It happened! You broke up with the guy you thought you would spend seven lifetimes with. How you wish you could snap out of it like flicking through shows on Netflix. But the truth is it hurts!
You can delete his photos and number from your phone, block him on social media, severe all contact but it’s the mind that plays games. It refuses to stop thinking about him and the good times you have both spent together. Usually this is followed by analysis and self doubt, you wonder if there was something wrong in you. To make things easier for you, we have come up with a plan. We looked up for the best tips from relationship counsellors, authors and dating experts and collated a few that will help you clear your mind and eventually move on. Scroll down to find out.
Distract yourself, staying busy would take your mind off him
Pick up a new hobby, it works! You need to use all that pent up energy to create something. The process of creation can be quite healing. “Not only can a new project serve as a distraction, but it may also reveal undiscovered talents,” says Bianca Williams, author of the romance series Sidelined. So if you have been planning to take those guitar lessons, write a book or develop a new app, let your emotional “Whether it’s writing a book, developing a new app…now is the time to do it.
Write it all down
Writing is therapeutic. If we want to get rid of those thoughts in your mind, put them on paper. It will help ease your mind.
Indulge in self care
You need to be kind to yourself. You know how tough it can be to get through the end of a relationship. So show yourself some TLC. Book that spa session, take a holiday, or get a makeover.
Get rid of things that remind you of him
If you want to stop thinking about them, you need to throw away the things that bring back their memories. “Our thoughts are generated by triggers that remind us of an actual experience, individual, previous event,” says psychotherapist Nicholas Hardy. It could be a certain show, gifts that they gave you, a particular restaurant or gym. It's essential to consciously distance yourself from all kind of triggers.
Do not underestimate the power of a workout
Dr Bhavna Barmi, a Delhi-based clinical psychologist, says, “Exercise, go for a run or a walk, meditate, do some yoga. Workouts can do wonders to your self-esteem.” They also release the happy hormones that will perk up your mood.
You need to grieve to get over
We feel, we should stay strong through heartbreak, but the truth is, we need to live through it. It is important to really understand and accept the circumstances that led to heartbreak. “Take some time off and cry to your heart’s content. Grieve, because it is the first and most important step to healing. You’ll feel better after letting it all out,” says Dr Barmi. Once you've allowed yourself to fully feel all the things, you might find that you have nothing left to feel or replay in your head.