Blowjob tips that will give your partner shivers of pleasure

‘I take you to the candy shop. I let you lick the lollipop. Go 'head, girl, don't you stop. Keep goin' until you hit the spot, woah.’ You didn't think that absolute banger of a track by 50 Cent back in the day was about candies and lollipops, did you? Even if you did, we're sure you've moved to better-tasting lollipops in life!

Blowjobs can be very pleasurable and are often used to stimulate your partner, either as a precursor to penetration or simply for climax. Irrespective of what your intent is, getting your technique and style right is important because if not done well, it can be a downer. That’s why we’re here to help you take your blowjob skills to a whole new level!

Consent is as sexy as it is important. And that goes for any sexual act because it builds trust and respect for the other person. Even if you’re feeling down and dirty and can’t wait to indulge in oral sex with your partner, you can't be sure if they feel the same way. It's always important to discuss what your partner is into and what’s off-limits so that even when the sex is spontaneous, you both know whether or not you want to give/receive oral sex. This is not just for the beginning but also during and after sex. Let them know if you like what they're doing and also be sure to ask them if they’re enjoying it or not. This will help them ease into the act, get comfortable, and really enjoy a hot and steamy session. And when it comes to a blowjob, what you do should feel like a satisfying act rather than an obligation. 

This brings us to our next point, which is enthusiasm. You might have the greatest technique but none of it matters if you (the one giving the blowjob) aren't really enjoying it! Both you and your partner will have a great time only if you both enjoy it. And if you really want to give (or have) the best blowjob, be sure to bring in your positive attitude. 

Keep things simple when you start. Begin by wrapping your dominant hand around the shaft of their penis and then get your mouth into the mix. Another trick is to make an O-shape with your index finger and thumb, place it against your lips, and move your hands and lips up and down along the penis. You could also have your mouth in one place and move your hand (or both hands) separately. It's important to relax your tongue; keep it soft and use it to tease every part of the penis, especially the sensitive areas like the head and frenulum—the underside where the penis head meets the shaft. Use the flat side of your tongue to lick the penis right from the bottom to the tip, using occasional flicking motions as well.

While your tongue and lips work their magic, try to avoid adding your teeth to the mix. You want to lick and suck, not bite hard into your man’s penis no matter how tempting it is. You could either cover your teeth with your tongue or wrap your lips around your teeth as you move up and down the penis. 

Now there will come a point where your mouth and jaw begin to feel sore. And that is when your hands come into play. Use your wrists to move clockwise or anticlockwise as you move your hand up and down. You could also try twisting your head while moving up and down in what’s called the ‘corkscrew’ method. This provides intense stimulation, especially when you’re doing it right near the tip. Take things up a notch by pressing your tongue against the frenulum as you come up to the head of the penis while doing the corkscrew.

It’s always better when it’s wetter

Your saliva is the best way to make a blowjob better. It’s an excellent natural lubricant that makes things much smoother. But remember, too much of something good thing can be bad. You don’t want your blowjob to be a sloppy and slippery mess. If not saliva, using some lube or even a glass of water will do the trick. 

Things can go really far in the heat of the moment during a blowjob, like really far. We’re talking about it reaching the end of your throat. Not only does it feel amazing, it is also a massive turn-on watching the entire penis fit inside someone's mouth. But proceed with caution (and as previously mentioned, consent). Start by taking things slow and seeing how much of it can you take inside your mouth. You can move your head to adjust how much you take into your mouth or make your partner thrust a little more gently. You could have them sit on their back or lie down straight helps you decide how deep you want to go. But remember to take things slow. You don't want to do things in a hurry and hurt them or yourself. Also, remember to take deep breaths; take as many breaks as you need and switch it up with your hands if you get tired. 

Don’t forget their balls

Everyone’s got their tastes and preferences when it comes to giving and receiving a blowjob. But if a partner wants to get their testicles stimulated, you might want to incorporate something new into the act (post-talking about it). What you can do here is wrap a thumb and index finger around their balls and pull them gently away. Follow that up by running your tongue in a circle. Another common method here is ‘teabagging’—you take their testicles in your mouth and lick and suck away creating a teasing sensation full of pleasure.

To swallow or to spit? 

Just like every other aspect related to a blowjob, whether or not your partner ejaculates inside your mouth is entirely a matter of choice. If it’s the first time for the two of you, ask them about this because the last thing you want to have inside your mouth is their cum (unless you prefer it). It’s best to establish boundaries. A simple ‘How would you like to swallow?’ or ‘Should we give swallowing a shot?’ will provide ample clarity. If ejaculating in your mouth and swallowing is cool for the two of you, great. If it isn’t, you can make things easier by letting them know that you will spit it out or that they can cum on other parts of your body. But remember, climaxing through a blowjob shouldn’t be the end goal because you must enjoy the journey and not the final destination. 

Don’t forget comfort and the position

While we addressed the fact that technique and enthusiasm are the secret ingredients to a blowjob, the right position of the two partners plays a role as well. While the tried and tested going down on your knees with your partner standing in front of you, will never go out of style, there are a couple of other positions that you might want to try out to maximise your pleasure. 

You could be sitting on a chair or sofa and have your partner kneel or you could try the 69 position if you’re shy about having your partner watching you. It’s a great position for you to go deep and also allows your hands to be free. Another extremely sexy blowjob position is to have the giver on a sofa or bed upside down with the receiver kneeling or standing in front of them. This is a popular one because it aligns the giver’s face with the receiver’s penis allowing them to deep throat. Not only is looking down and watching your partner absolutely charming, but it also gives them an awesome view. What’s an even hotter position is face sitting, where your partner straddles your face and gives themselves a blowjob by thrusting into your mouth. 

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