12 Tips to Make Your Boring Relationship All The More Exciting

Crossed the honeymoon phase yet? If you have, things aren't gonna seem all hot and scorching no more. However, while it's common for things to cool down a bit post the newness, you want to make sure your relationship doesn't slip into the 'boring zone'. Uncertainty and the getting-to-know-each other process is what fuels the initial adrenaline and spark in the relationship, and although they may seem to wear off over time, there are secret ways in which you can déjà vu to all the excitement and passion!

"You need to keep in mind that the things that attract you about your partner today are the same things that you'll despise in 3 years' time. To put it bluntly, what used to be a sweet voice may sound like noise and what used to be spontaneous romantic behaviour may cause unnecessary irritation," states Dr Kumar, Psychologist. "By virtue of nature we are always on the lookout for change, and a serious 2-3 year relationship doesn't usually have much novelty to offer," he adds. 

All said and done, while the romance is bound to tone down over time, there are ways you can overcome relationship boredom.

1. SHARE each other’s joy. Your partner should be the first person you want to share good news with. Celebrate your achievements with them and create happy memories that will last for a lifetime!

2. VERBALISE your feelings. Whatever may be the problem at hand, communicating and discussing it with your partner is part of the overarching solution. Refrain from being defensive and try to take the criticism constructively.

3. STEP OUT of your comfort zone together. Try something new and adventurous and taste success and failure together! Go sky-diving, take a class together, or even spice things up under the sheets.

4. Go BACK TO BASICS and begin something from scratch to attain a new experience from the old things. Why not consider re-decorating your living space all over again? 

5. BREAK THE MONOTONY through weekly outings. Catch a movie at the nearby theater, go for a candlelight dinner-date, play your favourite board game, indulge in a musical karaoke session, or even binge-watch a series on the couch with some cheese popcorn! The sky is truly the limit. By frequently switching up the place of togetherness, you may enjoy the time spent with one another a little more.

6. Keep the element of SURPRISE alive. Surprise your partner from time to time in a variety of ways. An exciting gift, a weekend getaway, anything really. This will serve as a reminder of exactly how much you love bringing joy to your significant other, and vice versa. It's important to make each other feel valued, time and again. 

7. Give equal importance to SEXUAL WELLNESS and intimacy, in order to strike a healthy balance in your relationship. Intimacy and passion is an integral aspect of every relationship that needs to be well understood and deliberated upon.

8. NON-SEXUAL TOUCH is important as well. A tight hug, holding hands, massage, these small acts of love can certainly boost your relationship. Take it as - a hug a day could keep the doctor away!

9. SPEND TIME with friends or couples who have a successful relationship. Do ensure that you don't seek relationship advice from those who are already suffering from relationship issues.

10. WORK ON YOURSELF first, before seeking change in your partner. Relationship satisfaction is directly proportional to personal satisfaction. So begin with loving yourself first. Relationships are the most beautiful when you love yourself as much as your partner does!

11. Keep an open and fair CHANEL OF COMMUNICATION. Discuss and plan your dreams and goals together. 

12. Don’t hesitate to ask for EXTERNAL HELP. Consult your friends or undergo marriage counselling if required, if you find yourself struggling to fix the pieces of your relationship by yourself.