Despite having a seemingly glamorous, jet set lifestyle, the social media favourite was funding it through her internship salary, savings and credit cards (as well as posting about any free trips, events or products she received), giving little thought to the consequences. It was only after three years that Lissette says she stepped back and realised exactly how high a bill she'd run up, saying she was \"shocked, scared, and disappointed\".

 

Realising the extent of her money woes forced Lissette to scale back and move to a cheaper apartment, until she was able to pay off the debts. She also changed her online persona to be more honest about her financial situation, sharing money-saving tips along the way, while making use of the brand endorsements, to live a debt-free, more authentic life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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One brave influencer, Lissette Calveiro, with a following of over 37,000 on Instagram, has opened up about how trying to keep up with the online persona she created for herself, ultimately left her in $10,000 worth of debt (roughly ₹ 620000).

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Writing candidly for The Metro's Debt Diaries series, Lissette revealed how she first became hooked on the Insta-world after moving to New York to become an intern at a press agency. \"Every day, I found myself refreshing my social media news feeds to see what the next trend was, where were the latest influencers eating and hanging out, and what were they wearing?\" She then started adopting that lifestyle herself and growing her own following.

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But her influencer lifestyle came at a cost, explains Lissette. Her expenditures included \"constant online shopping for a closet that enabled me to ‘never repeat an outfit’ for a picture, endless Açai bowls and brunches and a need to feed my newly acquired travel bug without consideration of the potential risks of being in debt – all to show off to my newfound followers.\"

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LIKE this post if you are OK with Likes going away 👀 I’ve gotten this question a hundred times over the last week and it’s been so interesting to hear everyone’s perspective. I am totally indifferent with @instagram hiding likes. . INFLUENCER POV: If you have self esteem issues with your likes, the problem isn’t actually addressed since YOU can still see how many likes you’re getting. And trust me, it will go down even harder. Doesn’t seem like it’s fixing the problem, but it is eliminating the comparison game so there’s a plus up on that. . MARKETER POV: We are not going to stop working with influencers because Likes go away. In fact, Likes are probably on the lower end of the totem pole of what we care about. The “media value” of a Like is 11 cents, compared to the value of a Comment or Save which is $4+!! A Like is such a passive way of engaging that it can’t say much about the consumer. I am also looking at Reach and Impressions to see how much of your audience we’re actually capturing. Stories are a different ballgame, but we’ll save that for another day. . USER POV: As a leisurely user of the platform, I wish that Likes functioned like @tiktok where a tap meant that content was essentially bookmarked so I can come back and see what I liked. I also want them to bring back being able to see what others are liking as it helped for discovery of content and new accounts. . TELL ME YOUR THOUGHTS 👇🏽

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Despite having a seemingly glamorous, jet set lifestyle, the social media favourite was funding it through her internship salary, savings and credit cards (as well as posting about any free trips, events or products she received), giving little thought to the consequences. It was only after three years that Lissette says she stepped back and realised exactly how high a bill she'd run up, saying she was \"shocked, scared, and disappointed\".

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Realising the extent of her money woes forced Lissette to scale back and move to a cheaper apartment, until she was able to pay off the debts. She also changed her online persona to be more honest about her financial situation, sharing money-saving tips along the way, while making use of the brand endorsements, to live a debt-free, more authentic life.

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Her expenditures included \"constant online shopping for a closet that enabled me to ‘never repeat an outfit’ for a picture, endless Açai bowls and brunches and a need to feed my newly acquired travel bug without consideration of the potential risks of being in debt – all to show off to my newfound followers.\"           View this post on Instagram                   LIKE this post if you are OK with Likes going away 👀 I’ve gotten this question a hundred times over the last week and it’s been so interesting to hear everyone’s perspective. I am totally indifferent with @instagram hiding likes. . INFLUENCER POV: If you have self esteem issues with your likes, the problem isn’t actually addressed since YOU can still see how many likes you’re getting. And trust me, it will go down even harder. Doesn’t seem like it’s fixing the problem, but it is eliminating the comparison game so there’s a plus up on that. . 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Most of the clients are just anxious because they are getting tattooed for the first time. \r\nTattoos were a taboo in the past, especially in India. It was looked upon as something rogue people get. But now, it is getting accepted as an art form. Though, face tattoos are still off-limits for the majority of people.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nCosmo: What are the most popular tattoo designs that couples opt for other than their partner's name?\r\nLokesh: Usually, they go for unique designs like lock and key, puzzle pieces, sun and moon, king and queen of cards, infinity tattoo, avocado’s et cetera. It’s upon the personal preferences of the clients.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nCosmo: What are the most bizarre tattoos (if, any) that people have asked to get made?\r\nLokesh: There is no best or worst or bizarre tattoo for me. I just do the best I can with the ideas from the clients. So, whatever I do next would be the best tattoo up until now. 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As a generation that was born and raised in an essentially middle-class India, millennials were the first to become the ‘global’ citizens when Indian economy welcomed the Foreign Direct Investment (FDI) and foreign brands into the Indian markets. \r\n\r\nAdd to that the rise of the Internet. \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n“With the advent of the Internet and, with it the vast world of choices, brought with it the high aspirations and the need to live a life worth mentioning. Today, money for millennials means more spending power to experience and create memories that will live eternally on their social media posts and back-ups in laptops and google photos. Unlike their parents, who aspired for stable, well-paying jobs and careers, a family, a home, a car, and a decent retirement, millennials today aim for much more. They want a vacation in Europe, experience the latest gadgets with modern technology, have a social life, and engage in hobbies and social welfare activities,” says Vipul Agarwal, Start-up mentor, Serial investor, and Consultant. \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nAs a generation focused on experiences rather than ownership, unfortunately, ‘saving’ money has been one of the biggest challenges. “While their capacity to earn money has dramatically increased, compared to their parents, their ability to ‘save’ money seems to have ironically disappeared. It is not a coincidence that this is also a generation that lives on ‘credit’ and struggles to meet individual expenses, surviving from pay-check to pay-check,” he adds. \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nWhile most millennials, who are now approaching their 30’s and 40’s, are waking up to the harsh reality of ‘life of credit’, they are seeking means to save while not losing out on their dreams and aspirations. As a start-up mentor and a serial entrepreneur, Vipul recommends these 5 smart ways to save more money:\r\n\r\n1.       Analyse, De-clutter and Stop Leakage: Taking a step back to analyse is always beneficial. Even as we approach a new financial year, it helps to go back to bank statements, check out the past one year of expenses and earnings, and take stock of your financial health. Ledger statements can help understand the areas where one spent the most, the total savings you were able to make, your current credit profile, tax slabs and if you are eligible for rebate etc., all of which is important to ensure there is no ‘leakage’. De-cluttering the ledger and re-designing your financial vision, can be an impactful way to start saving.   \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n2.       Fulfil Goals with Auto-debit: One of the best ways to save money is to leverage the ‘auto-debit’ feature of banks. Creating a ‘goal’ account, like Euro Trip or ‘House’ or ‘Car’, and ensuring that a set amount is auto-debited every month from the paycheck will ensure the consistency of ‘saving’ money every month. Additionally, since it is auto-debit, it will be regardless of your motivation, memory or will.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n3.        Sharing is Saving: With several smart options to lead a comfortable life, it is easier to enjoy common experiences while saving money. Opting for a pool cab instead of an individual one, for example, helps save money while giving an opportunity to connect and make friends. Sharing Netflix accounts or pooling in with housemates to buy groceries in bulk, can help save costs while ensuring you don’t compromise on living standards. In the era of co-working and co-living, it is easier to share resources while enjoying a comfortable lifestyle and saving money.  \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n4.       Leverage E-Commerce: One of the largest disruptions in retail is the advent of eCommerce. 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Mukherjee, author of \"I Didn’t Expect To Be Expecting\", pens an exclusive short story centred around the theme \"Winds of Change\". \r\n","modified":"2020-01-29 08:23:16","status":"1","field_full_dek":"“Savi looked at her mother’s toenails. They reminded her of a witch she had once seen in a movie. The name eluded her. She set her sickeningly sweet cup of tea on the table and walked out of the room, determined to rejig her memory. The mind has a penchant for perusing frivolities to restore normalcy, to make a situation palatable. And that’s what Savi’s brain was doing. Trying to lull her away from the despair she felt, sitting by her mother, watching her body give up, an organ at a time.\r\n\r\nUnlike the scores of people milling around the hospital corridors, forever restless, or hopelessly praying for the prescience that could help them predict a loved one’s fate, Savi had the luxury of time. For the past three months, she had practically lived within these walls. It felt like home now. Everyone recognised her, appreciating how she had dedicated her life to her ailing mother. Does someone really get to choose between keeping their mother alive or letting go, she wondered. A few lucky ones did. Like her sister Ishika. The apple of her mother’s eye, the girl who could do no wrong. But it wasn’t her mother’s fault, she figured. Some people are born special. They look better, they’re treated better, and everything just falls in line. Even as she saw her sister walk towards her from the end of the long corridor, it seemed as if she was walking down a ramp and not in a hospital that housed the tattered body of the mother that doted on her.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n‘This couldn’t wait could it?’ she said petulantly, standing with her hands on her hips. Her presence in the hospital was an inconvenience, and she felt no compunction demonstrating the same. Savi pulled her inside a consultation room and shut the door. ‘We need to make an important decision, Ishika. About our mother. Do you understand what I’m saying to you?’ ‘What? About the life support?’ Ishika shrugged. Savi looked at her sister incredulously. ‘How can you be so casual about something of this magnitude. She’s our...’ ‘Mother? Yes. I know that Savi. The only difference is that I live practically, with my feet planted on the ground while your head is forever in the clouds. That’s the very reason you can’t even...’\r\n\r\nSavi kept her eyes on her sister. ‘Say it...hold a job? You think I stay with mom because I need her to support me.’\r\n\r\n‘You’re putting words in my mouth.’ Ishika shrugged again and checked her phone. ‘By the way, I’ve already had a chat with Dr Shenoy.’ \r\n\r\n‘No you didn’t.’ Savi stood up, fists clenched. ‘She might wake up. You know there’s a chance.’\r\n\r\n‘A very slim and expensive chance Savi. Just let go.’\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nA few hours later, as a full moon appeared outside the stark hospital window, Savi sat watching her mother again. Even though it took a very public meltdown on her part, she was happy she had dissuaded her sister from her unilateral resolve to let go of their mother. \r\n\r\nAfter the nurse made her last round for the night, Savi pulled out a syringe, plunging it deftly into a small vial. She moved with the ease of an expert and sank the sharp needle in her mother’s arm as it moved ever so slightly in response. Years of drug abuse can be beneficial in strange ways. Years of neglect and anger even more so. Her monster of a mother who was convinced her younger daughter was one, would now no longer burn her with her words or her actions.\r\n\r\nAs the monitors started beeping, Savi shut the door behind her and walked into the long dark corridor triumphantly, towards a fresh start. Nothing would be traceable; she had been promised. With the thought of her mother’s slack jaw that had always waged wars against her, she smiled, knowing that she took what was rightfully hers, the power to silence her.\r\n\r\nAnd that’s when the name of the film popped into her head and she laughed with the recollection. ‘Makdee!’”\r\n\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":"cosmo, cosmopolitan, cosmo india, cosmopolitan india, the good daughter, short stories, literature, fiction, thoughts, richa s mukheree, author ","field_meta_keyword":"cosmo, cosmopolitan, cosmo india, cosmopolitan india, the good daughter, short stories, literature, fiction, thoughts, richa s mukheree, author ","image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-01/DPPS_22857662.jpg?UkqgodRptPxpsPsvhh4TpKuoypyqabj5","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/life/features/a19474/cosmo-short-stories-good-daughter","created":"29 January 2020 ","time_created":"2020-01-29T13:50:00+05:30","field_section":"Life","field_section_url":"/life","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19472","title":"Everything You Need to Know About Swimming on Your Period","field_dek":"Is it as much as a no-go as we've always assumed it is?\r\n","modified":"2020-01-29 07:37:01","status":"1","field_full_dek":"In the summertime, or on holiday, your period can feel like even more of a hassle than it usually does. If you're going away, you want to be free to swim in the pool without fear of leaving a trail of period blood wherever you go, or noticing way too late that your tampon string has been hanging out of your bikini bottoms.\r\n\r\nBut just what is the deal with swimming while on your period? We asked female health app Clue to answer some of our most burning questions about taking a dip while in the red...\r\n\r\n1. Is it unhygienic to swim while menstruating?\r\n\r\nThe long and the short of it is no, not at all. In fact, if you use a tampon or a menstrual cup, it’s extremely unlikely that blood will even enter the water, but if it does, swimming pools are all chlorinated to protect swimmers against the spread of disease from bodily fluids (such as a sweat and urine). This fact was obviously overlooked by a fitness centre in Georgia in 2016, who posted a sign in the women’s changing rooms saying “Dear ladies! Do not go into the pool during periods.” Supposedly, this was to protect other swimmers after someone “contaminated” the pool with menstrual blood, but it’s important to remember that you're not endangering anyone’s health by swimming when menstruating.\r\n\r\n2. Will I leave a bloody trail in the water?\r\n\r\nWhen you get into a pool or take a dip in the sea, the water pressure can stop your flow temporarily. The only time this water pressure can drop slightly is if you laugh, cough, sneeze, or move around. But even then, only a tiny amount of blood will be released, and it probably won’t be visible as the water will dilute it. Getting out of the water will change the pressure again, and your period will flow again normally, so it’s probably a good idea to use a tampon or a menstrual cup while swimming to avoid leaking once you head for land again. Pads and pantyliners are unlikely to work very well, as they will simply absorb the water around them. If you have an intrauterine device (IUD, or the coil), you should check with your doctor before using a menstrual cup.\r\n\r\n3. Am I going to get eaten by sharks?\r\n\r\nBasically: don't worry. Just because you’re on your period, doesn't mean you’re going to attract sharks and recreate a scene from Jaws. To date, there are no recorded cases of sharks attacking someone who was menstruating, and according to the International Shark Attack File, people quite happily dive while on their period. And although it’s true that more research into this topic could be done, there's currently no correlation between menstruating divers and increased numbers of shark attacks. Phew.\r\n\r\nMarie Levine, Founder and Executive Director of The Shark Research Institute has been diving for decades with no problems at all. She told Mother Jones, “[I] even got my period while underwater with a school of hammerheads - the sharks were not interested and I had to fin like crazy to get close to them.”\r\n\r\n4. Can I catch an infection from swimming during my period?\r\n\r\nIt’s unlikely that you will catch a vaginal infection from swimming. The most common complaints from swimming in contaminated water often include skin infections and stomach illnesses (if you swallow the water). You can always check with the regional health authority for information on the water quality at your favourite swimming spot, if you’re worried. In some cases, the chlorine in swimming pools can irritate the vulva and vagina, which can leave you at risk of developing a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis (BV). If this happens, don’t panic, just have a shower immediately after swimming in chlorinated pools, and don’t sit around in your wet swimwear. If you notice any burning, itching, or unusual discharge after swimming, it’s wise to get it checked out by a doctor.\r\n\r\n5. Do I have to use a tampon while swimming?\r\n\r\nAs in daily life, there are always other options available if you can’t, or don’t want to use a tampon. Try using a menstrual cup or sponge as an alternative. If your flow is light, then you could also try wearing a dark coloured suit, as this will prevent staining. A final option is to wear waterproof, absorbent swimwear. They look like normal bikini bottoms, but have a hidden and leak-proof lining that helps absorb menstrual blood.\r\n\r\n6. Can swimming make my cramps worse?\r\n\r\nLow intensity exercise (like swimming, for example) can actually help relieve your menstrual cramps, as your body releases endorphins when you exercise which act as natural painkillers. In fact, research has shown that regular physical exercise may even be effective in preventing premenstrual syndrome (PMS).\r\n\r\n7. Can I delay my period until after I go swimming?\r\n\r\nTypical, combined hormonal contraceptive pills give you the option to skip or delay your period by immediately starting your next pack instead of taking the placebo pills or having a few days' break (depending on which pill you take), and this will delay your period until you finish your second pack. If you’re not taking an oral contraceptive and want to delay your period, your doctor can prescribe you a pill called norethisterone to take three days before your period is due to start. You can take this for a maximum of 20 days and, once you finish it, your period should then arrive.\r\n\r\n8. Will everyone know I have my period? What if I stain my bikini?\r\n\r\nThere’s no reason that anyone should know that you are on your period while swimming. If leaks and stains are a concern you could wear a dark coloured swimsuit, or tell a friend who can alert you to any issues and set your mind at rest, allowing you to splash around to your heart’s content.\r\n\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-01/swimming-on-period-pool-1580135375.jpg?6G581t1gKxXNlZOuzIJujyLn8.iEkll6","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/life/features/a19472/everything-you-need-know-about-swimming-your-period","created":"29 January 2020 ","time_created":"2020-01-29T11:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Life","field_section_url":"/life","field_content_type":"Features","notes":"http://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/body/health/a12053820/is-it-safe-to-swim-on-period/","notes_syn":"Cosmopolitan","userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19464","title":"Celebrity Nutritionist Sumaya Dalmia Shares the Non-Gym Goer’s Diet To Get Fit","field_dek":"‘Cuz not all of us are about the #fitspo life.\r\n","modified":"2020-01-28 11:56:45","status":"1","field_full_dek":"If slamming medicine balls in the gym or pulling an impeccable downward-facing dog in the Yoga class is not your version of fitness, do not feel guilty.\r\n\r\nFeeling and looking your best is all about customized health routines – finding out what works best for you. No, reaching for fries as you Netflix and chill does not count as exercise.\r\n\r\n“With social media influencing the millennials, general body awareness is making them more conscious towards correct health choices. I don't advocate diets but eating nutritionally conscious food with almost no packaged foods in your meals should do the trick if you are not that active,” says Sumaya Dalmia, celebrity fitness and wellness expert.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nWhile getting fit is not only about burning the calories having a healthy meal plan and a decent level of activity is a good place to start. Just start taking the stairs, y’all!\r\n\r\nSo, here are Sumaya’s cardinal dietary rules if your activity levels are on the down-low:\r\n\r\n“Eating nothing out of a packet”\r\n\r\nWhile processed, packaged food may be convenient to just reheat and eat, they are so not good for your health. Many of them have large amounts of hidden sodium, fats, and sugar that not only tip the scales in the wrong direction but can also make you sick.\r\n\r\n“Limit your fruit intake”\r\n\r\nIt is recommended not to have more than two servings of fruit in a day in which you can benefit from the nutrients found in fruits without overeating. In a bid to get healthy some of us are prone to eating fruit while excluding other foods, this can lead to potential nutritional deficiencies.\r\n \r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nvia GIPHY\r\n\r\n\r\nEliminate extra sugars\r\n\r\nSwitch to low glycemic grains such as quinoa, long grain basmati rice, brown rice etc especially if you are inactive throughout most of the day.\r\n\r\nEat healthy fats \r\n\r\nDo not be scared of the F word. It is a great idea to snack on healthy fats such as nuts, avocado, raw coconut etc to prevent insulin spikes and maintain healthy hormones.\r\n\r\nYes, getting fit is not about going into starvation mode but all about making healthier choices. Now, you know!\r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":"cosmo, cosmo india, cosmopolitan india, cosmo.in, sumaya dalmia, flat stomach, gym diet, non gym diet, weight loss, abs diet, foods for weight loss, lose weight, lose weight fast, flab, fat to fab, fitness mantra, fitspo, fitness inspiration, health hacks, healthy diet, health rules, healthy life, bridal diet, date diet, military diet, intermittent dieting, keto diet, paleo diet","field_meta_keyword":"cosmo, cosmo india, cosmopolitan india, cosmo.in, sumaya dalmia, flat stomach, gym diet, non gym diet, weight loss, abs diet, foods for weight loss, lose weight, lose weight fast, flab, fat to fab, fitness mantra, fitspo, fitness inspiration, health hacks, healthy diet, health rules, healthy life, bridal diet, date diet, military diet, intermittent dieting, keto diet, paleo diet","image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-01/Untitled%20design%20%281%29_3.png?38kJI0XhHOpsG3KIiBTwHr.YHjYfK2tw","field_editory_by":"By","path":"/life/features/a19464/celebrity-nutritionist-sumaya-dalmia-shares-non-gym-goers-diet-get-fit","created":"28 January 2020 ","time_created":"2020-01-28T17:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Life","field_section_url":"/life","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":"630","userData":{"uid":"630","field_first_name":"Arpita Kala","editor_sef":"/author/630/arpita"},"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19463","title":"Like the Pantone Colour of the Year? Here's How You Should Style Your Space ‘Blue’","field_dek":"As told to us by interior experts \r\n","modified":"2020-01-29 08:01:55","status":"1","field_full_dek":"Ms. Anuradha Aggarwal, Creative Director of OLIVES CRE:\r\n\r\nColours are a form of non-verbal communication. Each colour leaves a unique impact on one's psychology; different colours give rise to different moods and emotions. Classic blue, suggestive of the endless evening sky, sits like a cool hue on the colour wheel. While picking up a classic blue palette, one should keep in mind the purpose, theme and colour scheme of the space. There are endless ways of introducing classic blue to your home. It can find its way as a painted cabinet or a blue bookshelf in the living room. Needless to say that this colour looks good with shades of white, pastel greens, soft pink, orange. It will look good as a wallpaper, cushions, pillows or throws. Classic blue can set the tone for Pop interiors and can be the focal point of space as an artwork. \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nMs. Bhawana Bhatnagar, Interior Stylist, Founder of Casa Exotique:\r\n\r\nIndeed, there is nothing more exciting than incorporating bold and vibrant colours that strike a balance between genre and period to create energy. Such spaces preserve memories and enrich the senses of everyone entering there. And Pantone Colour of the year - Classic Blue curate this liveliness perfectly. Moreover, one can embrace the Classic Blue hue either by panting the walls, placing design pieces such as crockery or vase, or textiles like curtains or cushions which create an appealing interior design. One can layer up the room with different textures in a similar hue to grab the attention and can be a perfect way to style in various ways without using too many colours.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nRishabh Sarpal, Conceptualise Interior Designer, Founder of Rishabh Sarpal Atelier: \r\n\r\nAs we unroll to the latest trend, our home should also be! The increasing likes of Pantone Colour of the Year are further taking its steps into the living space. This tranquil shade is not only subtle and elegant, but also exudes an uplifting mood, and therefore can immerse easily in a homely environment. Styling one’s personal space by engulfing the Classic Blue furniture with the well-curated knick-knacks of the house, for instance, a large piece of furniture, such as a statement couch covered with red and golden cushions will translate the versatility and sophistication of this palette. However, it is important to apply it as per a perfect colour scheme and interior plan.\r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":"cosmo, cosmopolitan, india, decor, pantone, blue","field_meta_keyword":"cosmo, cosmopolitan, india, decor, pantone, blue","image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-01/Collage_0.jpg?D2S3dBR.xSqF3oj5bTHjbIBI36uJCh63","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/life/features/a19463/pantone-colour-year-heres-how-you-should-style-your-space-blue","created":"27 January 2020 ","time_created":"2020-01-27T20:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Life","field_section_url":"/life","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19461","title":"“It’s 2020! Why Are We Still ‘Wondering’ If We Are Feminists?”","field_dek":"Our guest columnist sheds light on the real meaning of feminism, and why we all, unequivocally, need to put our weight behind it.\r\n","modified":"2020-01-27 13:00:47","status":"1","field_full_dek":"From active participation as the Indian suffragettes in the Women’s Coronation Procession in 1911 (pic) to many a movement today, women have had to fight for their rightful place in the world.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nI’ve always thought of myself a feminist. I’ve known no other way. Even if the word ‘feminism’ entered my lexicon late in life, I’ve believed in it since the time I’ve recognised that women have to fight for their rightful place in the world.\r\n\r\nIn a country like India, you’ve got to be bold and fearless to start conversations on feminism, because of the intensely patriarchal society we’ve been raised in. How many of us have been told, repeatedly, to not raise our voices, to sit daintily, be coy, to not roll our eyes, or not talk back?! Being able to express your opinion is a privilege of a few. As is being able to say no.\r\n\r\nOver the course of my career, as I spent time speaking to thousands of women, it was evident that a majority of Indian women are forced to garb their real self, and patriarchy came packaged in everyday things. As a result, most women didn’t have a voice. \r\n\r\nIn recent years, feminist movements have attracted significant attention across the world, and yet, so many women still say they don’t identify with the term! It’s 2020, and we’re still ‘wondering’. \r\n\r\nHere’s my bit to help.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nFeminism isn’t about reserving seats in a metro or making rides free on a bus. It’s about creating a public discourse on rights, sexism, behaviour, discrimination, class, culture, genders. We all need to talk. Not behind closed doors, but out in the open. And loudly. And clearly. And together. Men and women. This is what led me to found SheThePeople, which has championed the dialogue on everyday feminism.\r\n\r\nFeminism isn’t about bashing men, but about lifting women. Being a feminist is important to me because I need to speak up against anyone who reduces my worth as a woman. I’m a feminist because, among other things, I believe in equality of men, women and other genders—I want to raise my son to be a better man, and my daughter a better fighter of patriarchy. Feminism advocates equal rights for both men and women. Many women don’t get promotions, or sometimes even jobs, because of marriage and maternity. As a woman, I must have control over my body, my reproductive rights, and safety. \r\n\r\nI can raise my voice or choose to be silent and both will be an act of feminism. Each of us has our own brand of feminism. It’s an unseen belief and force that empowers us. It urges you to believe that there’s no one definition of feminism...it comes draped in ambition, vulnerability, power, fundamental rights, motherhood, singlehood, wealth, opportunity (or the lack of it), and depravity. It’s ultimately about creating access to opportunity and having agency.\r\n\r\nSo, if you simply remind yourself that ‘feminism is really about having the right to be who you want to be’, we’d end further debate on whether or not we are feminists, and get down to championing each other and lifting each other intellectually, physically, culturally, financially, and emotionally. Women in India are a community still waiting to be mainstreamed, and I think feminism is what promises to change that.” \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":"cosmo, cosmopolitan, cosmo india, cosmopolitan india, feminism, feminists, movements, india, indian suffragettes, women, gender. equality, equal rights","field_meta_keyword":"cosmo, cosmopolitan, cosmo india, cosmopolitan india, feminism, feminists, movements, india, indian suffragettes, women, gender. equality, equal rights","image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-01/asian_suffragettes.jpg?N0C9kI8ZGcIX_ddHe9fayLyxN8MziESh","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/life/features/a19461/its-2020-why-are-we-still-wondering-if-we-are-feminists","created":"27 January 2020 ","time_created":"2020-01-27T15:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Life","field_section_url":"/life","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19446","title":"An Indian Restaurant Served Exclusively By Speech And Hearing-Impaired Service Staff","field_dek":"Squaremeal Foods’ Founder Raja Shekhar Reddy tells us about the inspiration behind this concept, the special provisions for women and more….\r\n","modified":"2020-01-27 10:35:53","status":"1","field_full_dek":"In 2014, two first-generation entrepreneurs Shishir Gorle and Raja Sekhar Reddy set out on a venture to promote inclusivity and provide an opportunity to the differently-abled individuals to earn a sustainable and respectable livelihood. They founded Squaremeal Foods, a first-of-it’s-kind restaurant in India, served exclusively by the speech and hearing-impaired service staff.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nGood food served quietly\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nThe staff with speech and hearing impairment works as servers, bartenders, and cashiers. An eight-week classroom training program in association with Dr Reddy’s Foundation and supported by NASEOH and Rochiram T Thadani High School for the Hearing Handicapped targets their self-development and skill development. This is followed by on-the-job training of four weeks. Several of staff from the last three years have been promoted to supervisory levels and are likely to be promoted to managerial levels as well. The entire core team including chefs and managers has been taught basic sign language by a certified tutor.\r\n\r\nIn a candid conversation with Cosmo, Raja Sekhar Reddy, Founder, Squaremeal Foods, spoke about the inspiration behind this concept, the special provisions for women and more….\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n1) What was the inspiration behind the concept of training and hiring people who are hearing/speech impaired?\r\n\r\nWhile in Canada, there was a restaurant we came across that hired Speech and Hearing Impaired individuals (SHI) in a QSR format. It made us realise that even in India, we have the potential to create a plethora of employment opportunities for them. Someone just needs to take that initiative. \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nWe thus opened our restaurants – Mirchi and Mime, Madeira and Mime under the umbrella company — SquareMeal Foods to provide a sustainable livelihood to these individuals. It was our vision to create employment for the SHI segment, so we started with 25 personnel and have gradually come up to 75. We have a robust business model in place, which is operated by them.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n2) Please tell us about the techniques of training the SHI.\r\n\r\nOur goal is to provide employment to the Speech and Hearing Impaired individuals, but it is also imperative to ensure that they are trained as per the job. SHIs have much higher cognition through visual observation and inspection. Therefore, we minimise classroom learning and implement the technique of ‘shadow training’ wherein a new SHI hire is accompanied by a speech and hearing-abled staff member who demonstrates the work that needs to be done. This makes it easier for SHI staff to adapt and learn their exact role and responsibilities with ease, thus ensuring higher productivity. This is only half the training. To create a balanced environment and smooth communication, the balance training is imparted to our speech and hearing abled staff, wherein basic adaptive ‘Indian Sign Language’ and key aspects like awareness and sensitisation are imparted.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\nOur foundation — Eklavya follows a similar pattern for training, wherein we provide vocational training to these individuals and inspire and urge corporates to hire them. We also try our best to ensure that these individuals do not face any discrimination at work, by following a strict reverse hiring policy.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n3) Are there any special provisions for women?\r\n\r\nYes, we do have special provisions for women. We allow them to choose their shift timings, and provide assistance for accommodation along with a drop facility. We do not discriminate between our male and female employees at the work profile, thus providing them with equal opportunities in terms of growth, and are always to them for taking up leadership roles. In addition to complying with our statutory regulatory benefits, we hold sensitisation training for SHI women for POSCH.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n \r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":"cosmo, cosmopolitan, cosmo india, cosmopolitan india, inclusivity, employment, squaremeal foods, speech and hairing impaired, empowerment, training for differently-abled","field_meta_keyword":"cosmo, cosmopolitan, cosmo india, cosmopolitan india, inclusivity, employment, squaremeal foods, speech and hairing impaired, empowerment, training for differently-abled","image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-01/Screen%20Shot%202020-01-24%20at%208.39.28%20pm.png?L.aifFw2ZY1nx_VxtgC_sq.vOSUKJClC","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/life/features/a19446/indian-restaurant-served-exclusively-speech-and-hearing-impaired-service-staff","created":"26 January 2020 ","time_created":"2020-01-26T20:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Life","field_section_url":"/life","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19451","title":"19 Romantic Ways to Celebrate Valentine's Day in a Long-Distance Relationship","field_dek":"Show your significant other you care even when you're miles away.\r\n","modified":"2020-01-25 19:49:44","status":"1","field_full_dek":"Valentine’s Day is the epitome of romance, cuddles and tenderness all rolled into one exciting, PDA-filled jamboree of a holiday. Even if you say you hate Valentine’s Day, the truth is, you probably sorta still like parts of it at least a little bit (hello, flowers? Teddy bears? CHOCOLATE?). Whether you have a bf/gf or just a special someone you want to celebrate (yes, including yourself or a bff), it’s the perfect day to go all out and throw love and appreciation around like confetti. But what happens when the one person you want to spend this day with lives too many miles away?\r\n\r\nAlthough it’s not impossible by any means, being in an LDR is really freaking tough. And somehow it gets even harder on certain days of the year, like birthdays, anniversaries and, of course, the one day of the year solely created for celebrating couples. But thanks to the creativity of romance and the technology of the 21st century, it’s easier than ever to have cutesy dates, plan sweet surprises and keep that spark alive no matter where you are in the world. Just because you and bae aren't physically together for the festivities doesn't mean you still can't partake in them. Here are le best, absolute cutest ways to celebrate Valentine's Day from afar, even when you're in a LDR.\r\n\r\n1. Stream a movie or show at the same time online. So, you’re dying to watch a new series that just dropped on Netflix, but you want to enjoy it with your person. You can maintain communication through text or FaceTime them so you can get all their juicy reactions, and even eat the same snacks to make it feel like you’re really together.\r\n\r\n2. Play a card game together. Both of you can head over to your nearest store (or hit up Amazon Prime, obvi) and grab a game of Cards Against Humanity, Truth or Dare or Taboo to add some excitement and competition to your night of video-chatting.\r\n\r\n3. Take a matching pic in different places. Put your photography and Photoshop skills to the test by meshing together two separately taken pics in completely different locations. You can play around with poses, objects and scenery to create an artsy version of a photo you two would have taken if you were physically together.\r\n\r\n4. Craft together. Grab your crafting supplies and get that creativity flowing. Your virtual crafting date can include painting on a canvas, sculpting with clay or decorating a plain box or scrapbook. You can even turn to Pinterest for some cute DIY project ideas that you’ll both enjoy. Bonus: You can gift them to each other next time you see him/her!\r\n\r\n5. Enjoy a sunrise or sunset together. Whether it’s at the beach, on a rooftop or from your bedroom window, coordinate a time to video chat that coincides with the sun setting or rising. If time zones are a problem (because they always are), share your sunset/sunrise with them through video and vice versa.\r\n\r\n6. Sing each other cheesy love songs on karaoke night. There’s no better way to tell someone you love them by singing beautifully (or horribly) in public. Take a trip to your local karaoke bar and video chat while singing jams like Mariah Carey’s “We Belong Together” or Vanessa Carlton’s “A Thousand Miles.” You may butcher the songs, but it’s the thought that counts.\r\n\r\n7. Gift them a Spotify playlist. Include all the bops that remind you of your boo, plus the songs that have a special meaning to you and your relationship—like, the song that was playing the first time you were in the car together, or maybe even the song a passerby was humming while you shared your first kiss. Keep the playlist private between only you two and listen whenever you're feeling lonely.\r\n\r\n8. Arrange a FaceTime dinner date. Amp up your normal FaceTime sessions by \"going on a date together.\" Both of you can cook your own favorite meals and then set them up in front of your camera to have a virtual dinner date.\r\n\r\n9. Zomato or Swiggy them their favorite meal. If you're not big on cooking, you can still have a virtual dinner date. Punch in their address on your app and surprise them by sending their go-to take-out order. Nothing says love like Pad Thai.\r\n\r\n10. Make a photo spread of all your favorite memories. Think: coasters from bars, plane tickets from flying to see each other, football ticket stubs, photos etc. and collage them on a canvas they can hang up in their room. Construct all of this on Valentine's Day, or gift it to them and talk about all the memories via FaceTime.\r\n\r\n11. Write in a journal for 365 days, or a week, or a month, or whatever timeline makes sense to you. Document all your thoughts, how your day went, what you're thinking, what reminds you of your S.O., and gift it to your partner when you've filled up all the pages. This will give them insight into your brain and remind them how often they consume your thoughts.\r\n\r\n12. Go to the movies. While you may not be physically able to go together, decide on a movie and go see it around the same time. Then, return home after the movie and discuss the plot and what you enjoyed or didn't via FaceTime with your partner. It's like you were actually there together!\r\n\r\n13. Send a video message. Maybe you're singing and dancing to your couple song, or maybe you're reading out loud a love note that you wrote. Sometimes it can be so much more intimate and lovely for your partner to see and hear you, rather than to read something themselves.\r\n\r\n14. Since you don't get to spend a ton of quality time together, instead of gifting him or her something tangible, give them an experience you can enjoy together. It's easy to want to hole up in your apartment and hang out all weekend, but an experience like tickets to a concert or comedy club or a helicopter ride (if you're feeling like Christian Grey) will create lasting memories you two can share for many years to come.\r\n\r\n15. Send him or her something handmade. A gift doesn't need to be expensive to be good. A heartfelt card or a photo album, or any gift that you've made yourself shows you put time and thought into your gift and will serve as a reminder of how much you care even when you're not around.\r\n\r\n16. Mail him/her letters leading up to V-Day. When the only form of contact between you two is communication over the phone or computer, switching it up can be a little tricky. A week or so leading up to V-Day, start sending your significant other love letters (or print out pictures of you two and send them as postcards) in the mail. Receiving mail that isn't a bill these days is rare, which will make your love note even more special and fun to receive.\r\n\r\n17. Mail him/her a care package of their favorite things. Fill a box with a few of their favorite things, whether it's sweets you can only get from a local shop by your place or a sweatshirt with your signature scent sprayed on it, little mementos will let them know you're thinking of them.\r\n\r\n18. Give him/her a bunch of letters to open at different times. Long-distance relationships are as hard as they sound, and spending holidays like Valentine's Day apart make them even harder. Fill envelopes with small gifts and sweet letters to cheer up your loved one based on how they're feeling at that moment. Label the outside of each envelope with instructions of when to open them such as \"when you're missing me\" and \"when you're feeling lonely.\"\r\n\r\n19. Count down the days until you see each other again by filling a jar with slips of paper detailing things you love about him/her. Write as many notes as you have days left, so each day he/she can draw one out of the jar to make passing the time a little bit easier. Send him/her the jar in the mail or give it to them in person when you see each other before Valentine's Day.\r\n\r\n20. Be the first person they hear in the morning and the last person they hear at night. Get up a little early on V-Day and call your significant other first thing. If you're used to saving your daily phone calls for nighttime, this will be a sweet little surprise to wake up to. After your busy day, fall asleep talking on the phone at night so it almost feels like you're right there with them.\r\n\r\n21. Plan a V-Day celebration a little off-season. You don't have to celebrate Valentine's Day only on Feb. 14. If the next time you'll see each other is in March, surprise him/her and a plan a full out Valentine's Day date for then instead. They really won't see it coming and that'll make it all the better.\r\n\r\n22. Send a package full of goodies and love notes to your guy/girl's roommate or friend, and have them lay out the gifts all over your significant other's room when they're not looking. He or she will be shocked when they walk in to find handwritten letters and thoughtful surprises from you.\r\n\r\n23. Take advantage of delivery services and surprise him/her with their favorite adult bev. Try a delivery service to drop off a bottle of your loved one's favorite alcohol so you two can celebrate together and cheers over FaceTime.\r\n\r\n24. Plan a surprise trip to see him/her. What is more romantic than showing up when you're not expecting to see each other? If you can swing the expense of a plane ticket and the time off from work, the ultimate gift you can give your significant other is time spent together on arguably the most romantic day of the year.\r\n\r\n25. Even better, plan a trip for you both to meet somewhere else. Flying or driving back and forth can get a bit redundant, so celebrate Valentine's Day with a trip elsewhere instead. Even if it's just a staycation somewhere local, a change of scenery will make it feel more like a special occasion than your usual trips back and forth.\r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-01/Screenshot%202020-01-26%20at%201.15.38%20AM.png?eq5IK5buLoVzA3bbeEl8oTfmNm6YAAsJ","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/life/features/a19451/19-romantic-ways-celebrate-valentines-day-long-distance-relationship","created":"26 January 2020 ","time_created":"2020-01-26T10:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Life","field_section_url":"/life","field_content_type":"Features","notes":"http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a52519/valentines-day-ideas-for-long-distance-relationship/","notes_syn":"Cosmopolitan","userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19454","title":"Here’s Why Everyone Is Talking About the Stylish and Fabulous Kia Seltos SUV RN","field_dek":" Join Auto Today Editor Yogendra Pratap and Cosmopolitan India Editor Nandini Bhalla, as they take the badass Kia Seltos for a spin.             \r\n","modified":"2020-01-25 12:03:18","status":"1","field_full_dek":"The Seltos, powerful, stylish and highest selling new SUV in India. Watch Auto Today Editor Yogendra Pratap and Cosmopolitan India Editor Nandini Bhalla as they take the spankin’ Kia Seltos for a spin, discover some of it’s fabulous, exciting and tech-advanced features, and find out exactly why everyone is #Crushing on the badass Kia Seltos RN! \r\n\r\n\r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":"Cosmo, Cosmopolitan, Cosmopolitan India, Cosmo.in, Cosmopolitan.in, Kia, Kia Seltos, Kia Seltos review, Nandini Bhalla, Nandini Bhalla Editor Cosmopolitan India, Auto Today Editor Yogendra Pratap, Yogendra Pratap ","field_meta_keyword":"Cosmo, Cosmopolitan, Cosmopolitan India, Cosmo.in, Cosmopolitan.in, Kia, Kia Seltos, Kia Seltos review, Nandini Bhalla, Nandini Bhalla Editor Cosmopolitan India, Auto Today Editor Yogendra Pratap, Yogendra Pratap ","image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-01/tempsnip.jpg?q8CpLlX..ZuRnAd7ToaMFN3w.WTOmvgh","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/life/features/a19454/heres-why-everyone-talking-about-stylish-and-fabulous-kia-seltos-suv-rn","created":"25 January 2020 ","time_created":"2020-01-25T14:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Life","field_section_url":"/life","field_content_type":"Features","notes":null,"notes_syn":null,"userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19448","title":"44 Weight Loss Tips From Women Who Have Lost 100 Pounds","field_dek":"Step one: Know that you got this!\r\n","modified":"2020-01-25 10:16:33","status":"1","field_full_dek":"Deciding to lose weight is a super personal thing. And even though you should never feel like you have to, if you WANT to start a weight-loss journey that's totally up to you.\r\n\r\nThing is, losing weight—especially a significant amount—isn't something a pill, or tea, or shake can accomplish. Despite what supplement companies might try to sell you, it takes long-term lifestyle changes (not a pricey meal-replacement shake) to make a solid difference.\r\n\r\nThat might mean you have to incorporate more nutritionally-dense foods, make sleep a priority, manage stress in a healthy way, and maybe even throw in some extra activity. Whatever your approach, it should be something you can maintain over the long-haul.\r\n\r\nIf you want to be successful in weight loss, you have to focus on more than just how you look. An approach that taps into how you feel, your overall health, and your mental health is often the most efficient.\r\n\r\nBecause no two weight-loss journeys are alike, we asked a bunch of women who’ve accomplished a major weight loss exactly how they did it.\r\n\r\nGessi Parisi-Rodriguez, 25\r\nAlexandria, Virginia\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 124 pounds \r\n\r\n1. Start in your comfort zone. Parisi-Rodriguez started her fitness journey by putting one foot in front of the other. “When I weighed 252 pounds, the thought of walking into a gym and working out terrified me. So I started walking around my block instead—something I was already comfortable doing.” She worked her way up from 30-minute sessions to two-hour walks, lacing up five or six times a week.\r\n\r\n2. Skip soda. “I was addicted to Pepsi and Dr. Pepper for years,” says Parisi-Rodriguez, who once consumed up to six cans a day. “Once I realized that soda was nothing but empty calories, I swapped my beverage of choice to water instead. It was super uncomfortable at first, but after eight years, I can honestly say I no longer crave soda like I used to.”\r\n\r\n3. Lighten up on carbs—without ditching them. Born into a Sicilian family of chefs, pizza makers, and restaurant owners, carbs had long been a mainstay in Parisi-Rodriguez’s life. Instead of giving up carbs entirely—as if!—she reached for low-calorie or low-carb versions of staples like bread and tortillas.\r\n\r\n4. Cancel the whole “all-or-nothing” thing. “I used to think that if I ate healthy all day but then ‘slipped up’ by eating a chocolate cookie, that I ruined everything for that day,” Parisi-Rodriguez says. “Then I’d just start binge-eating the crap out of everything!” Reframing reframing her mindset helps her carry on without guilt or deprivation.\r\n\r\n5. Shout your goal from the rooftops. At the onset of her weight loss journey, Parisi-Rodriguez began documenting her progress on Instagram. “It helped keep me accountable because I knew others were watching,” she says, noting that private people can still follow suit by sharing with just one other person.\r\n\r\nAlex Wittner, 23\r\nSarasota, Florida\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 105 pounds\r\n\r\n6. Pound that water. “I carry a 32-ounce water bottle with me at all times,” says Wittner, who fills that baby up not once, not twice, but four times a day.\r\n\r\n7. Score fitness class freebies. As a big fan of ClassPass, Wittner also found that many local studios offer free trials or super discounted rates for newbies. “Take advantage of it! The worst thing that can happen is you did not like it and you used up an hour of your day,” she says.\r\n\r\n8. Do not fear the weight room. Wittner credits WW (formerly Weight Watchers) and weight lifting for her results. “Lifting weights helped me tremendously with toning up and losing weight,” she says. Although she learned to pump that iron at a local gym, she bows down to YouTube and Insta where there are free tutorials galore.\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n9. Eat the pizza. And the ice cream! “Deprivation will only lead you to going off the rails later on,” she says. “I not only allow myself to have these every once in a while, but make healthier homemade versions such as a pita pizza or a protein shake that tastes like ice cream.”\r\n\r\nShannon McDaniel-Posey, 32\r\nSlidell, Louisiana\r\n\r\nTotal weight lost: 120 pounds in 16 months\r\n\r\n10. Want it—for realz. “You have to have the mindset to go full throttle,” says McDaniel-Posey, who had a wakeup call about her dire state of physical and mental health after the death of her grandfather. “I ate and drank whatever I wanted and lost myself. I was done living my life the way I was.”\r\n\r\n11. Give yourself a GD break. “One bad meal will not make you obese,” she says. “Life is too short to beat yourself up.”\r\n\r\n12. Use Instagram. “It influenced me on so many levels,” she says. “There were people just like me sharing their progress pictures, recipes, products they loved, grocery store hauls, trials and tribulations, and just their life in general. It was uplifting! It was the motivation I was searching for.”\r\n\r\nTanique Johnson, 26\r\nNew Jersey\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 135 pounds\r\n\r\n13. Cancel the whole “but I need a trainer!” narrative. “Excuses are easy,” says Johnson. “I never had a trainer or a nutritionist, but knowing what I wanted helped me stay consistent and changed my lifestyle for the better.”\r\n\r\n14. Practice the world’s simplest meal math. Protein (like chicken) + veggies (just about anything green) = dinner is served. Johnson says that adding more proteins and veggies to her plate helped her cut back on the amount of calories she was eating. “It’s not about taking carbs out of your diet but recognizing that they’re not needed at every meal.”\r\n\r\nJessica Beniquez, 24\r\nTampa, Florida\r\n\r\n\r\nTotal weight lost: More than 170\r\n\r\n15. Sparkling water + Crystal Light = soda who!? Because it’s not always easy to quit carbonated bevs cold-turkey, this cocktail can help you transition, says Beniquez. She sips this combo when she really craves a sweetened soda.\r\n\r\n16. Get all up in nature’s candy. At night, Beniquez swaps sugary treats for fruit. Remember fruit? It’s super sweet and hits the spot.\r\n\r\n17. Repeat after me: “Routine shmoutine.” Whenever Benique hit a weight-loss plateau, she shifted gears entirely. “I changed the way I worked out or changed my eating routine,” she says. “Then I focus on why I started and how far I'd go if I didn't give up.”\r\n\r\nMayra Arias, 35\r\nLaguna Beach, California\r\n\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 135 pounds\r\n\r\n18. Cook a week’s worth of food in one go. “It’s the best way to stay on track,” Arias says. “I had no excuses to go off plan when I had my food ready to heat up.” Some of her favorites include egg roll in a bowl, chicken broccoli Alfredo bake, one-pan salmon with veggies, and chicken parmesan.\r\n\r\nSuzanne Ryan, 35\r\nSan Francisco Bay Area, California\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 120 pounds\r\n\r\n19. Build confidence with baby steps. “One small step kicked off some bigger changes and confidence in my ability to stick to something,” The first change Ryan made: swapping soda for flat or sparkling water. “Small changes can lead to big results—so if you’re feeling overwhelmed, start with one thing, then add on.”\r\n\r\n20. Stay in your lane. “Do what works for you and don’t compare yourself to others,” she says. “Everyone is different and there is no one-size-fits-all approach.”\r\n\r\nShanna Fichera, 31\r\nCamarillo, California\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 110 pounds\r\n\r\n21. Start small. \"I began walking or jogging for 15 minutes a day. I worked up to 30 minutes, and then increased it again. It was a very gradual process.\"\r\n\r\n22. Don't give up when your weight loss plateaus. \"I remember hitting the first plateau and feeling so defeated, but you have to push through and keep putting in the effort for your plan to work. You can't get discouraged.\"\r\n\r\nBrianna Blank, 22\r\nWestbrook, Connecticut\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 150 pounds\r\n\r\n23. Find a healthy meal you like, and eat it all the time. \"In college, I researched the food available in the dining hall to find the healthiest options and settled on a turkey sandwich with whole-wheat bread and mustard. I was so focused on achieving my goals that it didn't even feel repetitive.\"\r\n\r\nMaria Gordon, 31\r\nUpper Marlboro, Maryland\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 104 pounds\r\n\r\n24. Start with one small change. \"I realized that a lot of sugar and calories that I consumed came from drinks, so I challenged myself to drink only water for 30 days.\r\n\r\n25. Make your old favorites healthier. \"I've always loved burgers and fries, so I also started making healthier versions of foods that were familiar to me, like turkey burgers with wheat bread and sweet potato fries.\"\r\n\r\n26. Prepare for heavy meals. \"When I know I'm going out for dinner, where I'll probably want to eat extra calories, I eat lighter meals throughout the day, like a smoothie for breakfast and a salad for lunch.\"\r\n\r\nAlyssa Ann Heidemann, 34\r\nSioux Falls, South Dakota\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 131 pounds\r\n\r\n27. Swap out snacks that don't serve you. \"I used to snack on chips, candy bars, and other junk food throughout the day, but now I [make healthier choices] six times a day. My new snacks include protein bars or shakes, pistachios, celery sticks with PB2 (a lower-fat peanut butter), and low-fat string cheese.\"\r\n\r\n28. Double down on veggies if you're unsatisfied after eating a snack or meal. \"If I'm still hungry, I turn to vegetables rather than junk food.\"\r\n\r\n29. Pack snacks for late nights at work. \"At my heaviest weight, my downfall was eating fast food on my way home from work at 9:30 or 10 p.m. Now I bring food and snacks to work so when I get home I'm not starving and feel more in control.\"\r\n\r\n30. Say no to free refills. \"I used to drink diet and regular pop regularly. When restaurants gave me refill after refill, I would lose track of how much I drank. Now I ask for water instead of pop, which I've given up altogether.\"\r\n\r\nSara Lugger, 39\r\nOxford, Michigan\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 149 pounds\r\n\r\n31. Move during your lunch break. \"During my lunch, I'll walk on the treadmill at work or outside for 30 to 40 minutes.\"\r\n\r\n32. Stash snacks everywhere. \"I carry protein bars in my purse and car. This way, I fend off hunger so I don't overeat later.\"\r\n\r\n33. Eat more often. \"I switched from three meals a day to six small meals a day.\"\r\n\r\n34. Split restaurant meals with a friend. \"When I share meals, I end up eating smaller portions without being tempted by leftovers on my plate. If I don't have a person to split a meal with, I immediately put half of the portion I'm served into a takeout box.\"\r\n\r\nStephanie Aromando, 31\r\nSandyston, New Jersey\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: ~100 pounds\r\n\r\n35. Lift weights to lose weight. \"While cardio has helped me burn fat, power-lifting has been such a huge part of my success. Lifting heavy weights with a trainer really helped me sculpt my body. After about four months of training, I was able to squat holding 360 pounds—25 more than I weighed when I began my weight-loss journey.\"\r\n\r\n36. Always move, even on rest days. \"I work out six days a week and take an active rest day once a week to hike or take a yoga class.\"\r\n\r\n37. Keep it simple. \"I take a minimalist approach to nutrition: My diet consists of lean protein (chicken breast, egg whites, ground turkey), complex carbs (quinoa, sweet potatoes, oatmeal), healthy fats (coconut oil, almonds, avocados), and leafy green veggies. I eat as clean as I can—locally-grown vegetables, organic when possible, and minimally-processed everything.\"\r\n\r\n38. Shop the perimeter of the grocery store. \"Everything I need is in the produce section, at the meat counter, or in the dairy section. I avoid the center aisles of the grocery store unless looking for specific pantry items, like quinoa or oatmeal.\"\r\n\r\n39. Prepare food in advance. \"I eat five small meals a day, but only prepare them twice a week in big batches so that everything is made and ready to go when I get hungry.\"\r\n\r\n40. Drink all the water. \"I carry a gallon of water with me all day long until it's finished. Dragging it around campus looks ridiculous, but I don't care.\"\r\n\r\nTanisha Shanee Williams, 33\r\nBrooklyn, New York\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 140 pounds\r\n\r\n41. Put on music when you don't feel like going to the gym. \"Being physically active has nothing to do with going to the gym, but moving your body and burning calories is what matters. When I don't want to go, I just turn on my music and either dance or hula hoop with my niece.\"\r\n\r\nJade Socoby, 28\r\nBangor, Maine\r\n\r\nTotal weight loss: 140 pounds\r\n\r\n42. Find a physical activity you actually enjoy. \"Cardio really bores me. Powerlifting is what changed and saved my life.\"\r\n\r\n43. Use tech and other tools to your advantage. \"I started out just by cutting little things like soda out one by one so I wouldn't burn myself out mentally and give up. I then discovered counting calories on MyFitnessPal, which was [a huge help] for me in my weight loss. A few years in, I lost my way a little bit and found Renaissance Periodization diet templates, which helped me rebuild a healthy relationship with food.\"\r\n\r\n44. Eat a mix of carbs and protein at every meal. \"[After I began counting calories], I started tracking macros [fat, protein, and carbs] and my body started changing even more, for the better.\"\r\n","type":"story","field_meta_title":null,"field_meta_description":null,"field_meta_keyword":null,"image":"https://akm-img-a-in.tosshub.com/sites/cosmo/sites/default/files/2020-01/Screenshot%202020-01-25%20at%203.10.54%20PM.png?xl25C7rMa0_eTzomEwOwWAQktKjgS8o0","field_editory_by":null,"path":"/life/features/a19448/44-weight-loss-tips-women-who-have-lost-100-pounds","created":"25 January 2020 ","time_created":"2020-01-25T13:00:00+05:30","field_section":"Life","field_section_url":"/life","field_content_type":"Features","notes":"http://www.cosmopolitan.com/health-fitness/advice/a41863/tips-for-losing-weight/","notes_syn":"Cosmopolitan","userData_node":null,"userData":null,"field_first_name":null,"authorpath":null,"userPicUrl":null},{"nid":"19449","title":"22 Sweet Valentine’s Day Dates That’ll Melt Your Little Heart","field_dek":"Feel free to steal these for your own perfect Valentine’s date.\r\n","modified":"2020-01-25 09:39:18","status":"1","field_full_dek":"Valentine’s Day can be one of the most romantic holidays, but like all things romantic, it can sometimes require a bit of coordination and preplanning. Even if you’re on a budget, there’s no reason your Valentine’s Day can’t be as memorable and cute for you and your partner. After all, what really matters is spending the day with people you love and who love you back. A romantic dinner reservation is a classic for a reason, but if you’re looking for inspiration on how to create and plan the most romantic Valentine’s Day date ever, here are 22 stories from real women on how to make ~magic~ happen.\r\n\r\n1. “My boyfriend jokingly used to complain how men don’t get the same treatment as women on Valentine’s Day by receiving cards and chocolates, so I decided to surprise him by making an edible arrangement of bacon roses and I gave it to him in the morning before waking up so he could have breakfast in bed. I also gave him a card where I wrote down the biggest surprise of all: tickets to a helicopter tour of our city. Ten years later, we are still together, got married, and that is still one of the best Valentine’s Days we’ve ever had.” —Rachel, 29\r\n\r\n2. “Several years ago, my boyfriend at the time (now husband) earned major points on Valentine’s Day. First, he dropped me off at a salon to get my hair and nails done. Then, he picked me up and brought me to his place and made me dinner. From there, we went to a comedy club and laughed the night away. It was such a thoughtful date that I will remember forever.” —Jacqui, 28\r\n\r\n3. “The cutest Valentine’s Day idea that I had was making a time capsule for our first Valentine’s Day as a married couple. In three years, we get to open it up and we’ll get to relive so many great memories.” —Alyssa, 31\r\n\r\n4. “My partner’s birthday is the day after Valentine’s, and our anniversary is just two weeks later, so for our first Valentine’s together, I wanted to do something special. I’m a firm believer in more is more, so I surprised her with a trip to New York. I booked an incredible dinner at this cute Japanese place in Brooklyn, we hit MoMA, had Sunday brunch, it was really fun. The only bad part was it was below 10 degrees the whole time, but the rest was a blast!” —Elizabeth, 29\r\n\r\n5. “This year for Valentine’s Day, my boyfriend and I are planning to celebrate a little differently than most. We are both individually very serious about getting out of student loan debt in one to two years, so we’ve discussed the possibility of adding an extra couple hundred dollars onto our February debt payments so we can get that much closer to becoming debt-free. To me, it’s so sweet because it’s so us!” —Joanna, 23\r\n\r\n6. “In college, my boyfriend went out and bought a bottle of champagne, two glass champagne flutes, and chocolates and flowers for me. I got him cigars and chocolate cigars. We still lived in the dorms but his roommate had moved out, so we took both mattresses and put them side by side on the floor to make one giant, super bed. We drank champagne, ate lasagna, and watched A Walk to Remember from the floor on the super bed. All these years later, I still have the boyfriend, the champagne flutes, and the cork from the bottle that night. We use the flutes every Valentine’s Day.” —Rebecca, 26\r\n\r\n7. “We’re broke and in our early 20s, and we do NOT spend a lot of money. But on Valentine’s Day, we like to go out to eat for dinner, wherever we want, and buy whatever TF we want. Our normal $30 to $40 bill is about $120 with multiple drinks, apps, main courses, and desserts. We just treat ourselves and I love every minute of it.” —Santina, 22\r\n\r\n8. “The guy I was casually hooking up with—not even really dating—surprised me by making a reservation at a trendy restaurant in our city. The weather that day was extremely cold, but we layered on coats and went out anyway. When we got to the restaurant, they had lost our reservation and didn’t have anything available for a few hours. We ended up going to a dive bar around the corner, sharing some beers, and having a super laid-back dinner at a restaurant with a prix fixe menu and open seating. It was all super unexpected, and just being together—even if we were hungry and freezing—made me realize this was waaay more than a hookup thing.” —Caitlin, 25\r\n\r\n9. “One of my favorite Valentine’s Day memories is when my boyfriend decided to make a home-cooked meal. He surprised me with a dozen roses, a giant fuzzy heart with chocolate inside, and a handmade card. We didn’t have much money back then and he still lived with his parents, so he brought up a bunch of chairs to his room and used his nightstand as our table. He also lit candles, put on Frank Sinatra, and opened a bottle of Moët. We spent the rest of the night watching the first movie we ever saw together and playing video games. It was the best.” —Riley, 20 \r\n\r\n10. “One year, my girlfriend surprised me with a super-romantic wine-tasting tour. It was such a shock because I never even thought about wineries being open during the colder months, but many are! We had such a fun time getting tipsy and drinking delicious wine together, then we took the train home, watched a movie on our laptop, and had a nice dinner together. And I got to be in bed early, which is honestly my favorite thing.” — Sarah, 27\r\n\r\n11. “You really can’t go wrong with breakfast in bed, which also happens to be the best Valentine’s Day I ever had. My husband makes me chocolate chip pancakes with extra chocolate chips just the way I like them, and I don’t get up until noon. I look forward to this day literally all year!” —Tina, 30\r\n\r\n12. “The best Valentine’s Day I’ve had was the first one with my boyfriend. We knew it was supposed to snow later that day, so we had to alter the plans we’d previously made to go to an extravagant dinner at a fancy restaurant and instead chose to go out to brunch and spend the rest of the day at home. We exchanged gifts after brunch and spent the afternoon simply being together and enjoying our uninterrupted time. That night, we made a delicious dinner at home and watched many corny Valentine’s Day movies. It was perfect because it was simply us spending time together and enjoying the love between two people.” —Rachel, 21 \r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n13. “We started the evening by cooking a meal together and it was amazing. Getting to create something romantic together was beautiful. After we finished dinner, he brought us to the same place where we had our first date, Hyde Park, and we held hands while we walked around. At the end of the night, he surprised me by booking a hotel room. When we got there, he had my favorite kind of chocolates lying out on the bed. It was so simple yet so perfect. Best Valentine’s Day ever.” —Isabel, 20\r\n\r\n14. “My long-distance boyfriend was too busy with his new job to visit me regularly, but on Valentine’s Day, he mailed me a plane ticket and told me to come and visit him. He even rented a hotel so we could be alone without his roommates. When we got there, he’d laid roses all over the bed and there was champagne and fluffy robes. We ended up ditching dinner reservations and stayed in all night with room service. It was like a movie.” —Amanda, 21\r\n\r\n15. “My boyfriend at the time had left the cheesiest teddy bear in front of my dorm room on Valentine’s Day along with a note that said, ‘I’ll pick you up for dinner at 6. Dress warm!’ We ended up having a super-romantic peanut butter and jelly sandwich dinner with a bottle of wine on this giant hill that overlooks our campus. It was probably the sweetest date ever!” —Kelly, 20\r\n\r\n16. “My high school boyfriend asked me to come over to his house on Valentine’s Day weekend to help him with chemistry homework, which I thought was really weird because he was taking chemistry classes and I was obviously not, but I didn’t hesitate to come by. I went to knock on his front door and there was a note saying ‘walk in’ on it. I walked into his house and heard my favorite sappy love song playing, and [there was] a huge trail of rose petals leading into his living room, where he was sitting with all my favorite things. There were candles and Disney stuffed animals and it was so romantic. Even though we’re not still together, it will definitely be my top Valentine’s Day memories!” —Jessica, 21\r\n\r\n17. “I was out of town on business on Valentine’s Day and my boyfriend was really bummed about it because apparently he had this whole big thing planned. When I came home a week later, he ended up making a whole Valentine’s Day meal and celebration anyway. He cooked steak and even bought a super-sweet cake that said ‘Happy (kind of) Valentine’s Day.’ He also got me flowers and chocolate. It was so sweet, especially because he sucks at keeping secrets and I had no idea he was planning this.” —Sally, 23\r\n\r\n18. “Last year was the first Valentine’s Day my long-distance boyfriend and I got to celebrate together in person. He came to visit me on Valentine’s Day and we went on an amazing hike. When we got to the top of the mountain, it had a beautiful view and we got to sit down and eat a late lunch together while watching the incredible sunset. Before we hiked back down, he grabbed my hand and told me he wanted to be together forever and gave me a promise ring. I was so surprised!” —Lauren, 21 \r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n19. “My boyfriend and I had made plans to go out for dinner, but we waited too late to make reservations. He told me to leave it up to him and that he would find us a place. The morning of Valentine’s Day, he showed up to my house with roses, bags full of groceries, and told me that he was making me dinner instead of going out. I was a little hesitant at first about him cooking because he had never done it before, but it turned out pretty well. He made some really yummy enchiladas, and best of all, I didn’t even need to get dressed up. Afterward, we cuddled and watched a movie. It wasn’t the most extravagant date but it was the sweetest.” —Michelle, 22\r\n\r\n20. “The most memorable Valentine’s Day was when I showed up at my boyfriend’s house and he led me downstairs to his basement, where he’d prepared an indoor picnic. He knew I was tired from my week and didn’t feel like going out, so we stayed in. He doesn’t really cook, so he went around buying all my favorite foods from different restaurants like chicken and beef skewers, Indian bread, and chicken Caesar salad. I was so surprised because I’d never actually told him my favorite foods, but he’d figured it out from the times we went out to eat. Then for dessert, he made chocolate-covered strawberries. We ended the date by watching the movie we watched on our first date. It brought back memories of when we first started dating and we were both so nervous that we didn’t hold hands until the very end. There were no dimly lit mood candles or expensive presents, but it made a lasting impression on my heart.” —Kim, 21\r\n\r\n21. “My boyfriend’s birthday is only a couple of days before Valentine’s Day, so usually we skip celebrating V-Day. But a couple of years ago, we decided to go up to the Hudson Valley for the weekend and celebrate. There was a big snowstorm and we were trapped inside for a lot of it, but the house was beautiful and we got to snuggle and escape from the world. It was magical. 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Woman Admits Being an Influencer Left Her In Huge Debt

"I wanted to keep up with my online persona"

One brave influencer, Lissette Calveiro, with a following of over 37,000 on Instagram, has opened up about how trying to keep up with the online persona she created for herself, ultimately left her in $10,000 worth of debt (roughly ₹ 620000).

 

Writing candidly for The Metro's Debt Diaries series, Lissette revealed how she first became hooked on the Insta-world after moving to New York to become an intern at a press agency. "Every day, I found myself refreshing my social media news feeds to see what the next trend was, where were the latest influencers eating and hanging out, and what were they wearing?" She then started adopting that lifestyle herself and growing her own following.

 

But her influencer lifestyle came at a cost, explains Lissette. Her expenditures included "constant online shopping for a closet that enabled me to ‘never repeat an outfit’ for a picture, endless Açai bowls and brunches and a need to feed my newly acquired travel bug without consideration of the potential risks of being in debt – all to show off to my newfound followers."

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

LIKE this post if you are OK with Likes going away 👀 I’ve gotten this question a hundred times over the last week and it’s been so interesting to hear everyone’s perspective. I am totally indifferent with @instagram hiding likes. . INFLUENCER POV: If you have self esteem issues with your likes, the problem isn’t actually addressed since YOU can still see how many likes you’re getting. And trust me, it will go down even harder. Doesn’t seem like it’s fixing the problem, but it is eliminating the comparison game so there’s a plus up on that. . MARKETER POV: We are not going to stop working with influencers because Likes go away. In fact, Likes are probably on the lower end of the totem pole of what we care about. The “media value” of a Like is 11 cents, compared to the value of a Comment or Save which is $4+!! A Like is such a passive way of engaging that it can’t say much about the consumer. I am also looking at Reach and Impressions to see how much of your audience we’re actually capturing. Stories are a different ballgame, but we’ll save that for another day. . USER POV: As a leisurely user of the platform, I wish that Likes functioned like @tiktok where a tap meant that content was essentially bookmarked so I can come back and see what I liked. I also want them to bring back being able to see what others are liking as it helped for discovery of content and new accounts. . TELL ME YOUR THOUGHTS 👇🏽

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Despite having a seemingly glamorous, jet set lifestyle, the social media favourite was funding it through her internship salary, savings and credit cards (as well as posting about any free trips, events or products she received), giving little thought to the consequences. It was only after three years that Lissette says she stepped back and realised exactly how high a bill she'd run up, saying she was "shocked, scared, and disappointed".

 

Realising the extent of her money woes forced Lissette to scale back and move to a cheaper apartment, until she was able to pay off the debts. She also changed her online persona to be more honest about her financial situation, sharing money-saving tips along the way, while making use of the brand endorsements, to live a debt-free, more authentic life.