So Was It a Date? How to Find Out...

It’s Not a Date If…

1. You have company.

Unless you’re 16 or a contestant on The Bachelor, group dates are not a thing. If you show up and his friends are also present, go to the loo and take off your Spanx, because this isn’t a date.

2. He brings up his ex… Several times.

If his ex is mentioned more often than your water is refilled by your waiter, this guy is probably more interested in hearing a woman’s perspective on why she left him than in seeing you naked anytime soon.

3. You keep wondering if you’ll make it home in time for The Mindy Project.

It may look like a date and it may act like a date, but if you find yourself wishing you were home with Mindy, it’s certainly not a good date.

It is a Date If...

1. He insists on paying.

It’s the simplest way for a guy to say, 'I like you and want you to think I’m a gentleman,' without saying it. In other words, if he likes it, then he’ll want to put a dinner in it.

2. He CHOOSES WISELY.

If he picks a place nicer than a sports bar, it’s probably a date. If it’s a restaurant with tablecloths and candles, it’s likely a date. If it’s a French restaurant, it’s absolutely a date. Even reading the menu is seductive.

3. It was only supposed to be an afternoon coffee…

Which turned into dinner...which turned into drinks. And yes, you have work tomorrow, but you can’t tear yourself away—7 a.m. alarm be damned. This isn’t just a date, girl, it’s the start of something good!