of this duo. Kate Middleton and Prince William are a Cappy-Cancer coupling and they live in a palace, so….\r\n\r\nLEO + AQUARIUS\r\n\r\nThese two know how to party. Glamazon Leo prefers a Great Gatsby–style celebration, while Aquarius hosts a barefoot gathering in the woods. Leo climbs the social ladder, while Aquarius hits the streets, protests, and literally lives on a commune. These two are throwing the most baller soirees in town, complete with vegan crudités and a packed guest list of the downright coolest people. As long as Aquarius doesn’t get in Leo’s spotlight, you’ll be begging for an invite to this pair’s next rave.\r\n\r\nVIRGO + PISCES\r\n\r\nVirgo is the sexy librarian of the zodiac and Pisces is the dreamy, guru-seeking softy. Both want to be in service to others, but their approaches are, ahem, different. Virgo schools Pisces on proper texting etiquette and wellness protocols, while Pisces gently suggests Virgo let their hair down, take a spiritual retreat, and dream bigger sometimes. Analytical Virgo sometimes doesn’t get Pisces’ woo-woo side, but if they can accept each other, they can learn from each other too.\r\n\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-05/opposites-attract-1567528718.png?g6wTp1rPTQWgrq64hn644VnYt3sYXAKY","image1x1":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-05/opposites-attract-1567528718.png?g6wTp1rPTQWgrq64hn644VnYt3sYXAKY","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/relationships/features/a20327/why-you-should-date-your-opposite-sign","created":"24 May 2020 ","time_created":"2020-05-24T10:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Relationships","field_section_url":"/relationships","field_content_type":"Features","notes":"https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a28901363/opposite-sign-zodiac-compatibility/","notes_syn":"Cosmopolitan","userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"20189","title":"This is Why Your Exes are Suddenly Popping Up During Lockdown","field_dek":"Plus, what you should do if you're considering it.\r\n","modified":"2020-05-05 14:43:15","status":"1","field_full_dek":"\r\n\r\nExes trying to get back into your life can feel irritating or confusing at the best of times. But it seems that during the coronavirus pandemic re-emerging exes has become a big thing. But why are so many exes popping back up? Is it simply a case of lockdown boredom, or is there something about this time that makes people reflect and want to heal rifts? We asked the experts to explain.\r\n\r\nWhy are exes reappearing during lockdown?\r\n\r\nThere are a whole bunch of different emotions at play right now, and the anxiety of the pandemic plus the loneliness of social isolation can make people want to reach out, says Gurpreet Singh, a relationship counsellor at Relate.\r\n\r\n\"The pandemic has created a lot of uncertainty, unpredictability and questions around mortality, which makes people feel anxious and vulnerable,\" he explains. \"If you add social isolation into the mix, people are suffering from loneliness and the fatigue of being locked down. So when people feel vulnerable with all of that extra time to think, then it's understandable that thoughts will drift to the past.\"\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nBut don't rule out good old-fashioned boredom as a simple reason behind why someone may be reaching out. \"While some people may genuinely be reflecting on their past, there's also a lot of room for boredom to creep in right now, and people could be looking for an easy way to fill the void,\" explains dating expert for Match Hayley Quinn.\r\n\r\nBut why is it exes in particular that we're tempted to reach out to, rather than those who are still in our lives?\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nMoments of vulnerability can make us want to connect with people that we feel familiar and comfortable with, says Gurpreet. And feeling low and lonely can make us search for things that make us feel better about ourselves, he adds. This could be something as simple as feeling validated knowing that your ex still fancies you.\r\n\r\nWhat should you do if you want to reach out to an ex?\r\n\r\nRule number one: think about your reasons for getting in contact with them. Are you looking for a distraction, familiarity, or some validation? \"Sometimes when we have an impulse to reach out to an ex it's not so much about them, but about an unmet emotional need we have,\" Hayley explains. \"Take some time to refocus, and don't immediately act on an impulse.\" If you do decide to reach out, make sure you're straightforward in explaining your reasons to the other person, too.\r\n\r\n\"Remember that the image you have of them in your mind isn't reality, it's a fantasy,\" Hayley explains. So make sure you're not just remembering the best parts of a relationship and forgetting the negatives.\r\n\r\nSecondly, think about whether you would've reached out if we weren't in lockdown, says Gurpreet, and don't let it cloud your judgement. Think about how this will play out when lockdown ends, and if you would actually want to see them in person. Try to see past any short-term validation you might get from them and think about the long-term impact. This still applies in normal circumstances, though - so nothing should change just because the world is on hold.\r\n\r\nMake sure you consider the different outcomes. If breaking up with them was difficult the first time around, be prepared for going through the same thing again. And be prepared for the possibility that they might not reply to you, Gurpreet adds. If you're already feeling vulnerable, you might end up feeling even more hurt and lonely than you already do.\r\n\r\nHow should you respond if an ex reaches out to you?\r\n\r\nHayley suggests asking yourself three questions: \"Do you feel the same? Has this happened before? And does it feel genuine?\"\r\n\r\nIf you don't feel the same, remember that you have just as much power as they do over whether the conversation continues. It's completely OK to not reply - and no reply can actually be a reply in itself. Don't forget that the block tool exists for a reason.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nRemember that if you do reply just to be polite you run the risk of setting the ball rolling on a conversation that you don't want to have, Gurpreet adds. But if you don't want to completely ghost them then politely explain that you don't want to be back in touch and leave it there.\r\n\r\nSimilarly, if this has happened with the same person before, then try to learn from it. \"For example, if you know the second you reciprocate your interest that they'll disappear, then save yourself the heartache of a response,\" says Hayley.\r\n\r\nAnd if it does feel genuine, and you're both on the same page, then take it slowly, says Hayley. \"Remember you will need to re-build you relationship brick by brick so take it easy and don't end up over committing yourself emotionally when you don't have the chance to meet in person,\" she explains.\r\n\r\nHowever, if you're unsure about whether to respond or not, then wait until lockdown is over and see if you feel the same, Gurpreet suggests. That way your judgement won't be clouded by swirling emotions.\r\n\r\nPeople whose exes have resurfaced explain what happened\r\n\r\n\"Six of my exes have popped up\" Maria*, 21\r\n\r\n\"So far in lockdown, four of my exes or people that I've spoken to have popped up on the Houseparty app and two others have messaged me. The weirdest time was when one ex joined a Houseparty group call with me, my friend and all of her friends that I didn't know. Houseparty is lethal for that, because anyone can join your call!\r\n\r\n\"He just came into the call and asked how I was doing, but I didn't want to have the conversation so I left. Later, I found out that not only did he stay and do a quiz with strangers, without me, but he won as well! I thought it was ridiculous, and sometimes I can't believe men have the audacity. But I honestly just think he, like everyone else, is really bored.\"\r\n\r\n\"I think he just wants some conversation,\" says Sabrina*, 20\r\n\r\n\"My ex popped up two weeks into lockdown at four o'clock in the morning, a time which obviously raised slight alarm bells for me. His first message was just, 'Hey you, how's lockdown going?' and even though we take five hours to reply to each other, he won't go away and keeps trying to make conversation.\r\n\r\n\"We're still chatting, and he's mostly reminiscing about the past. For example, he got me an Amazon Alexa for my birthday last July and keeps asking if I've been using it. At first I wondered why he was asking, but I think he's just trying anything to make conversation. I'm not sure if there are any underlying intentions.\"\r\n\r\n\"I think lockdown made her want to rebuild bridges,\" says Violet*, 24\r\n\r\nBut it's not just romantic exes who seem to be appearing out of the woodwork. The same is happening with friend-exes too. For Violet*, a friend she fell out with six months ago recently reappeared.\r\n\r\n\"First of all, she popped up to say happy birthday, which I guess is fair enough, even though we aren't friends anymore. But then three weeks later she randomly asked for my address to send me a present. Since then, she's been chatting and trying to carry on the conversation as normal, as if we were still friends. I appreciate the gesture, but it felt out of the blue as we haven't spoken for so long and didn't end on good terms. But I wonder if lockdown has made her want to rebuild bridges.\"\r\n\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-05/original.gif?EWpjlyWfv8TLTf6m6pruKenCVAWex1uk","image1x1":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-05/original.gif?EWpjlyWfv8TLTf6m6pruKenCVAWex1uk","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/relationships/features/a20189/why-your-exes-are-suddenly-popping-during-lockdown","created":"05 May 2020 ","time_created":"2020-05-05T18:30:00+05:30","field_section":"Relationships","field_section_url":"/relationships","field_content_type":"Features","notes":"https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a32288842/exes-reappearing-lockdown/","notes_syn":"Cosmopolitan","userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19950","title":"“I Tried the New Sex Trend That’s All About ~Not~ Orgasming” ","field_dek":"And kinda loved it!\r\n","modified":"2020-04-19 14:30:02","status":"1","field_full_dek":"Photograph: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM\r\n\r\nA funny thing happened when my legs were behind my head and my boyfriend was getting ready to enter me from behind. As I contorted myself into this sexy pretzel, I wondered aloud, ‘Is this even possible? \r\n\r\nAnd is it...fun?,’ to which my boyfriend replied, ‘I...think so’. \r\n\r\nLet’s rewind: my BF and I have been together for a minute—okay, eight years’ worth of minutes—and we keep our sex life adult-film worthy. We’ve done it on a boat, on a float, from the back, in the crack...I’ve eaten a doughnut off his d*ck, for crying out loud! We screw like porn stars auditioning for the biggest roles of our lives, and generally, we love it. But I’m tired. I’m so very tired. There are only so many ways to arrange your limbs before you pull something. \r\n\r\nEnter the art of karezza. It’s an affectionate, unrushed style of sex that emphasises connection and treats orgasms as a delightful bonus instead of the main event. It comes from the Italian word ‘carezza’ (a caress), and although the concept has been around since at least 1844 and is well-known in the tantric world, it’s starting to enter the average person’s bedroom (i.e., me). And bless up: experts say that when done right, it can transform sex into a wonderland of mutual pleasure. \r\n\r\nNow, I’m not the kind of girl who likes to stare deeply into my partner’s eyes and gently weep as I climax. But like I said, I do need breaks from my acrobatic sex life. Plus, if it’d help me and the BF go full Spice Girls ‘2 Become 1’, then who am I not to try slowing down?\r\n\r\nIt’s a Process, Not a Position.\r\n\r\n‘Karezza movements are typically very slow so as not to build toward orgasm,’ says Laurel Steinberg, a US-based clinical sexolo­gist and relationship expert. ‘Instead, caressing, holding, and rubbing are the goals.’ It’s not about the ending, but the journey, you feel? Penetrative sex might still be the finale, but this is about foreplay.\r\n\r\nOn Steroids. \r\n\r\nThe payoff: next-level feels. As US-based sex researcher Steve McGough points out: ‘Our digitally overstimulated lives have caused many of us to lose connection with the deeper parts of ourselves.’ By spending so much time loving all up on each other, you can get back in tune with bae...and your own body, too.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nTaking it Slow. Reeeal slow.\r\n\r\nMy boyfriend and I set aside a Saturday night to turn on The Weeknd, dim the lights, and try it out. We stood facing each other and made a pact not to laugh, no matter how awkward. Then we spent a good hour, fully clothed, just kissing and touching each other. Not hurrying was tough at first, but then it became...better? Feeling him get hard through his pants but not being able to do anything about it was frustrating in the best way. We gave each other foot massages—which I thought would gross me out, but I was so worked up that any bare skin turned me on.\r\n\r\nWe gradually undressed each other, unlocking our eyes only to find the necessary buttons and zippers. We got to really look at each other, which drove me wild because I just wanted to grab him and let him slide into me but couldn’t. Fully naked, we took our time exploring each other’s bodies with just lips and fingers, starting with 10 heavenly minutes of his head between my legs. We kissed some more, taking short breaks to hug and stare.\r\n\r\nWhen we finally had intercourse in missionary (face-to-face, ya I know!), it lasted about one minute because we were both so horned up. Seriously, we climaxed at the exact same time.\r\n\r\nAfterwards, we just held each other and both said—legit jinx-style—‘Damn, that was intense’.\r\n\r\nThe Karezza Comedown\r\n\r\nIn hindsight, I have a few thoughts. First: making out is the best! I felt like a teenager again. And all that intense eye contact made me realise that I don’t often truly look at my boyfriend. Earmuffs if you can’t handle mushy stuff, but I remembered what a babe he is and how much I love him. That sh*t was magical, and if you could bottle it up and sell it, you’d be Elon Musk-level rich.\r\n\r\nThat said, karezza probably isn’t the best move on a casual Tuesday. It’s a hot way to check in or reconnect after time apart or a fight, but it’s def kind of a time suck. My boyfriend said the same, but he loved how close we felt after. No shade to our usual moves—reverse-cowgirl can be as enjoyable as it is O-inducing—but sometimes a woman doesn’t need to contort like a pretzel. She’s not a snack, she’s the whole damn meal.”\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n94% of Cosmo readers are down to try karezza. (Report back, k?)\r\n\r\nSource: Cosmo poll\r\n\r\nHow slow sex rolled with readers\r\n\r\n“I’m in an LDR, which means we have to make the most of sex when we’re together—a lot of quickies! Trying karezza was a break from our routine, and it was so, so good. Even though an orgasm isn’t the goal, I had two!” —Priyanka K., 28\r\n\r\n“I asked the guy I was hooking up with to try karezza with me. It was weird to be so intimate with someone who isn’t my boyfriend, but it was also really cool. He even texted me afterwards to say how awesome the sex was.”  —Salonie P., 25\r\n\r\n“Karezza was too intense for me and my fiancé! Maybe it was because we’re stressed out planning our wedding, but we both had a hard time concentrating. We’ll try again after we’re married!” —Akshita S., 28\r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/23901998-2x1_0.jpg?h2pZ7_4U2L00Z.KtlCnlynxg4Xz0sAhO","image1x1":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/23901998-2x1_0.jpg?h2pZ7_4U2L00Z.KtlCnlynxg4Xz0sAhO","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/relationships/features/a19950/i-tried-new-sex-trend-thats-all-about-not-orgasming","created":"19 April 2020 ","time_created":"2020-04-19T20:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Relationships","field_section_url":"/relationships","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"20069","title":"How to Slide into Someone's DMs","field_dek":"These are the super easy ways to start a conversation.\r\n","modified":"2020-04-17 13:56:06","status":"1","field_full_dek":"Sliding into somebody's DMs is no doubt a scary task. And if you don't know them at all, or you vaguely do but haven't messaged before, then it can be even more daunting. How do you start a conversation? Will they think you're weird? (Answer: probably not).\r\n\r\nStriking up conversation on social media is a super easy and common way to get to know people. Plus, as many of us are now at home under lockdown, dating over DMs is even more popular, with more people turning to video dates and inventing creative ways to be romantic. So, don't let lockdown stop you. If you've been wanting to DM somebody for ages but don't know how, here's what to try.\r\n\r\nJust remember, if somebody doesn't reply to your message then don't keep DMing them. Unfortunately, they may just not be interested.\r\n\r\nHow to start a conversation\r\n\r\nUse icebreakers\r\n\r\nSome dating apps, like OkCupid and Hinge, prompt you to answer questions in your profile (anything from what you can't live without to which three celebs you'd have at a dinner table), so bouncing off those can be a really easy icebreaker.\r\n\r\nAsk questions\r\n\r\nIf you're not on a dating app, and are just sliding into somebody's DMs on social media, then the best first message to send is one that comments or asks a question about something specific on their profile, says dating expert at OkCupid, Melissa Hobley.\r\n\r\n For example, if they've tweeted about a particular TV show, ask them a question about it. Or if they've posted an Insta pic of a band they've seen in concert, ask for their favourite album. \"Commenting on their profile shows that you noticed something about them,\" says Melissa, \"and asking a question motivates them to answer.\"\r\n\r\nThis can even work with GIFs and memes, Melissa adds. But if you send one as a first message, make it relevant to something you know they like.\r\n\r\nDon't just say \"hey\"\r\n\r\nDefinitely avoid simply saying \"hey\" in a first message, says Melissa. (We know, it's tempting to be lazy). \"This is almost equivalent to saying nothing and has a high chance of being completely ignored,\" she explains. Putting some thought into your message can go a long way.\r\n\r\nHow to be confident at sliding into DMs\r\n\r\nWe know, the thought of sliding into a near-stranger's DMs can be terrifying. And the fear of rejection might be holding you back from just going for it. But if you never try, you'll never know, and you don't want to be left with any regrets. Plus, they could be the love of your life.\r\n\r\nSending the first message can actually make you feel more in control, Melissa explains. And it's most likely that somebody will be flattered by you making the first move. Remember to stay mindful and open, and expect the best rather than the worst.\r\n\r\nHow to keep a conversation going\r\n\r\nOnce you've taken the leap and actually slid into the DMs, now you need to think about how to keep the conversation going, especially if you aren't going to be meeting up in person for a while.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\"The best way to keep things going over DM is to ask questions,\" according to Melissa. \"You can comment on something they posted, share moments from your own day or send them that funny meme you saw.\" Plus, if you discover that you have some of the same interests then you'll have more to talk about.\r\n\r\nHow to ask for their number\r\n\r\nIf you've slid into somebody's DMs on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook, you'll probably eventually want to ask for their number, whether you're planning to meet in real life once we're allowed back out into the world, or you just want to progress to chatting on the phone.\r\n\r\n\"The best time to ask for someone's number is after they've shown an interest by keeping up a back and forth over DM,\" explains Melissa. But don't be afraid to share your number first. Chances are the other person is just as nervous about it as you are.\r\n\r\nMelissa also suggests asking for their number by making a joke out of it. For example, you could say, \"If you give me your number, I promise to send you cute dog pics daily.\"\r\n\r\nStill, the important thing to remember is that if they're the right person, it won't matter how you ask, as they're bound to be interested in you whatever you say!\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/animated-movies.gif?cV4eT2aWo0YIcbWvQ3CX0gXZ0jXA95qB","image1x1":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/animated-movies.gif?cV4eT2aWo0YIcbWvQ3CX0gXZ0jXA95qB","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/relationships/features/a20069/how-slide-someones-dms","created":"17 April 2020 ","time_created":"2020-04-17T18:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Relationships","field_section_url":"/relationships","field_content_type":"Features","notes":"https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a32157367/how-to-slide-into-dms/","notes_syn":"Cosmopolitan","userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"20045","title":"Virtual Date Ideas to Get You Through the Lockdown","field_dek":"Whether you're single or in a relationship, these are perfect for a super fun virtual date.\r\n","modified":"2020-04-14 13:54:01","status":"1","field_full_dek":"If you're single right now and interested in meeting new people, it's highly likely you've considered virtual dating. The good news is there are tons of dating apps that have video chat features, so you can still feel (a bit like) you're dating like you used to. If you're in a relationship or have been hooking up with someone then maybe those all-night phone chats be more like your vibe. Whatever your relationship status, here are some super fun and creative ideas for virtual online dates.\r\n\r\nA recent Bumble survey of 5,000 of its users found the most popular virtual date was having a chat over a drink or coffee, with 64% saying this would be their ideal online date. The second most popular date involved playing a game together, followed by watching a film and then cooking or eating a meal together.\r\n\r\nVirtual date ideas\r\n\r\n1. Virtual happy hour\r\n\r\nBy now, you’ve probably hosted or joined some sort of online hangout with your friends or colleagues to toast the end of a long day (or week — it’s hard to keep track)! If you’re just getting to know a match for the first time, you might not want to hand out your phone number or email in order to FaceTime.\r\n\r\nFire up the Video Chat feature in the Bumble app and share a cocktail, beer, or iced tea. You can chat with the confidence that if it doesn’t work out, you haven’t given out any personal info.\r\n\r\n2. Truth or dare\r\n\r\nThis can be as PG-13 as you want it to be! Truth: when did you last make your bed? Dare: show me the contents of your kitchen cupboard! Maybe your new match will surprise you with their pantry preparedness.\r\n\r\n3. TikTok dance-off\r\n\r\nThese are anxious times, and we all need some comic relief, even at our own expense. Challenge your match to a TikTok dance-off. Decide which viral dance you’ll both learn, then reconvene in a video chat to show off... well, either your skills, or your willingness to self-deprecate.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n4. Virtual house tour\r\n\r\nThere’s a reason we all loved MTV Cribs, and why clips from tours of celebrity homes go viral. We’re all voyeurs when it comes to the inside of other people’s bathroom cabinets and hallway cupboards. Since most of us are at home anyway, take this opportunity to give your match a virtual tour of your room, apartment, or garden, if you’re lucky enough to have one. Are you a trainer obsessive with an impressive collection of Air Max 90s? Or are you honestly just proud you took all those Amazon Prime boxes to the recycling bin?\r\n\r\n5. Cook together\r\n\r\nDecide on a dinner menu based on your food preferences, then follow a simple recipe together over video chat. You might discover your match is a burgeoning Nigella. Or, they may not know their coriander from their cayenne — and that’s OK! We need to prop up the struggling restaurant industry and local small businesses, so if cooking isn’t your or their bag…\r\n\r\n6. Order in together\r\n\r\nIf you and your match are both in areas with options for delivery, why not order your respective favourite meals and dine in together via video chat? You’ll get to learn a little about their culinary tastes. It’ll also get you both thinking about your favourite spots to eat IRL, in hopes of having an in-person date one day.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n7. Movie marathon\r\n\r\nThere are few better ways to start understanding someone’s personality than to get them talking about their favourite movies. Ask your match to pick their favourite actor, franchise, or genre, or suggest a few ideas of your own. If movies feel like a commitment, you could agree to start binge-watching a streaming TV series at the same time, or rewatch a comforting classic.\r\n\r\n8. Q+A time\r\n\r\nWhat better way to get to know your match than some probing questions? There are all sorts of games and platforms you can use to get to know each other, but a perennial fave is the Proust Questionnaire, once a parlour game popularised by the French writer but now better known as the 15 questions asked of big-name celebs in each issue of Vanity Fair. There's also the 36 questions to fall in love... If that feels a little too heavy for a first date, keep it light and upbeat with fun personality quizzes.\r\n\r\n9. Games night\r\n\r\nAre you a Scrabble whiz? Better at Trivial Pursuit? Challenge your match to an evening of digital games, and check in on their snack situ via video chat.\r\n\r\n10. Enjoy culture together\r\n\r\nBeing sequestered at home doesn’t mean missing out on all the worlds of art and music have to offer. Institutions ranging from the Van Gogh Museum in Amsterdam to the Melbourne Symphony Orchestra in Australia are offering digital tours and performances. If that’s not your kind of fun, New England Aquarium is offering virtual visits. If you can’t bond over baby sea lions, there might not be much hope for your romantic future...\r\n\r\n11. Look to the stars\r\n\r\nDo you know your star sign? Probably, but what about your rising sign or moon sign? Have you ever taken a look at your birth chart? Even if you’re not what one might call a believer in all things astrology and zodiac, you can learn a lot about your match just by reading each other’s horoscopes and gauging their reactions.\r\n\r\n12. Make playlists\r\n\r\nThink of this as the 2020 version of making your teenage crush a mixtape or burning them a CD. Create a playlist on Spotify and share it with your match; ask them to reciprocate. You’ll learn about their favourite genres, artists, and songs as well as keeping your at-home-workout playlist fresh.\r\n\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/MarriedDeepHawaiianmonkseal-size_restricted.gif?jlXJkqz1oMOMtDJmLa6sU2HgdV4jr4dy","image1x1":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/MarriedDeepHawaiianmonkseal-size_restricted.gif?jlXJkqz1oMOMtDJmLa6sU2HgdV4jr4dy","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/relationships/features/a20045/virtual-date-ideas-get-you-through-lockdown","created":"14 April 2020 ","time_created":"2020-04-14T17:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Relationships","field_section_url":"/relationships","field_content_type":"Features","notes":"https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a32139011/virtual-date-ideas/","notes_syn":"Cosmopolitan","userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19901","title":"How To Stay In Touch...When You’re Crazy Busy","field_dek":"Drowning in piles of stuff with no time to breathe? Cosmo tells you how to reach out to your friends and fam when you’re underwater.\r\n\r\n \r\n","modified":"2020-04-06 09:23:09","status":"1","field_full_dek":"Prioritise, prioritise!\r\n\r\n“Not everyone needs your attention every day,” says life coach and author of The 3 Secrets to Effective Time Investment, Elizabeth Grace Saunders. “Sort the important people in your life into who you need to touch base with every day, week, month, and so on. It helps you avoid feeling like you’re not in touch with the people who count,” she adds. Try making a list of people’s names under categories of importance. \r\n\r\nWork That Social Media\r\n\r\n“You’re almost always on Facebook or Twitter at work anyway—use it to shout out to the people you love,” says entrepreneur Stever Robbins of getitdoneguy.com. Instagram a picture of yourself at your desk and tag your mum who’s always asking how work is going. Send your bestie in the US a link to a song on Facebook, because you know she’s going to love it. “Everyone’s always got some social media they gravitate towards in the day, and reaching out through it takes very little time and leaves a thought that counts,” says Robbins.\r\n\r\nFix A Time To Touch Base\r\nSome people in your life need you every single day—but you can’t always take their calls. “Consider setting up a recurring weekly phone call or lunch meeting so that spending time with them is naturally built into your schedule,” Saunders advocates. “If not, decide on the ‘when’ and ‘where’ at the end of each meeting,” she says.\r\n\r\nSort Your Friends Geographically\r\n“Make a note of people relocating, and where they live, so you can plan to meet when you travel for work,” Robbins advises. A good idea is to add the city they live in to the contact description on your phone—for instance, ‘Priya Rao (Mumbai)’.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nINSTA TIPS\r\n\r\n\r\n\tMake a WhatsApp group for family, and another for close friends. Jot down any updates from the day—good, bad, whatever—and keep them in the loop.\r\n\tMake a Facebook page for a group. Plan events, put birthday reminders, help everyone keep in touch without all the hassle of coordinating individually.\r\n\tStick a Post-it to remind you of important calls to make, like ‘Call dad at six’.\r\n\r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/giphy_0.gif?8ND_1AeGLlp2Sn77ABXXpVYw5HSuV7Dq","image1x1":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/giphy_0.gif?8ND_1AeGLlp2Sn77ABXXpVYw5HSuV7Dq","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/relationships/features/a19901/how-stay-touchwhen-youre-crazy-busy","created":"06 April 2020 ","time_created":"2020-04-06T14:50:00+05:30","field_section":"Relationships","field_section_url":"/relationships","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19606","title":"Would You Be Okay If Your Guy Wanted to Be a Stay-at-Home Husband?","field_dek":"If we see women as equals in the office, why can’t men be seen as equals in running a home?\r\n","modified":"2020-04-04 06:25:37","status":"1","field_full_dek":"A recent study found that more than half of millennial men would be cool with not working if their spouse made bank. Peter Martin breaks down why we should all be into the idea. \r\n\r\nA lot of guys say it three beers in, or, as I have, no beers in: if my wife made enough money, I’d love to be a house-husband. Now, I don’t have a house, just an apartment. And I’ve had a wife only as of December. But I do have a couch, and I’d love to sit on it even more than I already do. Especially if it were with the blessing of my new spouse. I’d keep our place tidy, grocery shop, do laundry when the hamper filled up, and clean the shower just often enough. Maybe I’d even get into cooking. \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nIf we were to have kids, I’d become the cool dad: unencumbered by the stress of work, able to hold a baby in one hand and a sandwich in the other, all while kicking a football with the neighborhood kids, who’ve heard about this ‘mystical parent’. My wife, the person all this hinges on, sometimes indulges this fantasy. “As long as you’re happy,” she says, before pointing out that she’d need to make a lot more money for me to quit my job. Still, I’m not the only man to feel like this role shift would work. A friend of mine in his mid-20s, MK*, has repeatedly mentioned his desire for his future wife to be the breadwinner. “I don’t want to go to work anymore,” he says. “I’d take care of the chores, and if I had time, I’d even pick up some wood-working projects.” (Trust me ladies, MK can rock a pair of safety goggles.) And a bunch of my women friends have also heard dudes drop the ‘I’d love to be a stay-at-home husband’ line after a few dates. \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nThe number’s prove a change is happening: a recent, American study of 1,100 millennial professionals by Boston College Center of Work and Family found that 51 percent of the men would be comfortable not working if their spouse made enough money.  According to another Pew study, two million dads in the United States are their families’ primary caregivers (read: stay-at-home dads). In 1989, it was barely half that. Partly, says Noelle Chesley, PhD, a Sociologist at the University of Wisconsin at Milwaukee who specialised in family studies, the movement is due to men losing jobs during recession, but it’s also that women are getting more college degrees than men are, and there are more women in the C-suite (a company’s senior executives). \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nToday, 5.1 million breadwinner moms are bringing home higher incomes than their husbands. A recent New York Times op-ed titled ‘Men’s Lib!’ argued that if women are taking on more traditionally male roles at the office, men should be as comfortable taking on traditionally female roles at home. And the dudes agree. Think about it. If my wife and I decide one of us should stay at home to take care of our future kids and she has better career opportunities than I do, why should she be expected to give up her job? If we see women as equals in the office, why can’t men be seen as equals in running a home? To see what it’s really like, I talked with four very different Stay-At-Home Husbands (SAHHs)—some new to the gig and some who have done it for decades. Since it’s not so crazy to imagine your guy may be one of them someday, their thoughts are worth paying attention to. \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n1. It Gets Weird at Parties\r\n\r\nAll the men I spoke with agree that you (and your SAHH) should plan on having an answer to the question: what does your husband do? ‘Nothing’ might get a laugh, but it also begs more questions. (My plan: I’ll tell people that I’m an online trader. It doesn’t take much back story and is not interesting enough to prompt follow-ups.)\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n2. You’ll Feel the Pressure\r\n\r\nIf your husband is sitting at home enjoying the fruits of your labour, you’ll inevitably feel more pressure to perform at work. One SAHH, TM*, 38, quit his full time job to pursue his dream of becoming a writer, not exactly a lucrative endeavor right off-the-bat. Which was fine...until it wasn’t. “She felt stressed that she had to have this job for us, for our security,” he says. “Ultimately, she said, ‘Look, I hate it, but I’ve begun to resent you’.” So they evened things out: he took a part-time job while continuing to freelance, so she could leave her 9-to-5 and try comedy writing.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n3. You’ll Think About Money Differently\r\n\r\nRight now, if I want to come home with a new flat screen, I can. Because I put the money into the pot, it feels fine when I take it out. But, if I stop contributing financially, I don’t want to have to justify every purchase to my wife. In Chesley’s research, “some men felt that they couldn’t spend the way they did before, and had part-time jobs for that reason,” she says.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n4. People Worry About a Man Among Kids\r\n\r\nYou’d obviously trust your own husband with your kids...but would you look askance at another SAHH at the playground? One I talked to, JD*, 41, said a lot of the moms saw him as a possible predator at the playground. Not that he didn’t understand. “If I see another man there, I’m keeping my eye on him,” he says. The SAHHs I spoke with said the other moms eventually warmed up to them. I can be patient.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n5. Sex Will Definitely  Change\r\n\r\nHere’s where the SAHHs says the traditional gender-role switch gets a little depressing. It can be tough wanting to mess around after 12 hours spent on the phone with the cable company, picking up dry-cleaning, making breakfasts, changing diapers, and schlepping groceries. You grab peace in increments of seconds. As one dad, 44-year old BL*, told me, “There are times when I can't wait till the kids are in bed and I can just go to sleep.” This will obviously vary depending on the couple. A study at the University of Alberta suggests that men who help out around the house have more sex (that’s why they call it choreplay!) I like to think that my wife will be so turned on by me in an apron that she wouldn’t be able to resist! \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nI get that the SAHH situation can be tricky, but after talking to the men who are making it work with their wives, I see more positives than negatives. Ladies, you can be free to be as ambitious as you want to at work, knowing more of us guys who are lucky enough to be with you are happy to take care of things at home while you work. Another added benefit for me? If we have kids, those kids would become my job, and I could finally let my job define me. This really is the future. Embrace it. I’ll be on the couch if you need me.\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":"cosmo, cosmpolitan, cosmopolitan india, cosmopolitan.in, cosmo.in, stay at home husband, role reversal in marriage, roles in marriage, would you be ok with a stay at home husband ","field_meta_keyword":"cosmo, cosmpolitan, cosmopolitan india, cosmopolitan.in, cosmo.in, stay at home husband, role reversal in marriage, roles in marriage, would you be ok with a stay at home husband ","image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-02/tenor.gif?jq1fvs0Vu0wjSzNxXU2DnoerY0Zix0HR","image1x1":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-02/tenor.gif?jq1fvs0Vu0wjSzNxXU2DnoerY0Zix0HR","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/relationships/features/a19606/would-you-be-okay-if-your-guy-wanted-be-stay-home-husband","created":"04 April 2020 ","time_created":"2020-04-04T11:30:00+05:30","field_section":"Relationships","field_section_url":"/relationships","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19871","title":"The Only Crazy-Easy Contouring Tutorial You Need!","field_dek":"Make-up guru Laura Mercier breaks the face-sculpting technique down into five easy steps.\r\n\r\n \r\n","modified":"2020-04-03 13:30:01","status":"1","field_full_dek":"1. Prep skin\r\nSpread a coin-size drop of primer over your entire face. It acts like glue, helping the contour stay on your skin all day (and night!). Next, apply tinted moisturizer or foundation to even out your complexion. \r\n\r\n2. Sculpt your features\r\n Define your bone structure by drawing a line of cream bronzer above your eyebrows, down the sides of your nose, below your cheekbones, and on the tip of your chin.\r\n\r\n3. Make them pop\r\nComplete the illusion of fiercer features by dabbing highlighter on the centre of your forehead, down the middle of your nose, above your cheekbones, and on top of your Cupid’s bow and chin.\r\n\r\n4. Blend it in\r\nUse a foundation brush to blend all the lines you created in an up-and-out motion, moving the brush towards the outer edges of your face.\r\n\r\n5. Add colour\r\nFinally, tap a brush into a berry-coloured cream blush and swirl it on the apples of your cheeks, diffusing the hue up and out towards your temples.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nThe Body Shop Honey Bronze Bronzing Gel For Face, Rs 1,395\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nShiseido Foundation Brush, Rs 1,950\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nEstée Lauder Double Wear Brush-On Glow BB Highlighter, Rs 2,800\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nMarks & Spencer Autograph Pure Colour Blush in Berry, Rs 1,499 \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nBy: Deanna Pai; Photographs: Perry Hagopian; Make-Up: Laura Mercier; Hair: Jeanie Syfu At Artist And Agency Using Tresemmé; Manicure: Martha Fekete At Bryan Bantry Agency Using Nars Cosmetics\r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":"cosmo, cosmopolitan, cosmo india, cosmopolitan, cosmo.in, classic blue, 2020 pantone color of the year, blue makeup, blue lips, shraddha bachani, shagun gupta, celebrity makeup artist, blue lipstick, blue eyeshadow, classic blue eyeshadow, classic blue makeup, makeup inspiration, party makeup ideas, NYE party ideas, NYE 2020 ","field_meta_keyword":"cosmo, cosmopolitan, cosmo india, cosmopolitan, cosmo.in, classic blue, 2020 pantone color of the year, blue makeup, blue lips, shraddha bachani, shagun gupta, celebrity makeup artist, blue lipstick, blue eyeshadow, classic blue eyeshadow, classic blue makeup, makeup inspiration, party makeup ideas, NYE party ideas, NYE 2020 ","image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/makeup.gif?EjvzhpErHQh57TCRp0cT.3tGZoi02D6v","image1x1":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/makeup.gif?EjvzhpErHQh57TCRp0cT.3tGZoi02D6v","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/relationships/features/a19871/only-crazy-easy-contouring-tutorial-you-need","created":"03 April 2020 ","time_created":"2020-04-03T19:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Relationships","field_section_url":"/relationships","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19897","title":"How to Be a Social Media Celebrity","field_dek":"Wanna be the #QueenBee of the digital space? Cosmo presents a step-by-step guide to nail each platform like a pro! \r\n","modified":"2020-04-03 15:05:19","status":"1","field_full_dek":"\r\n\r\n#ACE FACEBOOK\r\n\r\nKeep Things Positive\r\n\r\nAccording to experts, sharing good news leads to more ‘Likes’ and sharing.\r\n\r\nEngage with Users\r\n\r\nIt’s not just posts that grab attention, comments do too. Instead of always saying how you feel, ask for people’s opinions. Question posts get 100% more engagement.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nKNOW THE DEADLINE\r\n\r\nOn FB, a post reaches 75 percent of its potential in the first 5 hours. So if you want more people to see it, consider reposting after a couple of hours.\r\n\r\nCUT BACK ON BOASTING\r\n\r\nGoing on about your great job and loving BF and that award you won (*feeling blessed*) can signal self-esteem issues, which may turn off friends and followers.\r\n\r\nPUT UP A SMILEY\r\n\r\nPosts with emoticons get 33% more comments and shares. Plus, they get ‘Liked’ 57% more often than other posts.\r\n\r\nBUSIEST DAYS\r\n\r\nThursdays and Fridays have been proven to be the most popular days for FB as people are least interested in work closer to the weekend.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n#TACKLE TWITTER\r\n\r\nSKIP TMI\r\n\r\nTwitter followers dislike Tweets about people’s lunch or personal life or rehashed info. What they want is news, views, or “something funny”!\r\n\r\nPLAN YOUR POSTS\r\n\r\nThe pros know that 20+ Tweets a day is a good number. Try an online tool like Buffer to schedule Tweets throughout the day.\r\n\r\nJUST ASK ’EM!\r\n\r\nTweets that specifically ask followers to Retweet receive 12X higher RT rates than those that don’t.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nAdd an Image\r\n\r\nAdding an image or a video will make your post more engaging.\r\n\r\nRETWEET RIGHT\r\n\r\nIt’s smart to Retweet relevant content for your audience. But leave 20 characters so that they can add their own views or any relevant content to your Tweets.\r\n\r\nAVOID HASHTAGS\r\n\r\n#Stop #Doing #This #Now. Twitter space is precious and followers want you to use it effectively.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n#PERFECT PINTEREST\r\n\r\nPICK YOUR DAYS\r\n\r\nThe Pinterest blog recently revealed their top categories for engagement—Mon: fitness; Tue: tech; Wed: quotes; Thurs: fashion; Fri: humour; Sat: travel; Sun: food and crafts.\r\n\r\nBE SHADE SMART\r\n\r\nImages with dominant colours (red, dark green, pink) get 3X the number of ‘Likes’ and Repins.\r\n\r\nSKIP THE SELFIES\r\n\r\nImages with no human faces get shared 23% more often than those with them.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nCUT BACK ON BACKGROUND\r\n\r\nUse a compelling background that doesn’t take up more than 40% of your image, as that cuts Repins by 50%.\r\n\r\nRED RULES\r\n\r\nImages that have a lot of red or orange get twice the amount of Repins!\r\n\r\nPORTRAIT IT\r\n\r\nVertical images perform better than horizontal images. The perfect ratios are 2:3 and 4:5.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n#RULE YOUTUBE\r\n\r\nAmplified personalities tend to do better on YT, so it helps to be more animated than usual. Study your voice, and don’t forget to smile.\r\n\r\nTALK LIKE A STAR\r\n\r\ncontest it\r\n\r\nEnter YouTube contests! You may not win, but having your video out there will help you get followers.\r\n\r\nCall to Action\r\n\r\nIn the description, remember to let viewers know what you’d like them to do next, like subscribe to your channel or visit your site.\r\n\r\nTITLES MATTER (A LOT)\r\n\r\nWhen people are searching for stuff to watch, you want to show up! Consider what people may type, and include popular keywords.\r\n\r\nMAKE IT MAJOR\r\n\r\nPros don’t just upload a vid, they optimise it with a description and tags so it appears in more searches.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n#ACE INSTAGRAM\r\n\r\nBE A TYPE\r\n\r\nMost successful Instagram users post a type of content, like grumpy cats or fashion. Having an ‘area’ gets you noticed.\r\n\r\nRULE OF SELFIES\r\n\r\nA social media scientist found that the most ‘Liked’ Insta selfies featured tones like blue, green and beige, and a #nofilter hashtag.\r\n\r\n#USE HASHTAGS\r\n\r\nKeep a tab on trending hashtags to generate maximum engagement.\r\n\r\nBE AN EDITING PRO\r\n\r\nUse apps like Camera+ and Snapseed to enhance your photos. Once you’ve developed an editing style, your feed will have a consistent look and feel.\r\n\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/Untitled%20design_0.png?DQ0eJx3vjyesJdQvD4X5U1hB.JDwonSR","image1x1":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-04/Untitled%20design_0.png?DQ0eJx3vjyesJdQvD4X5U1hB.JDwonSR","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/relationships/features/a19897/how-be-social-media-celebrity","created":"03 April 2020 ","time_created":"2020-04-03T18:30:00+05:30","field_section":"Relationships","field_section_url":"/relationships","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19691","title":"7 Lists That Will Change Your Life","field_dek":"From helpful to hilarious, we’ve got a life list for everyone\r\n","modified":"2020-04-02 15:16:43","status":"1","field_full_dek":"Signs you have found the right guy\r\n\r\n1. He makes comments about the future that imply you’ll still be together.\r\n\r\n2. He indulges you as you vent about your boss and gossip about the latest evictee from BIGG BOSS.\r\n\r\n3. He’s not totally horrified when you walk around wearing a face mask.\r\n\r\n4. You’re capable of having it out, and sorting it out, in a reasonable time frame. No, ignoring each other for a week is not reasonable.\r\n\r\n5. He says, ‘I love you’—even when you’re wearing your ugliest track pants and watching New Girl re-runs, deep in sloth mode. \r\n\r\n6. He tells you how smokin’ hot you look when you actually make an effort (because we all know ‘you look nice’ doesn’t cut it).\r\n\r\n7. When he met your (possibly crazy) extended family, he didn’t leg it.\r\n\r\n8. When you’re apart, you miss each other in a genuine way, not in a 15-year-old’s way.\r\n\r\n9. You’ve successfully travelled together for more than two weeks without any major bust-ups.\r\n\r\n10. You have similar long-term goals, whether it’s buying a house or starting a family.\r\n\r\n11. You hate dealing with other humans, but you never get sick of hanging out with (or waking up next to) him.\r\n\r\n12. He has a polite way of telling you that that pasta you made for dinner was really terrible.\r\n\r\n13. When you think about marrying him, the best part is not the wedding but the fact you’ll spend the rest of your lives together.\r\n\r\n14. He brags about you. he’s your biggest fan, next to your mom.\r\n\r\n15. No matter how long you’ve been an item, he still does sweet things for you.\r\n\r\n16. He’s nice to your friends even when he comes home to find you and your besties drunk on wine and singing karaoke.\r\n\r\n17. His friends are nice to you, and keep saying how he’s never seemed happier.\r\n\r\n18. You don’t ever think about happily ever after, because as far as you’re concerned, you’ve already got it.\r\n\r\n19. signs you’re with the man you should marry\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n10 Signs you should quit your job\r\n\r\n1. The only thing that gets you through the day is sugar.\r\n\r\n2. You always have one eye on your e-mails and the other on Buzzfeed.\r\n\r\n3. You live for office gossip. Anushka from Marketing called off her engagement? That’s enough to keep you going for a month.\r\n\r\n4. Trips to the cafeteria take up 90 percent of your day. Because you can’t concentrate without tea.\r\n\r\n5. Mondays make you want to stab yourself in the eye. Fridays make you so happy you could kiss the weird looking office boy.\r\n\r\n6. People who say they ‘love their job’ make you throw up in your mouth a bit.\r\n\r\n7. You’ve got a resignation e-mail saved in your drafts; just in case. And you reword it on a\r\ndaily basis.\r\n\r\n8. You’ve perfected your, ‘I’m *cough* sick’ voice, and go make-up free when you return to work to sell how *sick* you’ve been.\r\n\r\n9. Every time your boss calls your name you think: FML. Even when they’re just making small talk with you at the lift.\r\n\r\n10. You’ve diagnosed yourself with a stomach ulcer from work stress. No, it’s got nothing to do with all that sugar you ate.\r\n\r\n4 Ways To Reuse A Burnt Candle Jar\r\n\r\n1. Plant an orchid in it. They’re the new succulents in the world of plants, and the new macarons in the world of chic gifting. They are big-impact, minimal bench space plants, so they grow great in a small container.\r\n\r\n2. Create some mood lighting. Fairy lights are cheap and give just the right amount of glow for an evening in. Arrange your jars on a serving tray and wrap the fairy lights in and around. Add some vases for height and shape.\r\n\r\n3. Give your rings a pretty place to sit when they’re not on your fingers. Pop them on a saucer and cover using an upside-down holder—it acts like a cloche to keep everything dust-free.\r\n\r\n4. Make it bathroom appropriate. Your make-up is always looking for cool new places to live, and if you store it all in several jars somewhere you can see it all easily, your morning rush will be more manageable.\r\n\r\n9 Things Not To Say To A One Night Stand...\r\n\r\n1. ‘Does this mean we’re dating?’\r\n\r\n2. ‘Same time next week?’\r\n\r\n3. ‘This isn’t how I pictured losing my v-card.’\r\n\r\n4. ‘Want to come to my parents’ place for dinner tonight?’\r\n\r\n5. ‘Do you think I’m pretty?’\r\n\r\n6. ‘Oh my God, my brother has those exact same boxer shorts!’\r\n\r\n7. ‘Do you mind if I use your toothbrush?’\r\n\r\n8. ‘Now, where do I put my bride-to-be sash?’\r\n\r\n9. ‘can i add you on FB?’\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n8 Fashion Problems Only Disney Princesses Understand\r\n\r\n1. The only way you can change is by the power of your Fairy Godmother.\r\n\r\n2. No more fun prints. Block colours are your life from now on.\r\n\r\n3. You are constantly worrying that your highly uncomfortable glass slippers will shatter and slice up your feet.\r\n\r\n4.  You have to wear the same outfit everyday. None of this switching it up with some cute Zara midi-skirts business.\r\n\r\n5. Your boyfriend dresses like a male trapeze artist.\r\n\r\n6. You can never quite match your shoes to your tiara.\r\n\r\n7. You never get an option when it comes to the colour palette—we hope pastel and sorbet shades suit you!\r\n\r\n8. Your evil stepmother/enemy/witch with a vendetta can pull off the bad-girl look better than you ever could. But at least you’ll never, ever have a bad hair day.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n9 Signs Your Friend Is Really A B*tch\r\n\r\n1. She specialises in giving backhanded compliments like, ‘Your new hairstyle really slims your face’. Um, thanks?\r\n\r\n2. She looks like she got a whiff of dog poo when you announce something good that’s happened like you’ve just got a promotion.\r\n\r\n3. She ‘borrows’ your clothes and never ever gives them back. Then you see her wearing them in her Insta pics.\r\n\r\n4. Whenever you try to organise to meet up, she’s always ‘super busy, babes!’\r\n\r\n5. Then, when you finally make plans, she’ll always flake at the last minute.\r\n\r\n6. She has permanent b*tchy resting face.\r\n\r\n7. She’s a compulsive liar. Sorry, but you did not go clubbing with Varun Dhawan last night.\r\n\r\n8. You find yourself going all Mean Girl whenever you’re around her.\r\n\r\n9. She cut off your Barbie’s hair that one time you were five. no, You’re still not over it.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n6 Surprising Things You Can Do In Two Minutes\r\n\r\n1. Be more productive by: unsubscribing from all your useless newsletters.\r\n\r\n2. Be a calmer person by: meditating, deep breathing, whatever you like.\r\n\r\n3. Get better hair by: adding a teaspoon of baking soda to your shampoo to get rid of product build-up.\r\n\r\n4. Get a cleaner house by: cleaning for 120 seconds everyday. It will make you a 47 percent cleaner human (we guesstimate).\r\n\r\n5. Be a better person by: doing just one act of niceness everyday.\r\n\r\n6. Get fitter by: doing a high-intensity interval workout. Do 20 seconds of high-intensity cardio, followed by a 10 second rest. 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10 Stages Every Woman Goes Through When She Fakes an Orgasm

#4 is sooo relatable 😉.

Let’s face it—orgasm gap exists. According to statistics shared by Durex India, nearly 70% women in India don’t orgasm every time they have sex.

With so many women not being able to orgasm, there are times when otherwise-empowered, sex-positive women decide to fake it. Maybe they are just tired, embarrassed to ask for what they need, or conditioned to believe that there must always be a happy ending (thanks Disney). If you have ever been in this situation, here are 10 thoughts that might have crossed your mind.

 

1.Ok this is fun, but I am nowhere close to being turned on enough to reach an orgasm RN.

or

 

2. I’m kinda really missing my vibrator, TBH.

th

 

3. I wonder how long he’s going to take to hit the right spot.

eye

 

4. OMG, I totally forgot there is a new episode of Riverdale out!

forgot

 

5. Sh*t, maybe I’m not able to orgasm because I’m more emotionally invested in fictional people than real ones?

wrong

 

6. Why the eff can’t he go down on me?

why

 

7. I wonder if I should draw him a diagram of my clit, ’coz it’s definitely not where he seems to think it is.

dai

 

8. Should we order Chinese takeaway after this? At least there’s some guaranteed satisfaction there!

ch

 

9. I think it’s time to channel my inner Sally...

sally

 

10. How long do I have to keep sounding like this? Three minutes? Eight? Naah, he might think I’m dying. I’ll just keep it short and sweet.

done

 

Did we miss something? Share your thoughts with us, ladies!