Signs your relationship is worth saving and you should not give up

Being in a healthy relationship can be fulfilling and joyous but it is not all fun and no work. Relationships require a lot of time, effort, and commitment—from both people involved. Not every moment in your relationship will be rose-tinted; there will be times when things get rough to even the extent of you questioning the very bond you share. When they are in a rough phase, it is common for people to start wondering if they should give up or push harder. 

Sometimes, it's healthier to walk away from a partner, especially if they are being toxic and bringing you down. It also happens that you realise that a relationship has run its course or that you have fundamentally different mindsets that don't seem to merge. But sometimes, a relationship with the potential to last breaks because you didn't know how (or if) to save it. 

How do you know if a relationship is worth saving? Here are some strong indicators that let you know that you and your partner can overcome this rough patch. 

The very thought of parting ways breaks your heart

If this isn’t the first time you’ve ended a relationship, you know that the exact point when you decide this is it and are done with the person and what you share with them. But when you really care for the person, you just can’t stomach their absence. Don't get confused; sometimes, it is right for you to walk away but you struggle with the attachment there is. But here, you can feel in your heart that you are still connected and that it is not over. You can see the problems but you also know you want to look for the solutions. So fight for the intimacy that once existed in your connection. It possibly still does but is buried under a pile of issues that need to be resolved. 

You've chosen each other, every time

The lyrics of a popular Cheryl Cole song go like, ‘We got to fight for this love’ and that’s exactly what one has to do when in a relationship. If you and your partner fight for and not with you, that’s when you know that your bond means something. It’s important for both of you to get mad at the right things. 

There is a mutual sense of admiration and respect

Do you listen to your partner, and above all respect their perspectives, values, and vision? There will be a difference of opinion and that’s what balance is all about. You soon realize that you can do things differently, yet achieve the same result. A thriving relationship requires both of you to honour each other in mind, body, heart, and soul. While the opinions may differ, sharing the same core values with them and being on the same page makes you feel content with them—a sign that it’s a relationship worth saving. 

You do not feel judged and can be vulnerable with them

It’s a fulfilling relationship when you can be yourself and above all—let your guard down in their presence. The physical intimacy may see you each other without any clothes, but it’s truly opening up and sharing your deepest feelings, fears, and flaws—to be completely naked. Doing so can be scarier than anything you’ve done before. But if you have someone who trusts and understands these traits that you bring, do your best to not lose this person. 

Furthermore, having the ability to forgive your partner for what happened in the past allows you to be more transparent with them paving the way for a better present and future. 

The two of you have accepted each other’s imperfections

We make mistakes, and fall, only to rise again. That’s what being human is about. Having a partner who understands that you’re far from the finished article (and feeling the same towards them as well) is a healthy sign of this relationship being the one you want to be in. 

You’re friends as well

If the bond that you share with your partner has blossomed due to starting off as friends and has only gotten better, do realise that you stand a chance of losing a friend along with the relationship should you part ways. If you have found a friend who’ll be part of this journey called life, do not leave their hand. 

Do you and your partner want to grow? Individually and with each other?

A relationship can only feel like a bed of roses with sunshine and rainbows if you work towards making it seem that way. There will be countless challenges and bad days, it is the sheer will to learn and improve on the areas that went wrong that’s a sign of growth. Add to that, you and your loved one are a team which is why this has to be done together with both people meeting each other halfway should they want to grow. If the answer to this question is a resounding yes, you have nothing to be worried about.

You still make each other smile and laugh 

It’s the small little things in life that matter—smiling and joking top that list. If you can make your partner laugh and always break into a smile when they show their witty side, just know that it’s all worth fighting for.