I met my twin flame and we burned bright—but fate had other plans

Have you ever experienced a sudden jolt of romance and electricity when you meet someone for the first time? Strangely, it doesn’t even feel like the first time—there’s a sense of comfort and familiarity, like you’ve known this person all along.

This is usually how a twin flame connection starts—intense, electric, and impossible to ignore. Believed to be two halves of the same soul, twin flames share a powerful, magnetic bond. But unlike the calm, steady energy of soulmates, this connection often brings emotional chaos and inner conflict. Sure, some twin flames do work through their differences and make it last—but for many, the relationship isn’t built to go the distance. It’s not about the fairytale ending; it’s about the transformation. Think personal growth through emotional turbulence, not lifelong partnership. In many ways, the universe sends you your twin flame to help you face unresolved patterns, clear karmic debts, and evolve. And that’s a powerful love story in its own right.

The first meeting

Stumbling into a dreamy romance on the first date feels surreal. It’s easy to get swept away, especially in a world where real connection feels increasingly rare. That’s exactly what happened to me. 

On a chilly December evening, I met a beady-eyed boy for a date, and from that moment on, I was completely swept off my feet. We talked for hours about life, cinema, art, and everything in between, until it was time to leave. One thing was for sure: the intellectual chemistry was undeniable.

Reluctant to end the date, we chose to walk around for a bit. Unable to get past this undeniable connection, one of us decided to address it: him. Then began a saga of long phone calls, unending WhatsApp chats and weekly meet-ups. The excitement of a freshly brewing romance was addictive. 

Twin flames are combustible

Days turned into weeks, and weeks into months—a blissful period that prevailed until fate chose to pull the brakes on our “perfect” equation. What started as a tiny misunderstanding snowballed into a string of exhausting arguments, and we went from finishing each other’s sentences to constantly trying to prove the other person wrong, snatching away the very essence of relationships—mutual understanding

And that’s the thing about twin flames. They’re intense, magnetic, and all-consuming—so how can the relationship not burn to flames?

The aftermath

The highs of being with your twin flame are exhilarating, but the lows are just as devastating. Being torn apart from your twin flame feels like a thousand bandages being ripped off your body at the same time. Losing a twin flame isn’t just a breakup—it’s a soul-tearing kind of loss.

I’ve experienced my share of heartbreaks, but this one felt like something deeper—like a part of me had been ripped away. Maybe it was. After all, twin flames are said to be two halves of the same soul brought together by fate, only to sometimes lose each other again. 

As for me, it felt like my entire life had come to a standstill. It felt like daggers being plunged into my chest, twisted for effect. Dramatic? Maybe. But if you know, you know.

The silver lining

However, there’s always a silver lining when it comes to a twin flame connection. It’s something else entirely. The love is intense, you just get each other (until you don’t), and suddenly, you’re levelling up in life—maybe even landing that dream job, thanks to them. It feels fated, like this incredible bond was meant to be. In fact, my ex was one of my biggest support systems when I launched my own venture. A part of me truly believes he was meant to show up for that chapter—and he did, ever so beautifully.

But let’s be real, it’s rarely smooth sailing. A twin flame relationship is a full-blown rollercoaster of growth. It stretches you in ways you never expected. And often, as powerful as it feels, it comes with an expiration date. They enter your life to shake things up, teach you major lessons—and then, the paths often split. And that’s okay. There’s no need for bitterness, just a deep appreciation for the role they played. You walk away stronger, more self-aware, and maybe even a little wiser. Sure, the idea of a peaceful soulmate sounds great in the long run, but there’s a wild, beautiful magic in the firestorm that is a twin flame. Because while a soulmate might walk in when you’ve done the work, a twin flame is often the one who sparks that transformation in the first place. 

In the end, obsessing over labels is pointless. Every relationship shapes us. Take what it gave you, hold the lesson close, and keep moving forward. That’s the real journey.

Lead image credit: Netflix 

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