Wish you knew the indisputable secret to a good love life? Zeenat Aman dropped major relationship wisdom, no cap!

Remember the iconic yesteryear actor, Zeenat Aman? Well, she's not just a Bollywood legend but also a love guru now! The actor, known for her grace and candour, recently surprised fans with a double dose of Valentine's Day wisdom—insightful love advice and the revelation that she's currently "dating herself."

Aman's experiences, both personal and romantic, offer invaluable lessons for all, whether you’re single or taken. Here is some of her advice that definitely blew our minds! 

Don't confuse infatuation with love

Aman writes, "Those first few heady months of a relationship will strip you of your reason. That’s usually the ploy of infatuation and lust, don’t mistake it for love!" Those initial fireworks and butterflies in the stomach are exciting, but don't mistake them for lasting love. Look for deeper compatibility—shared values, genuine connection, and the ability to enjoy each day together. Great sex and a fat wallet are nice, but true love means enjoying even the mundane aspects of life with your partner.

If your family says "no" based on labels

She advises that if your family doesn't agree to your choice of partner due to the "matters of caste, class, religion, gender or any other such divisive construct," you must challenge them! She further adds, "But if they dislike your partner for deeper reasons, hear them out. I’m not saying they’re necessarily right… I’m saying that often our loved ones can grant us missing perspective." Aman adds to this advice by saying that she too wished she listened to her mom sometimes.

Be with someone you can enjoy the mundane things with

"In the long run—great sex, a stacked bank account and sweet talk are meaningless if you can’t enjoy the mundane together," Aman writes. 

While passionate moments are exciting, they can't sustain a relationship on their own. True love thrives on shared enjoyment of everyday experiences, from quiet evenings together to running errands or simply talking about your day. Look for someone who makes even the mundane feel special.

Maintain your individuality

In her note, Aman insists that you should preserve who you are and not let a relationship completely change you, "If your partner wants to entirely change you, they don’t love you. They love control." Remember that you were a whole person before your partner came along, and you deserve to stay that way. So, never lose sight of yourself! 

Be financially independent

Zeenat writes on her Instagram, "Having your own income promotes self-respect and prevents any pressure to stay in a relationship out of necessity rather than love." 

Having your own income helps encourage self-respect and prevents any kind of financial dependence on your partner that could lead to manipulation or unhealthy dynamics within the relationship. 

Never stop working on your relationship

"All relationships are work. It’s easy to become the worst version of yourself once you grow too comfortable in your partnership." At the end of the day, it all comes down to how much effort you make for your special person. Every relationship requires mutual effort and understanding and the moment you take it for granted is when all problems arise!  

Importance of self-love

Aman’s current "relationship" with herself highlights the importance of self-love and fulfilment. She writes, "I do for me all the things that a loving, long-term partner would." She further adds, "If you can’t find a person to love you as you deserve, then it should be enough to love yourself."

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