A beginner's guide to mastering the steamy 69 sex position

If you and your partner enjoy oral sex, there is little chance you are not familiar with the 69 sex position. The good old-fashioned 69 position is intimate and a great way to turn the heat on; after all, going down on each other at the same time is no ordinary feat. If you as a couple have mastered the 69 position, kudos to you, but it is absolutely normal to be overwhelmed by it or even have some reservations. 

For starters, you may be worried about not reciprocating during the act as you may be (probably) distracted by what you are receiving. You may also worry that you may not be able to focus on the sensations because you are busy exercising your mouth. But fret not, we have listed a few things that both the partners need to do to make the most out of the 69 act. Read on.

The 69 position is fun only if both of you are up for it and feel comfortable about it. Remember, you do not need to put yourself in an uncomfortable position (quite literally) just to please your partner. And if you do actually go for it, there is a chance that one of you may have a sensitive gag reflex or feel claustrophobic. At such a time, consider lying on your sides or having that partner on top. One of the most essential tips for 69 is maintaining sexual hygiene. In as intimate a position as 69, you don't want your genitals to be unclean or giving out an unpleasant odour or taste. 

Experiment and explore

Try the 69 position variations until you find a position you both are comfortable in. The position is a great way to explore each other’s genitals, so take your time with it and learn a bit more about each other's bodies. You can also explore their body by licking and sucking the inner thighs and the area around their genitals. Don’t forget, you can use your hands, too, to please your partner. Despite knowing the many tips for the 69 position and its many variations, the most important thing is to take the time to find what works best for you and your partner. Have a candid conversation about it and make the most of this steamy position. 

Tackle the height difference

It’s great if you and your partner are the same height. But how do you make the 69 position comfortable with a considerable height difference? The solution is, to try it sideways. In this variation of the 69 position, both partners lay on their sides and go at it. This way, you also don’t have to worry about your limbs being in odd places and feeling a strain on them. You can rest your head on their thighs to keep the pressure on the neck as low as possible. Another way to work around the height difference is that the taller person can form a C with their bodies to accommodate their partner. There’s a lot of room to explore, so communicate, relax, and enjoy the sensual position.