Your guide to having a quickie when you don't have the time for slow sex

I’m glad that we live in an age where people are out and proud to be in their s*** era, unapologetically ask for what they want, and are unashamed to speak about pleasuring oneself and more. What was once considered to be ‘sl***y’ or shameful, is now fun and exciting (oh, and satisfying)—yes, the quickie, defined as a brief act or instance of having sex. I’m yet to indulge in the quick, erotic, on-the-go kinda sex, but I’m certain it’ll be amazing. And truth be told, in this fast-paced world, a quickie is a great way to squeeze in some quality time with your beau. An added bonus is that it is an effective de-stressor, and relieves tension from the body. 

Quickies can be had anywhere—the few minutes before you have to get dressed for a night out, before you head out for work or even when you’re away for a weekend with friends. If you want to make the most of a few minutes for a hot and steamy sesh, but are unsure how, here are a few keep-in-minds. 

A quickie doesn’t always need to lead to an orgasm 
According to an article, sex therapist Kristen Lilla says, “Most people have to revamp their idea of what a quickie even means. Ditch the idea of a quickie as a means to a fast orgasm or sexual release, and focus instead on being able to connect with your partner. A quickie doesn't have to end in orgasm. An orgasm is more of a cherry-on-top kind of thing.” A quickie could just be a quick hand job, oral sex, or even just a ten-minute long, good, steamy make-out session. Intimacy doesn’t require either one to orgasm (even though it’s ALWAYS welcome), just being physically close to each other and understanding their body. 

Positions to make the best out of those few minutes

Depending on the amount of time you have, there are a number of positions you can experiment with. If you’re in the mood for a morning quickie and want to switch things up from the missionary style on the bed, the shower might be a good place to start—whether it’s giving a quick hand job, fingering, or even using the hand shower as a quick-fix. You can also try sitting upright on your desk, kitchen counter or bathroom sink, wrapping your legs around your boo, and going at it. You can choose to go up against the wall and turn the heat up or bend over, while resting your arms on the bed or desk, and have go at it from the back. This is a great position if you’re wearing something easy to slip out of like a skirt. 

Use a lube 
For those of you who take a little longer to get fully aroused, using lube is a great option as you may not be wet enough while having penetrative or any other kind of sex. It will make the quickie a whole lot easier, smoother, and faster, with ample time to enjoy the process. 

Foreplay is the way 

Let’s be honest—being sneaky and flirty is super fun. A key to a good quickie is also to build up the anticipation of having one. Want to sneak into the bathroom in the middle of a party for a quick one? You can start by sending flirty and steamy texts before you actually head to the bathroom. Sexting is a great way to turn things up a notch even while you’re on your way back home from work and are in the mood for a steamy sesh. If you’re at home, then engage in some foreplay, so the two of you have enough lubrication before you have that quickie. 

Keep experimenting 
Whether it’s trying out new positions or engaging in different kinds of foreplay, the key to keep enjoying a quickie is constantly experimenting. This could also mean using sex toys that may stimulate you more and even give you that orgasm you’re looking for. It could also mean switching up your regular quickie spots like your bed to the couch, kitchen counter, or anywhere else.