It’s nice to have the ability to stay in touch with your partner even when they’re at work. But just because you can text them every few minutes doesn’t mean you should. If you’re worried about distracting yourself when you should be getting paid, there are other ways to stay connected without having to hide your phone on your lap under your desk.
1. WRITE A LETTER AND STICK IT IN THEIR BAG. Take some inspo from Peter Kavinsky from To All The Boys I’ve Loved and keep it short and sweet. Tuck it in their briefcase or lunch bag so they have something to look forward to during the day. Write about how you’re excited for tonight’s date, or let them know you appreciate them. It’s sweeter than a text.
2. KEEP A LIST OF EVERYTHING THAT MADE YOU THINK OF THEM. Share it at the end of the day. See a cute dog you think they’d like? Write it down. Walk by one of your favourite restaurants on your break? Write it down.
3. MAKE EACH OTHER LUNCH AND KEEP IT A SURPRISE. The night before, plan out a meal for each other and bag it up so it’s a surprise the next day. It doesn’t have to be a three-course meal or anything complicated, but putting the effort in is fun—and you get home-cooked meals.
4. WRITE A LETTER AND MAIL IT TO THEIR OFFICE. No-one gets mail that isn’t a bill anymore. It’s fun to get real mail. Sure, this is basically the same idea as tucking a letter into their bag, but people find going old-school romantic.
5. SEND ONE PIC BETWEEN 9 AND 5. One. Instead of texting, you get to send them a single picture—after all, it’s worth a thousand words. What you send is up to you: an inside joke or a picture of you smiling. It’s like a game to keeps your texting to a minimum.
6. PROMISE TO TALK OVER DINNER. This is how people used to do things before cell phones. The problem with texting all day is that by the time you both come home there’s nothing left to talk about. Save it all for when you get home and talk about it all face-to-face.
7. IF YOUR NEED TO TEXT IS REALLY BAD, START A TEXT JAR. Put `100 in every time you reach for your phone, and have your SO do the same. At the end of the week, use it for date night.
8. SEND THEM FLOWERS, BALLOONS, OR GET A LUNCH DELIVERED. If they work in the type of office where this is appropriate and your partner wouldn’t be embarrassed by this, of course. This can also get expensive real fast, so use this as a fun thing to do as a special surprise.
9. TAKE 15 MINUTES TO CALL ON YOUR LUNCH BREAKS. This only works if your breaks line up. But if you can call, you can catch-up and get a lot out about what’s been going on or things you’ve been thinking about.
10. OR IF YOU’RE CLOSE, MEET FOR LUNCH. If you’re able to break at the same time and you work close enough, you can meet for lunch. If their schedule is flexible, you can even show up and surprise them.
11. IF IT’S FEASIBLE, CARPOOL OR COMMUTE TOGETHER. Spend quality time on the drive up (or if you’re not morning people, just sit in silence) and decompress together on the way down. Knowing your work day is going to be bookended by QT with bae will cut down on needless texting.
12. PLAY WORDS WITH FRIENDS. Sure, you’ll still be reaching for your phone, but hopefully not as often. It’s easier to download a game like Pictionary that lets you respond whenever you get a few minutes to yourself, and you won’t feel as obligated to be glued to your screen.