A beginner’s guide to mirror sex

You and your partner might have a sex life that compares to Samantha’s from Sex and The City, but even if you know their body like you know the way around your own house, there is nothing wrong with expanding your sex resume. And while all the high-grade vibrators and various techniques (we’re talking temperature play or role-playing) are excellent ways to do that, there is something more effortless that will probably get you better results. We’re talking about something you use daily—mirrors. 

Sure, if you’ve never thought about mirrors as a prop in sex, it could sound a wee bit narcissistic and awkward. But you’ll be surprised at how many possibilities a simple mirror presents to amp up your sex life. 

What is mirror sex?  

Mirror sex is just what it sounds sex—getting turned on by having your ‘sexy time’ in front of a mirror. There is something so arousing about watching yourself and your partner perform intimate acts on each other. And there are so many reasons for this.  

From toeing the line of voyeurism and exhibitionism to watching your partner experience pleasure from a whole new perspective, mirrors have major potential as a tool that spices things up between the sheets. You can see your partner from all angles rather than your usual vantage point. This increases the levels of intimacy between couples and is extremely erotic. You can see how much your partner truly desires you and pick up on a few moves that you didn’t know turned them on. Watching each other increases sexual confidence, helps foster communication in the bedroom, and even makes you feel safe.   

We get it, you might have concerns. Sometimes it’s difficult to even look at yourself fully dressed in the mirror without a thousand self-doubts popping into your mind, let alone watching yourself naked with another person doing unspeakable things. And there's a chance, you might not always like what you see. It happens to us all and it can be extremely daunting at first, but mirror sex can actually help improve your body confidence. It’s like watching yourself from your partner’s viewpoint and how much they are enjoying your body. It can be a huge confidence boost and can encourage you to let go of all your apprehensions and just enjoy the moment. 

How you can put your mirror to good use 

It’s all about experimentation. Of course, you can’t start by nailing a gigantic mirror to your ceiling. Find a lightweight, portable mirror that you can move around until you find the sweet spot. Put it in different positions around your room to see what works best for you’ll. You could also find a hand-held mirror to see the parts in action (IYKYK!) and even take it into the shower. If your mirror can’t be moved, you can always throw some pillows on the floor, lay out a blanket and get to it right there on the floor. And on days you’ll are feeling slightly more adventurous, use the platform and mirror in your bathroom! 

 
However, just keep in mind that mirrors are easily breakable and have the potential to hurt someone. So, go slow and build up the intensity gradually but be careful. Now that we have issued this warning, let’s get down to the hottest positions to try out in front of the mirror.  

Doggy Style  

Doggy style is perfect to do in front of a mirror. While your partner is penetrating, tilt your head sideways and enjoy the show. However, to get the full advantage of the mirror, position yourselves slightly sideways so you watch your whole body and not just stare at your face. You get to see every thrust, every move while you’re on all fours and your partner is admiring your arched back. The mirror ensures that both of you’ll get to watch the action!

Cowgirl 

Cowgirl is one of the most classic and pleasurable positions, and it can get better when you add a mirror to the equation. You can ride your partner adjacent to the mirror and both of you’ll tilt your heads and watch or if you’re feeling particularly raunchy, have him lie down perpendicular to the mirror so you can watch yourself grind on him. Now, doesn’t that sound hot? The same logic can be used for reverse cowgirl too!  

Standing  

One of the most obvious choices for mirror sex, standing directly against the mirror while your partner is penetrating you from behind. You can watch each other more intensely and get an up, close and personal view!