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What your skincare routine secretly says about your attachment style

Nightly rituals, messy feelings—your routine is spilling the real tea on your emotional mood board.

Dec 5, 2025
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Once upon a time, skincare was just… skincare. A little face wash here, a dab of moisturiser there, and you were done. But now? It’s personality, therapy, a nightly ritual, and sometimes the only stable relationship in your life. Your bathroom shelf has become a whole mood board, your serums double as coping mechanisms, and your moisturiser? She’s basically your softest emotional support system.

And whether we like it or not, our routines are low-key snitching on us. Because if you look closely enough, your attachment style is literally hiding between your toner and SPF—quietly revealing if you’re chill, chaotic, or one missed step away from a full existential spiral.

The 10-step girl: Anxious, but make it glowy

 


If you religiously follow all ten steps of your routine—even when you stumble home at 2 am—welcome to the anxious-preoccupied club. You crave structure, love reassurance, and triple-check everything (including whether your serum is pilling). You’re the “just checking” texter, the overthinker, the queen of doing everything to make sure things go right. Skincare is your safety blanket, and honestly, let her have that.

The ‘I just use soap’ girl: Avoidant icon

 


If you wash your face with whatever soap is closest, moisturise only if you “remember,” and apply SPF when the universe feels right, that’s pure dismissive-avoidant energy. Zero dependence, zero commitment, and zero panic when a product runs out. Routine? Never met her. But somehow, this girl always has great cheekbones and an enviably unbothered aura.

The serial product hopper: Fearful-avoidant vibes


If you’re buying a new serum every week because TikTok said so, welcome to fearful-avoidant territory. You want the glow, you fear the breakouts, and you switch products like you switch crushes. Emotionally allergic to stability, whether in your routine or your relationships, your cabinet is full, your heart is stressed, and your skin is purging, in every sense.

The minimalist queen: Securely attached

 


Four-step routine, drinks water, SPF every day, zero panic-buying acid peels at 1 am. Calm, balanced, and shockingly good at texting back like a normal human. She’s the skincare equivalent of inner peace, the girl we all secretly aspire to be.

So… is your routine actually a red flag?

Plot twist: none of this is a red flag. Your skincare routine is just another way your brain tries to make sense of the chaos. Maybe you layer serums because structure soothes you. Maybe you skip moisturiser because chaos energises you. Maybe you hoard sheet masks the way you hoard screenshots of old situationships. It’s all fine.

In a world that’s constantly overwhelming, skincare is therapy you can literally dip your fingers into. The only real red flag? That would be skipping SPF. 

 

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