Everything Benny Blanco said that proves why he's the ultimate boo

When Selena Gomez soft-launched her relationship with Benny Blanco in late 2023, fans were surprised. The pairing seemed unexpected—after all, Blanco, a successful producer with a goofy charm and a dishevelled "boy-next-door" vibe, wasn’t exactly who people pictured next to the multi-hyphenate pop star who’s dated her fair share of Hollywood heartthrobs. But flash forward a few months, and it’s clear: Benny Blanco isn’t just a rebound or a placeholder—he’s the green-flag boyfriend we didn’t see coming, but Gomez absolutely did.

Their relationship timeline has been refreshingly low-key. After years of friendship and professional collaboration, the two sparked dating rumours in late 2023—rumours that Gomez later confirmed herself with a series of loved-up comments and selfies on Instagram. Since then, the couple has stayed out of the tabloid chaos but very much in love—and we mean very. From red carpet PDA to candid moments on social media, their bond feels grounded, playful, and real.

And while the internet may have taken a second to warm up to Blanco, his recent interviews have won over even the toughest critics. Why? Because every single thing he says about Gomez screams emotional maturity, real love, and a deep, intentional partnership. From calling her his "best friend" to talking about the little things—like saying "I love you" before bed—Blanco’s green-flag energy is off the charts.

So, if you’re looking for a blueprint on how to actually treat someone right, let these quotes from Benny Blanco be your guide.

"...I worship the ground she walks on..."

There’s no ambiguity in how Benny feels—he’s direct, open, and unafraid to express admiration. It’s the kind of unapologetic affection that feels rare and refreshing.

"I have a true best friend that I get to do everything in the world with, and every day is the best day of my life."

Beyond the romance, there’s real friendship at the core of their relationship. It’s a reminder that the strongest couples often start with being each other’s favourite person.

"I could sit in this bed with you for 72 hours and feel like I didn’t miss anything."

In a world that constantly pushes for more, this kind of quiet contentment speaks volumes. Sometimes, just being together is more than enough.

"There’s no ego between us. She’s rooting for me to win, and I’m rooting for her."

Mutual respect and support—without competition—may just be the real modern love story. Their relationship feels like a true partnership, not a performance.

"The number one thing you need to do on a date is just listen to what the person's saying. Don't talk about yourself the whole time."

It’s simple advice, but rarely followed. Benny’s approach to dating—lead with curiosity, not ego—shows emotional awareness that’s often overlooked.

"When I wake up, I think to myself, I’m like, ‘How can I make Selena's day better? What can I do in my day to make her day better?’ Because then that makes my day better."

There’s an intentionality to how he shows up in the relationship—small, thoughtful gestures that reflect genuine care, not performative effort.

"I think people's biggest problem, especially men, is that we don't listen all the time. Just shut up and listen. A woman is going to tell you exactly what she needs. Guys go like, 'I don't know what she wants; I don't know.' She told you already. You're just an idiot. You're not listening. Just listen."

It’s rare to hear a man speak so candidly about emotional labour and communication. Benny’s take is honest, unfiltered—and, frankly, spot on.

"She doesn't need a lot. She's, like, the easiest person in the world. I know that she wants to talk to me before she goes to bed. She wants me to say I love you. She wants me to text her if I wind up having to stay somewhere 2 hours late. Done."

No guesswork, no games—just tuning in and showing up. The way he simplifies love isn’t reductive; it’s respectful.

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