Is watching porn with your partner a good way to turn up the heat?

Everyone’s watched porn at some point in their life or continues to do so. Ask most of the people around you if they have and you’d be surprised to hear ‘No’ from anyone. But we have a question to ask them that might see a ‘No’ across the table—have you watched sex with your partner? We’re pretty liberal and cool that way, which is why we’d absolutely love those who do consume porn with their special someone. While most articles will talk about the harmful effects of porn, we forget that they talk about watching it all by yourself—not with your partner. With couples becoming more adventurous in their lifestyle, and in bed, watching porn might just not be the worst idea to increase intimacy between the two. 

Here’s why watching it together could do good for your relationship

Just like the sex, you’re doing this together as well 

It’s just like sharing a hobby, or something that the two of you like, do solo and now want to do together after realizing how much you love it. Doing something that sees you invest in quality time with your partner in a relationship is always a good thing. Just ensure that the speakers aren’t loud enough. 

It’s a win-win situation for you and your senses as porn stimulates your brain, your hand (or your partner’s) does the same to your body and if you love your partner, we’re pretty sure that you have your heart in the right place. 

And a good way to get things started is by not watching something ‘hardcore’ but by seeing a movie that’s got a lot of steamy scenes. Start subtly and slowly. 

You get to know what turns your partners on

Considering the plethora of genres and categories that porn has, the answer to ‘what does your partner fantasize about?’ is a simple video clip. Watching porn is the best way to let your partner know what you like, what gets you hard or wet and vice versa. If you want to know how to please your partner, watching porn together could be a great way to begin. After all, all great lovers aim to please. 

It does speed up foreplay

According to New Scientist, "In a 2006 study at McGill University, researchers monitored genital temperature changes to measure sexual arousal and found that, when shown porn clips, men and women alike began displaying arousal within 30 seconds; men reached maximum arousal in about 11 minutes, women in about 12."

With us being so busy with work, and errands to run at home, there’s very little room these days to be spontaneous. That’s where porn comes into the picture. There are a lot of benefits from doing or watching something that turns us on, even more so when we have our partner watching with us. 

It tells you that your partner doesn’t only need to be sexually attracted to you

You’re living inside a bubble if you think your partner can only be turned on by you. Watching porn together enables you to see a ‘visual’ of what or rather, who can turn them on. If your relationship is an extremely mature one there is no reason why you, or your partner, will feel insecure and threatened about watching porn together. 

You become more open with regard to how you view, and like sex

It’s important to remember that watching porn with your partner won’t ruin your relationship, but not allowing them to do so might just put a strain on it. Having this conversation, and watching it together gives ample room for communication, and honesty rather than feeling the need to keep things hidden, for we might be judged. 

Set boundaries

When you’re doing something with your partner for the first time, it’s best to get a thorough understanding of what makes them comfortable, and the things that are completely off the table. Watching porn is a very touchy topic (no pun intended) and it’s best the two of you reach a mutual understanding on the type of content that you will absolutely not watch, whether are they comfortable if their partner masturbates while watching porn, etc. 

Check-in with your partner after watching porn

Communication is the golden rule when it comes to relationships. After you both have enjoyed the entire experience, take the time off to process and reflect on what just happened. Talk about what you liked, what you didn’t, what can be done differently the next time, and the things that you can implement when you two have sex, the list is endless but a step in the right direction. It’ll also teach you to share just intimate moments after any other sexual moment that you have—even when porn isn’t involved.