There are simple sexual practices that you and your partner can indulge in to add some kink to the bed. And spanking is one of them. It makes for a great way to pleasure the partner—everything from the sound of the spank to the release of hormones such as dopamine, adrenaline, oxytocin and endorphins make it incredibly arousing.
If done well, spanking can play an instrumental role in spicing up your sex sesh. But it's important to strike that sweet spot between pain and pleasure to make spanking an experience full of passion. Here’s how to do it right.
It’s always a great idea to have a conversation with your loved one before you try it out. It would help if you discussed how you want to do it and what they are comfortable with. Let your partner tell you how hard they want to be spanked on a scale of 1 to 10 so you can test things out for yourself when you’re doing it. Set clear boundaries and remember, sex is great when there is trust involved.
Where can you spank
The best place to start is the butt. You can also consider areas near the back, the sides by the hips, the underside of the butt cheeks and the middle part. It’s always good to spank from the bottom as it sends vibrations that can bring more stimulation and lubrication. Plus, the increased blood flow through the whole area causes intense arousal. Another underrated, and rather unknown area, is the area between the bottom of the butt cheeks and the top of the thighs. Avoid areas that aren’t protected by any fat or muscle.
Allowing skin-to-skin contact is a great way to connect with each other while having sex. However, it's important to start with lower intensity to see how much your partner can receive it. When you spank someone, blood gets drawn to the surface of the skin making the area really sensitive. So once you’ve figured out the sweet spots, stroke them or tickle them to make things better.
Communicate while being spanked
While reading your partner’s body language takes time, having them talk about how they’re feeling and what they want you to do to them makes the experience better and more intense. It’s important to know if you should keep up the pace, slow things down or speed up.
There’s a power dynamic involved in spanking—one partner willingly gives the other the power to spank them. This power exchange can be exhilarating and empowering for both partners, creating a more intimate bond.
What do you do after the spanking?
Spanking can get emotionally and physically intense due to the spike in adrenaline and endorphins released. Thus, you and your partner need to cool down after any spanking or BDSM experience. This could include cuddling, providing water and food, and checking in with each other to ensure that both partners are feeling safe and comfortable.