How to keep your initial dating phase a secret? Learn from Monica and Chandler

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How to keep your initial dating phase a secret? Learn from Monica and Chandler

You know how when you start seeing someone new and things seem to be going really well, you have this urge to not tell anyone about it, because you’re afraid you’ll jinx it? Well, that’s exactly what Monica Geller and Chandler Bing believed when they began secretly dating. And let’s be honest, sneaking around adds to the excitement of your newly blossoming relationship. 

So if you find yourself in a new relationship and are wondering just how you can keep it all hush-hush, don’t worry we’re here to help. Here’s how you can keep your relationship under wraps. 

Change their name on your contact list 

A more subtle way to keep your romance under wraps is to rename their contact on your phone. For example, you could change ‘Aniket’ to ‘Ankita’ (we know it’s cliche, but well, that’s what it takes). Now Chandler and Monica did not have this option considering they relied on landlines, but you can certainly consider it. Just think about it; if you alter their contact name completely, there’s no way for anyone to know until you’re ready for the big reveal.

Sneak around at night 

That’s what Chandler and Monica did when they wanted to see each other; they snuck around at night. It’s when everyone goes to sleep, and you can have the silence of the night to yourselves. So, try making plans at night instead of during the day. And if you’re a night owl, this is just perfect for you! 

You have to resist the urge to post them on social media 

A challenging task indeed, given we live in the digital age, where most of us live our lives on social media. But if you want to keep your relationship a secret, you’re going to have to resist the urge to post about them on your social media. You’ll have to suppress every desire you have to post a cutesy love song about them.

PDA is out of the box 

If you want to keep your relationship a secret, you have to realise that public displays of affection are a complete no-no. No matter how tempted you are. We know it’s hard but this happens to be one of the downsides of being in a relationship that is a secret.

Make sure that youre both in sync 

Now, if you don’t want to get caught, make sure that you are both in sync with the excuses you are making, especially if you’re in the same friend group or team at work. Remember what happened when Monica and Chandler kept using the same excuse of “doing laundry,” they got caught! You also want to ensure that you are both on the same page about where you want the relationship to go, so you can both expect the same things.

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